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undergroundpanther

(11,925 posts)
88. If my community showed me kindness
Sat Sep 29, 2012, 12:22 AM
Sep 2012

After the bullying I went through since 1st grade, I sympathize with her. If people chose to make something nice for me,to stand with me like I mattered, maybe my life might be better.

From their involvement,I would not feel so alone,so hated,so ugly or unwanted.It would have shown me someone heard me,and cared that I was tortured everyday.Unfortunately I got no support from family or community because it was the 70's when people still had thier heads in the sand regarding the suffering bullies cause.
I tried to kill myself first time at age 8. I would through my life try many other times.

Sometimes it is wise to give help to a bully victim and stand by them because it just might give them enough hope in humanity to fight the PTSD that would have eaten her life..

like PTSD has done to me.

And the display of support from strangers might just help the bullies leave her alone.
And these strangers might have just given her a social network, with good experiences. A social network that accepts you is one of the most healing things there is.

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The bullies were wilt the stilt Sep 2012 #1
Bingo! Same mindset. nt valerief Sep 2012 #14
Today's bullies = tomorrow's Republicans. Initech Sep 2012 #71
Ain't that the truth! Sugarcoated Sep 2012 #89
Anyone know what was the prank aspect of this? HereSince1628 Sep 2012 #2
The pulled the "Carrie" card obamanut2012 Sep 2012 #8
Thanks it really wasn't clear IMO HereSince1628 Sep 2012 #16
Agreed. I couldn't quite figure that out from the video Matariki Sep 2012 #53
A real-life "Carrie" ending would have been beyond awesome... Blue_Tires Sep 2012 #31
When I was in high school... AnneD Sep 2012 #90
It wasn't too clearly explained, was it? knightmaar Sep 2012 #11
The boys did it to her, too obamanut2012 Sep 2012 #13
No it wasn't real clear, HereSince1628 Sep 2012 #17
That was my assumption knightmaar Sep 2012 #19
hmm... chervilant Sep 2012 #18
children reflect adults as adults really are DBoon Sep 2012 #28
Spot on! Delphinus Sep 2012 #35
Yep, chervilant Sep 2012 #87
The Fevor is in the minds of the people who care about this stuff Heather MC Sep 2012 #21
Gotta Love America Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #3
And your point is? catbyte Sep 2012 #6
Ummm... Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #39
You made your point better in this post Matariki Sep 2012 #54
Well Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #63
This message was self-deleted by its author Matariki Sep 2012 #92
We have no absolute knowledge that didn't in fact happen LanternWaste Sep 2012 #62
Can't prove a negative Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #64
Yes, it's quite easy to prove a negative jeff47 Sep 2012 #67
Considering the fact... Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #69
Your old post is still up there. jeff47 Sep 2012 #91
Why does it have to be one or the Other ? JI7 Sep 2012 #75
If my community showed me kindness undergroundpanther Sep 2012 #88
You see this as being showered with $ she didn't deserve demwing Sep 2012 #7
Whitney has been showered with support and kindness obamanut2012 Sep 2012 #9
Post removed Post removed Sep 2012 #15
What do you mean she doesn't "deserve it" Kindly Refrain Sep 2012 #20
Are you really saying the town's response was not good? GOTV Sep 2012 #23
no Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #41
Well that's capitalism for you gollygee Sep 2012 #26
Did you ever go to high school? People decided to help someone who had efhmc Sep 2012 #33
typical freeper attitude. You probably loved Mitt's boyhood pranks, too. WI_DEM Sep 2012 #37
Right Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #40
She was showered with money? HangOnKids Sep 2012 #42
Wow Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #43
Your premise is paper thin dude HangOnKids Sep 2012 #45
So... Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #46
Your Rhetoric Is Sloppy HangOnKids Sep 2012 #47
So sad Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #48
COUNTDOWN HangOnKids Sep 2012 #49
Maybe you should stop pointing that firearm hifiguy Sep 2012 #50
She was shown support by the community which she clearly was in need of Matariki Sep 2012 #55
OK Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #56
Bullshit. pacalo Sep 2012 #70
Amen & Thank You HangOnKids Sep 2012 #72
His original statement may as well have neon lights flashing all around it. pacalo Sep 2012 #73
LOL Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #74
TGIF! No homework tonight, right? pacalo Sep 2012 #77
He Has Plenty Of Time To Do Homework Now LOL HangOnKids Sep 2012 #85
I knew the MIR team would come through! pacalo Sep 2012 #86
I missed the part where she was showered with money. Please explain... Moonwalk Sep 2012 #57
I admit I was wrong on that point Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #58
That is the premise of our entire civil justice system jberryhill Sep 2012 #65
Yes... Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #66
Not really jberryhill Sep 2012 #68
The bus monitor was "wronged" in a huge way when her tormentors posted their video on YouTube. pacalo Sep 2012 #76
Uh Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #78
You totally don't get the outpouring of support that the bus monitor received pacalo Sep 2012 #79
LOL Again Flaggkilledgod Sep 2012 #81
The concept of "guilt" does not exist in civil disputes jberryhill Sep 2012 #82
exactly.. and this wasnt even a lawsuit paying out.. it was all private, voluntary donations. dionysus Sep 2012 #80
This message was self-deleted by its author Mariana Sep 2012 #93
I dont understand???? BigD_95 Sep 2012 #4
Something like this I guess: Lucky Luciano Sep 2012 #10
She is an outsider at her school obamanut2012 Sep 2012 #12
Normal kids are often targeted gollygee Sep 2012 #27
Bullies grown up to be republican DBoon Sep 2012 #30
Here... progressoid Sep 2012 #38
Well written article. enlightenment Sep 2012 #51
I was expecting a bucket of pig's blood, at least Orrex Sep 2012 #5
K&R myrna minx Sep 2012 #22
OMG - your animated gif! I can't stop laughing ... GOTV Sep 2012 #24
randomly pulled from the web.... first saw on buzzfeed trailmonkee Sep 2012 #34
i hated every damn minute i was in high school dembotoz Sep 2012 #25
They didn't really get their commupance, unless there's something more to the story.... NYC_SKP Sep 2012 #29
I think they subtly encourage this DBoon Sep 2012 #32
Yup. nt NYC_SKP Sep 2012 #61
Good for her. hifiguy Sep 2012 #36
The bullying will get worse after Homecoming jmowreader Sep 2012 #44
You're correct - but I think she'll be ok TBF Sep 2012 #84
OMG- This happened at my school..in the 80's-- Sylvarose Sep 2012 #52
Maybe we have learned something. progressoid Sep 2012 #59
:) Sylvarose Sep 2012 #60
Those kids need to start making some Horse head Bookends Son of Gob Sep 2012 #83
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