Have you or any of your relatives pre-planned your/their funeral?

[RobinA]

57. Not Exactly

My father had his financial plans in good shape, but stated no preference for post-death activities because he believed that burial etc. was for the living so we should do what we thought we wanted to. My mother...planning is a crime to her. She wants her ashes spread on their property, an idea that I don't like.

When my father died half the family wanted the ash scattering and I wanted him in the cemetery where the rest of his family is. We did both, burying half of his ashes in the yard and purchasing a plot in the cemetery. When we went to buy the plot, the single plots available I, and his sister who was pro-cemetery, didn't like very much so I asked them about two plots next to each other. This yielded many more options, one of which I really liked. So I took it and decided the second plot would be mine. I paid for my plot and my mother paid for his. My sister and I came up with a headstone we could live with, and he is comfortably at rest. Besides that I have nothing. Although my affairs are somewhat organized, I don't have a will, but my biggest property is my car. Most of my cashola has beneficiaries attached.

I am in the process of getting more organized, because with zillions of passwords and several jobs with money left behind at each in 401ks and the like, things are a bit scattered. Those have been and are being consolidated.