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blueniteflower

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34. Not an ultimatum but

Wed Oct 21, 2020, 07:38 AM

Oct 2020

We are pregnant with a girl and had originally planned on naming her after my husband’s grandmother. After learning the last few weeks that she believes people of color and women cannot be leaders (she thinks Biden will die in office and does not think Kamala Harris can lead) and is voting for Trump, we have nixed that name. We haven’t told anyone our plans for names, so thankfully it won’t get back to her, but it just makes me sad that she thinks that way despite being a good person herself and always helping neighbors regardless of their skin color.

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"I told them they can't see their grandkids anymore if they vote for him" [View all] Demovictory9 Oct 2020 OP

I've stopped two possible dating opportunities in their tracks qazplm135 Oct 2020 #1

I did sort of the same thing. Vinnie From Indy Oct 2020 #7

Nothing like the scent of desperation and misogyny Maru Kitteh Oct 2020 #11

Jan. 2008- I'm out on a first date in Los Angeles with a woman I'd met thru an online dating site TeamPooka Oct 2020 #29

Uh, it's a secret ballot Pantagruel Oct 2020 #2

Yeah, but it is really hard for Trump supporters PatSeg Oct 2020 #15

If you can't believe your parent about who they voted for, you've got bigger problems. nt Doremus Oct 2020 #16

I grew up in an extremely loving, middle class family forthemiddle Oct 2020 #22

Depends BannonsLiver Oct 2020 #25

Yes, it IS a secret ballot. not_the_one Oct 2020 #57

How would you know? madaboutharry Oct 2020 #3

Make them fill out absentee ballots in front of you BannonsLiver Oct 2020 #26

My brother and his wife live in AZ wryter2000 Oct 2020 #4

Mixed marriages in swing states are under a lot of stress, particularly with mailin ballots Klaralven Oct 2020 #5

I don't understand how anyone could marry someone with such divergent political views... Happy Hoosier Oct 2020 #51

I told my grandchildren agingdem Oct 2020 #6

You're a wise grandparent. Beakybird Oct 2020 #9

Sounds very reasonable to me! BComplex Oct 2020 #10

My uber wealthy cousin is a strong Trump supporter. Beakybird Oct 2020 #8

That's true, he does PatSeg Oct 2020 #17

"I just don't think they can hold those views and be with the kids." lagomorph777 Oct 2020 #12

Yes! And culturally it's deep Withywindle Oct 2020 #27

the grandparents will simply lie, just like their nazi god emperor Celerity Oct 2020 #13

Most Trump supporters are very loud and proud PatSeg Oct 2020 #18

yes, but they will lie if they think they will have the grandchildren pulled Celerity Oct 2020 #20

Holy crap!!! PatSeg Oct 2020 #21

My co-worker is great, his father died before I met him, his mother Celerity Oct 2020 #24

Interesting how some people make rash assumptions PatSeg Oct 2020 #35

I know next to nothing of his social life, but he and my co-worker's sister are wannabe poshies Celerity Oct 2020 #37

"Cleverclogs"! PatSeg Oct 2020 #39

old school British slang (I am London raised) Celerity Oct 2020 #40

Yeah, I had to Google it PatSeg Oct 2020 #41

Try chalk and cheese instead of apples and oranges Celerity Oct 2020 #47

Ha, ha, ha!!! PatSeg Oct 2020 #48

yes, the last 2 are rhyming slang, originating ofttimes from one born 'within the sound of the Bow Celerity Oct 2020 #50

Yes PatSeg Oct 2020 #52

its still alive and well in football culture (not for the faint of heart, and terribly un PC) Celerity Oct 2020 #55

That's good to know PatSeg Oct 2020 #56

Depends on how far the lady wanted to take it BannonsLiver Oct 2020 #28

That is what I would do, good idea. nt Celerity Oct 2020 #30

Demovictory9 Upthevibe Oct 2020 #14

It's not enforceable. LisaL Oct 2020 #19

They could, but to many Trumpers that's right up there with denying Jesus. Mariana Oct 2020 #23

See post 28. Celerity Oct 2020 #32

It is treestar Oct 2020 #42

Make them vote in front of you 🤷🏻‍♂️ PTWB Oct 2020 #45

I feel very fortunate Meowmee Oct 2020 #31

This is kinda sad in a way GusBob Oct 2020 #33

It Is Sad RobinA Oct 2020 #49

Yeah, I feel the same way n/t Zing Zing Zingbah Oct 2020 #53

Not an ultimatum but blueniteflower Oct 2020 #34

I've ceased communication with both of my brothers over their Bettie Oct 2020 #36

I have a son-in-law who's dead to me, on account of his rabid trump support. Paladin Oct 2020 #38

My Trumpster nextdoor neighbor moved and put his house up for sale Johnny2X2X Oct 2020 #43

that may not be best for the kids treestar Oct 2020 #44

I understand the sentiment but it's a bad idea Demonaut Oct 2020 #46

Tried that with my parents....they went with Trump over me and my kids :( cbdo2007 Oct 2020 #54