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Jamastiene

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28. How would someone go about doing that and could they instead request their remains

Sun Aug 2, 2020, 04:01 PM

Aug 2020

be disposed of some other way besides sending them back? I thought about donating my body to The Body Farm as an option one time, but how would I make sure they knew of my death and could get my body before my mother swooped in and did whatever she wants with my body? I have a feeling I could try it and the local yocals would ignore my wishes completely and just let my mother do whatever she wants with my body, which still irks me. I wish I had a say.

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Have you or any of your relatives pre-planned your/their funeral? [View all] raccoon Aug 2020 OP

Yup. 2naSalit Aug 2020 #1

Yes, by telling my children: "Cremation. No funeral". marybourg Aug 2020 #2

Yep, hubby & I have discussed in depth with each other & our kids. lark Aug 2020 #3

Me too. jeffreyi Aug 2020 #4

Yup Sherman A1 Aug 2020 #5

Both of my parents (one deceased, one still very much alive) both set out their Mike 03 Aug 2020 #6

Unless you've taken steps to ensure that your family marybourg Aug 2020 #12

They might've. I haven't, and almost certainly won't. Iggo Aug 2020 #7

No. However I'm thinking a risky mountain climbjng trip in difficult area for retrieval might work. CentralMass Aug 2020 #8

My parents who passed away recently at ages 91 and 92, planned and paid for their funerals. skylucy Aug 2020 #9

Giving our bodies to science. 634-5789 Aug 2020 #10

Yes! Dem2theMax Aug 2020 #11

I did doc03 Aug 2020 #13

Cremation, spread my ashes at the river playing Jimmy Buffett's "It's Been A Lovely Cruise" Hestia Aug 2020 #14

Cremation. I'm almost 84 so I am I am starting to save justhanginon Aug 2020 #15

cremation with no religious ceremony Skittles Aug 2020 #21

Yep. Costs a fortune to bring you ointo this world justhanginon Aug 2020 #30

That's the ticket! nancy1942 Aug 2020 #53

My cremation is pre-paid. nancy1942 Aug 2020 #54

My mother has and every time she isn't feeling well, she talks about it Maeve Aug 2020 #16

Nope. Truth is, the closer I get to it, the less I care. Eons of human obsession with death rites... TreasonousBastard Aug 2020 #17

Yes. Been there; done that. procon Aug 2020 #18

Nope. brokephibroke Aug 2020 #19

My mother did. It was truly a gift to me. dhol82 Aug 2020 #20

My mother planned what happens to my body, but no funeral. Jamastiene Aug 2020 #22

Couldn't you move? qwlauren35 Aug 2020 #48

I wish I could. Jamastiene Aug 2020 #59

FYI: If you donate your body to a medical school... Laffy Kat Aug 2020 #23

Good to know. Hoyt Aug 2020 #26

How would someone go about doing that and could they instead request their remains Jamastiene Aug 2020 #28

Ask the crematory whose name and address marybourg Aug 2020 #31

Most medical schools have donation programs. Laffy Kat Aug 2020 #37

That's the way my dad did it. Bantamfancier Aug 2020 #52

Yes. Plan for life, plan for death. MerryBlooms Aug 2020 #24

my pre-plan is: no funeral Skittles Aug 2020 #25

I agree. Ultimately, though, it's about the survivors. Laffy Kat Aug 2020 #38

An alternative.... albacore Aug 2020 #27

OR... a very special alternative.... albacore Aug 2020 #29

No, but I have a couple that I'm looking forward to attending (Does that count?) NurseJackie Aug 2020 #32

Yes but haven't done it yet. ooky Aug 2020 #33

It's in my will. Jeebo Aug 2020 #34

My kids know I want to be cremated. They've already decided to spread my ashes Arkansas Granny Aug 2020 #35

Yup, I told my youngest sister, lots of booze and lots of pot... AmyStrange Aug 2020 #36

It is just me as my son and parents ChazII Aug 2020 #39

yes handmade34 Aug 2020 #40

I told both of my kids MuseRider Aug 2020 #41

Yes, I am almost finished paying it off. I will be near my parents. I will be buried not cremated. katmondoo Aug 2020 #42

My mom gave me a large envelope Olafjoy Aug 2020 #43

Buried at sea. MyNameGoesHere Aug 2020 #44

Yes. We're going with the cheapest option available Generic Brad Aug 2020 #45

Had to do the advance directive before surgery, but since the hospital forgot to ask.. Hekate Aug 2020 #46

Not my funeral qwlauren35 Aug 2020 #47

Yes xmas74 Aug 2020 #49

I know I want to be cremated, but haven't a clue PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2020 #50

Sort of.... Xolodno Aug 2020 #51

I registered with ScienceCare.com to haul me away for free WestLosAngelesGal Aug 2020 #55

I paid for cremation via Neptune society The Blue Flower Aug 2020 #56

Not Exactly RobinA Aug 2020 #57

My parents did years ago--back in the 90s MissMillie Aug 2020 #58

already paid for cremation onethatcares Aug 2020 #60

Yes, for my oldest brother as his POA. Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2020 #61