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34. I'm a woman and I would give up a seat to a pregnant woman or anyone who needs it

Tue Jan 10, 2012, 02:05 PM

Jan 2012

Or to borrow Mineral Man's list:
Visibly pregnant
Apparently ill in some way
Older than I am
Have a physical disability
Carrying an infant
Appear to be uncomfortable standing

It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with being considerate and polite. If I am entering or leaving a building, I hold doors open for other people with no thought as to their gender or need - it is just polite to help other people.

I have to agree with what the Sydney etiquette expert Anna Musson, who runs The Good Manners Company, says:

"If we keep going down this path, everybody is going to be miserable," she says.

"When people do something nice for a stranger they actually benefit by feeling good about themselves.

"It's just a shame more people don't realise that."

(From the OP link)

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Show your manners to pregnant ladies [View all] The Straight Story Jan 2012 OP

Why was she on a bus MattBaggins Jan 2012 #1

And barefoot too liberal N proud Jan 2012 #3

well my question is why did she spread her legs in the first place! Whisp Jan 2012 #35

. Devil_Fish Jan 2012 #131

Shouldnt they inquire if the father is married to her? That she isnt on some form of gov. assist? WingDinger Jan 2012 #2

If you had read it the author of the story was writing from personnel experience.. snooper2 Jan 2012 #11

Maybe they read this blog rawtribe Jan 2012 #4

Entitlement mentality. Lance_Boyle Jan 2012 #5

This has to do with empathy, not feminism obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #105

You may be sure that you will have a seat if I am MineralMan Jan 2012 #6

Agree - and I am a woman TBF Jan 2012 #31

Same here xmas74 Jan 2012 #78

I deal with chronic pain... badgerpup Jan 2012 #103

The little things are what keep us civilized. xmas74 Jan 2012 #125

Ditto for me woolldog Jan 2012 #124

Nice to hear! phylny Jan 2012 #134

Same here. JNelson6563 Jan 2012 #135

We were raised to be polite respectful of others HillWilliam Jan 2012 #147

Yes, the very basics of courtesy seem to be forgotten MineralMan Jan 2012 #153

... or just women in general. DutchLiberal Jan 2012 #160

LOL snooper2 Jan 2012 #7

And the same day you write it, someone will write about the asshole with the crying kid in the aisle The Straight Story Jan 2012 #8

"Stupid man, doesn't know how to control his child" snooper2 Jan 2012 #16

You can't have it both ways.. you can't expect us to give up our seats and then expect us to treat ddeclue Jan 2012 #9

Uhhh, I am not bashing anyone The Straight Story Jan 2012 #12

What you fixing? My wife won't bring me anything for lunch.. snooper2 Jan 2012 #17

Cheeseburger with swiss cheese, green peppers and onions The Straight Story Jan 2012 #18

Sounds good, for some reason that makes me want Schlotzsky's snooper2 Jan 2012 #28

It has nothing to do with gender politics.. left coaster Jan 2012 #15

Men in Mexico sure as heck can. I like your post. a la izquierda Jan 2012 #20

Of course it is about gender politics. You are either equal or you are not. ddeclue Jan 2012 #26

what a silly thing to say MattBaggins Jan 2012 #33

a cast implies something that is an accident. A pregnancy is a choice. ddeclue Jan 2012 #46

It's being a choice is irrelevant MattBaggins Jan 2012 #51

No actually it is totally relevant. You made a decision you live with the consequences. ddeclue Jan 2012 #54

Irrelevant MattBaggins Jan 2012 #60

Yes DU IS the right place for me.. Perhaps it is not for you if you believe women are fragile and ddeclue Jan 2012 #67

This is potentially the dumbest argument I've seen on DU NeedleCast Jan 2012 #146

Pregnancy is not a disease AngryAmish Jan 2012 #152

Oh brother! Wind Dancer Jan 2012 #167

You do not have a clue.. likesmountains 52 Jan 2012 #119

Have you ever had a broken limb? (I doubt it, if you're this obtuse) Quantess Jan 2012 #138

Make that an elderly person who is unsteady on their feet. I guess being elderly is a choice also? uppityperson Jan 2012 #53

being elderly is not being pregnant. One has a choice in being pregnant. One does not in getting ddeclue Jan 2012 #55

