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dmr

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36. Yup, totally agree

Tue Aug 11, 2020, 09:10 AM

Aug 2020

Using it as a catchall term ends up diluting the word. As you say it ultimately reduces its recognition of real racism -- which MUST be addressed.

I don't know about this father. This might have been racist, but I read it as a helicopter dad, one who is overprotective, or perhaps one who dislikes or had a "tummy" reaction to it, so he assigns his issue onto his son. Poor kid. Mom was right.

Always listen to mom.

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Help! I Can't Believe My Son's Friend Fed Him Indian Food Without Calling Me First. [View all] brooklynite Aug 2020 OP

That piece is just dripping with racism and ignorance. hlthe2b Aug 2020 #1

Agree 100% hithe2b Ohiogal Aug 2020 #2

Indeed... just WOW. Zoonart Aug 2020 #4

over protective and naive parents. Pretty common. I got chewed out by my son beachbumbob Aug 2020 #3

Or ask him how he managed to 2naSalit Aug 2020 #42

I used to be addicted to that column. I would read and comment every week bluedye33139 Aug 2020 #5

"Ok everyone, you have your assignments, now fan out... JHB Aug 2020 #6

LOL n/t OneGrassRoot Aug 2020 #17

Yes! 2naSalit Aug 2020 #43

Unless the kid has food allergies, the curry is a non-issue. tanyev Aug 2020 #7

I spent most of my daughter's childhood genxlib Aug 2020 #8

Oh, and yeah genxlib Aug 2020 #9

Oh boy, do I love curry. panader0 Aug 2020 #10

My parents were overprotective, but.. luvs2sing Aug 2020 #11

Imagine believing those letters are real. nt Codeine Aug 2020 #12

. WhiskeyGrinder Aug 2020 #21

I saw a 1930 movie in which spaghetti supposedly gave kids tummyaches. raging moderate Aug 2020 #13

Spicy food hard on small tummies? GulfCoast66 Aug 2020 #14

True. I love spicy food. In Lemoore CA there's a great Mexican Restaurant called Beto's maxrandb Aug 2020 #20

Yeah, the wife and I eat our food very spicy GulfCoast66 Aug 2020 #22

Next time the kid is not going to tell his parents what he ate. hunter Aug 2020 #15

We're not racist. We allow are son to have a friend who's parents are foreigners. OregonBlue Aug 2020 #16

LOL Ohiogal Aug 2020 #26

My mom never paid any attention to what we ate at leftyladyfrommo Aug 2020 #18

No proof the parent in this is a mom obamanut2012 Aug 2020 #69

Just wow. FM123 Aug 2020 #19

We gave our son Indian food Mossfern Aug 2020 #23

Wouldn't relish on chili taste a bit odd ? nt eppur_se_muova Aug 2020 #48

Ha! Mossfern Aug 2020 #57

This is not satire? 3catwoman3 Aug 2020 #24

Those letters are fake. Codeine Aug 2020 #72

Please don't call this "racist". It's screwed up, but this Indian family is one of the... TreasonousBastard Aug 2020 #25

It is racist. hlthe2b Aug 2020 #28

Bullshit! They specifically said they allowed this Indian family into their bubble. They distrust... TreasonousBastard Aug 2020 #29

So, you'd argue a black physician "allowed into the bubble" is not a victim of racism hlthe2b Aug 2020 #51

Huh? The black doctor stopped by a cop was not stopped by the bubble owner... TreasonousBastard Aug 2020 #55

I can't believe you wrote that. The entire concept of allowing their son to have a friend who's OregonBlue Aug 2020 #30

You forgot the "sarcasm" thingy. TreasonousBastard Aug 2020 #33

I agree. nt LAS14 Aug 2020 #32

ROFL greenjar_01 Aug 2020 #46

Yup, totally agree dmr Aug 2020 #36

Having friends who are people of color does not preclude racism Blasphemer Aug 2020 #40

It also doesn't preclude being overprotective and projecting about your kid's tastes RhodeIslandOne Aug 2020 #52

Probably the first vegetables the child ate that week. Cracklin Charlie Aug 2020 #27

Neither of my kids has ever had a green bean. Codeine Aug 2020 #34

My son has never eaten a green bean but that's because I hate them so I don't make them. His Luciferous Aug 2020 #39

My young kids love spicy food and we make them various world foods all the time. cbdo2007 Aug 2020 #31

My kids adore spicy foods. Codeine Aug 2020 #35

At Mexican Food Joints... ProfessorGAC Aug 2020 #37

Man spicy curry sounds so good right now! Initech Aug 2020 #38

The letter is satire, isn't it? Sanity Claws Aug 2020 #41

All those sorts of letters are fake. Codeine Aug 2020 #44

No, this is how overprotective parents talk. RhodeIslandOne Aug 2020 #53

the Susan Collins school of white fragility parenting Celerity Aug 2020 #60

LOL RhodeIslandOne Aug 2020 #64

Little secret, if it was too spicey hot, the kid wouldn't have eaten it. n/t Pobeka Aug 2020 #45

Indian was and is iamateacher Aug 2020 #47

Indian family gave a child food. AwakeAtLast Aug 2020 #49

Even in liberal towns such as ours, kids are "sheltered" dreamland Aug 2020 #50

Children will be fine never having eaten raw fish. nt Codeine Aug 2020 #54

I can't believe they fed my child Indian food... spinbaby Aug 2020 #56

American food is kind of bland. Everything is "spicy" to us. Oneironaut Aug 2020 #58

It isn't like ketchup if you haven't developed a tolerance Codeine Aug 2020 #73

I never considered a parent upset with what I fed their kid and we were always doing different LizBeth Aug 2020 #59

Cultural appropriation!!!! nt LAS14 Aug 2020 #61

;) LizBeth Aug 2020 #62

On average Americans are incredibly ignorant about herbs and spices csziggy Aug 2020 #63

Probably the first decent meal that poor kid ever had in his life. Withywindle Aug 2020 #65

I've had Indian food before. In New York City. Manifestor_of_Light Aug 2020 #66

age 9 and she's referring to "small tummies" like he is a toddler. Demovictory9 Aug 2020 #67

The odds are it is a he, not a she obamanut2012 Aug 2020 #68

Grown man using the word "tummy" Drahthaardogs Aug 2020 #70

NO!!!! Dorian Gray Aug 2020 #71