Daniel Dale - how they get away with the lie

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3. Nazi tactics and a few pages ripped from the abuser's playbook:

gaslighting, and DARVO writ large.

https://medium.com/the-ascent/one-way-to-disarm-gaslighters-understand-darvo-8e0aeb184f7

DARVO is an acronym for a response observed in many guilty people when accused of misconduct. It stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim-Offender. DARVO is a clear and simple pattern that you will see everywhere once you learn to identify it, like the Fibonacci sequence of aggressors.

From the Wikipedia page:

DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers: deny the abuse, then attack the victim for attempting to make them accountable for their offense, thereby reversing victim and offender. …

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Gaslighters, those who respond with DARVO when confronted about bad behavior, feed on your self-doubt. Even people who start out quite sure of themselves, if mistreated enough, become mentally and emotionally malleable. The more you’ve been attacked, whether physically, sexually, or emotionally, the easier it is for other people to destabilize you going forward.