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MineralMan

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50. I remember, but as a man.

Sun Sep 27, 2020, 03:52 PM

Sep 2020

What I remember was the unfairness of it all. I remember that unmarried women could not obtain birth control in California in the early 1960s. I remember that women could not borrow money for a house or a car. I remember women having to carry an unwanted child through birth, regardless of the circumstances.

I remember women in college getting expelled for just being in a man's apartment, even after turning 21 years of age, and women dorm residents getting penalized for being late getting back to the dorm. Men had no such restrictions.

There were many other ways women were restricted. At the time, I thought all of that was unfair and that it should be changed. During my lifetime, it did change.

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Who remembers life for women before RBG? [View all] wnylib Sep 2020 OP

A number of my friends graduated from college in 1966 and immediately Raven Sep 2020 #1

There only s few jobs open for women. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2020 #76

I had to drive a friend to another state because spooky3 Sep 2020 #2

A friend of mine DownriverDem Sep 2020 #38

I remember my dad having to tell his best friend MurrayDelph Sep 2020 #42

'The pill' Budi Sep 2020 #3

2 job offers in my twenties iwillalwayswonderwhy Sep 2020 #4

How sick! smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #43

I stood up and walked out iwillalwayswonderwhy Sep 2020 #61

Good for you! smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #77

I remember applying for a summer job in a factory when I was in college. murielm99 Sep 2020 #5

👋👋👋👋👋 irisblue Sep 2020 #6

I was legally fired from my job when I became pregnant with my sinkingfeeling Sep 2020 #7

I remember, too, when women could not wnylib Sep 2020 #13

I also began teaching when a pregnant woman, (married, of course) couldn't teach after she began to maddiemom Sep 2020 #39

It was amazing the transformation through the 70s. dawg day Sep 2020 #44

I have someplace a photo whistler162 Sep 2020 #41

I remember in the late 60s how unusual it was to see a visibly Ms. Toad Sep 2020 #74

Not in public, true. I saw lots of them, though, wnylib Sep 2020 #80

In the Seventies,some "cool" maternity clothes FINALLY began to appear. maddiemom Sep 2020 #88

Moo moos. OMG. I remember wnylib Sep 2020 #89

I don't, but I do not want to go back to that ever. smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #8

Young women DownriverDem Sep 2020 #40

I remember those old want-ads, too. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2020 #9

It's horrifying to think this is what we could go back to. smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #48

I Sure Do colsohlibgal Sep 2020 #10

I, too, remember the gender separated job ads. mantis49 Sep 2020 #11

I don't know if this qualifies exactly.... Ohiogal Sep 2020 #12

I ... just ... I ... what? mrs_p Sep 2020 #21

Yep..... Ohiogal Sep 2020 #22

i didnt get a job i was a shoe-in for. ihas2stinkyfeet Sep 2020 #14

I remember when I first started teaching in the 80s dawg day Sep 2020 #15

That is why I never use the phrase wnylib Sep 2020 #26

I remember agingdem Sep 2020 #16

The executor being male is one of the things wnylib Sep 2020 #83

My mother was big on feminism, but she never cared about it for her daughters Beringia Sep 2020 #17

In the early 1960s frogmarch Sep 2020 #18

A man and I got promoted as department heads in a store at the same time. He got a three dollar LizBeth Sep 2020 #19

They pulled that line on my mother once. soldierant Sep 2020 #54

My girlfriend's husband snowybirdie Sep 2020 #20

Couldn't get a credit card until I was 29 PlanetBev Sep 2020 #23

I was applying for a job with the post office in 1974. TicketyBoo Sep 2020 #62

I can remember back then, but here is one from the 90's RazzleCat Sep 2020 #24

I remember discrimination from a bank csziggy Sep 2020 #25

I do. SamKnause Sep 2020 #27

Pretty much all of the above, marybourg Sep 2020 #28

Reminds me if an incident when I was wnylib Sep 2020 #34

While I was aware of a lot of the things talked about here, PoindexterOglethorpe Sep 2020 #29

K&R Solly Mack Sep 2020 #30

Forwarded this to my Superior Other and daughter PoliWrangler Sep 2020 #31

I remember well lillypaddle Sep 2020 #32

Yes, I remember Our Bodies Ourselves. wnylib Sep 2020 #36

I remember when my mother had to get a Power of Attorney to help my father conduct their business. rickyhall Sep 2020 #33

My college friend's mother decided to return to school for her master's degree in the 70's dlk Sep 2020 #35

Oh, we're making America TicketyBoo Sep 2020 #65

That chair thing was a survival from the Victorian era. displacedtexan Sep 2020 #70

Ah yes, the Victorian Era dlk Sep 2020 #71

the thing that most affected me.. stillcool Sep 2020 #37

One of my first memories was having to get a credit card in my husband's name. Lonestarblue Sep 2020 #45

I only remember growing up in an atmosphere of shifting social attitudes on gender, and... Crunchy Frog Sep 2020 #46

This is an important thread. We should never forget. Hamlette Sep 2020 #47

+1000 smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #52

wnylib said: A co-worker asked me, "Well, is it serious? Or does he just slap you around a little?" iluvtennis Sep 2020 #49

Believe it or not, that was a female co-worker wnylib Sep 2020 #68

You're a strong woman wnylib. Look at all you've survived. I applaud you. iluvtennis Sep 2020 #69

Thanks, but I did have help and don't wnylib Sep 2020 #72

I remember, but as a man. MineralMan Sep 2020 #50

Actually, TicketyBoo Sep 2020 #66

To this day, I am STILL mad as hell that all the boys got to go to a Cubs game in the 6th grade. GoCubsGo Sep 2020 #51

Oh boy does that bring back memories. wnylib Sep 2020 #78

RBG was great for men too as a part of her clever strategy to fight gender discrimination IronLionZion Sep 2020 #53

Yes, she knew that equality goes both ways. wnylib Sep 2020 #81

Graduated from college in 1962..Best job I could find paid $65.00 a week. Paper Roses Sep 2020 #55

I remember and life sucked. trueblue2007 Sep 2020 #56

I'm too young JonLP24 Sep 2020 #57

In the 1970s, my mom had to wear a skirt and pantyhose at her job putting price tags on clothes. SunSeeker Sep 2020 #58

I graduated from college in 1956 and went looking for a job. connecticut yankee Sep 2020 #59

I'm 55. Most of my memories are my mom telling me stories russiamommy Sep 2020 #60

My mother does. She was born in 1936. My sister refuses to believe some of the stories she tells. eppur_se_muova Sep 2020 #63

I was too young to have it affect me directly MustLoveBeagles Sep 2020 #64

My college applications required a physical exam, including Pregnancy Test displacedtexan Sep 2020 #67

While RBG was absolutely fantastic - just remember that she was but one woman. Ms. Toad Sep 2020 #73

You're right that RBG was one woman wnylib Sep 2020 #84

I graduated from college in 1969 leftyladyfrommo Sep 2020 #75

It was mid 1960's Mossfern Sep 2020 #79

Not too long. Thanks for sharing your wnylib Sep 2020 #82

Ah yes, Mossfern Sep 2020 #86

Well, you've accomplished more than wnylib Sep 2020 #87

Like many other posters, I have too many incidents that I could write about. llmart Sep 2020 #85

I remember being declined a department store credit card in my name mnhtnbb Sep 2020 #90