If you were sitting and saw an elderly woman unsteady on her feet, would you let her have uppityperson Jan 2012 #58

Not if she was pregnant MattBaggins Jan 2012 #62

This message was self-deleted by its author uppityperson Jan 2012 #64

re read and deleted previous comment. Too funny. uppityperson Jan 2012 #66

Are you for real? Klukie Jan 2012 #61

no I don't but perhaps you ought to. ddeclue Jan 2012 #68

Yeah, it implies they got drunk and jumped off a roof obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #107

Anyone should have offered up their seat. Men, women, etc. stevenleser Jan 2012 #36

of course it is.. this is one in a series of man bashing threads running around on DU today ddeclue Jan 2012 #47

Are you on crack? Klukie Jan 2012 #63

Sensitive Dorian Gray Jan 2012 #113

Oh, boo-hoo. Deal with it, 'cause liberalhistorian Jan 2012 #116

I haven't seen sexist threads on DU. But man-bashing threads? Dozens! DutchLiberal Jan 2012 #161

That's absolutely ridiculous. smirkymonkey Jan 2012 #38

oh that's SO lame.. throwing out the "hate" card... I'm just taking you at your word about being ddeclue Jan 2012 #44

I would, too. liberalhistorian Jan 2012 #117

Same here! I hold doors open for people, men women, it doesn't matter. It's just considerate. Quantess Jan 2012 #137

no - it's about swollen ankles, dana_b Jan 2012 #42

They don't HAVE to carry it around. They certainly have a choice. ddeclue Jan 2012 #45

so what? it's called compassion for a fellow human being dana_b Jan 2012 #59

I wouldn't bother with him anymore. liberalhistorian Jan 2012 #118

you are right dana_b Jan 2012 #120

How do they have a choice? obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #108

I'm thinking about abortion blueamy66 Jan 2012 #141

Your answer doesn't even make any sense obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #143

OR....they should use birth control or think about their choices blueamy66 Jan 2012 #144

i have a condom baby, my youngest. my bad. but, i love him so. and i would go into labor standing seabeyond Jan 2012 #149

I hope your mother was treated compassionately while she was pregnant with you. polly7 Jan 2012 #155

I was adopted. blueamy66 Jan 2012 #162

What? polly7 Jan 2012 #164

So you think no woman was pregnant with you? muriel_volestrangler Jan 2012 #165

YOU are the only one making it about this obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #104

You are either courteous or you are not. badgerpup Jan 2012 #106

Bullshit. It's not about gender at all... Violet_Crumble Jan 2012 #130

This is what I am trying to teach my kids. TBF Jan 2012 #29

Great post. Jamastiene Jan 2012 #94

Post removed Post removed Jan 2012 #37

the "whiner in the OP" is a man dana_b Jan 2012 #43

Stupidest response in the thread award goes to..... MattBaggins Jan 2012 #57

I have. At Disney World. Jennicut Jan 2012 #65

Wait, I am a whiner? In what way? The Straight Story Jan 2012 #82

Female entitlement mentality? Nice MRA talking point... chrisa Jan 2012 #92

How is this female entitlement? obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #109

This has nothing to do with equality/gender wars. It has to do with common courtesy. yellowcanine Jan 2012 #30

Really? MattBaggins Jan 2012 #32

I'm a woman and I would give up a seat to a pregnant woman or anyone who needs it csziggy Jan 2012 #34

hmm.. very "gentlemanly" of you... ddeclue Jan 2012 #52

Oh my, someone's mommy didn't teach them about being polite... all american girl Jan 2012 #39

Post removed Post removed Jan 2012 #50

I wasn't whining all american girl Jan 2012 #75

look on the bright side Bodhi BloodWave Jan 2012 #132

You don't get it, do you? It's about manners. chrisa Jan 2012 #85

Series! Why help anyone who might need it, why show any courtesy towards anyone? uppityperson Jan 2012 #40

this thread isn't about women not being "gentlemenly" now is it? ddeclue Jan 2012 #48

It is about being courteous to others, helping those who might need it. Sorry uppityperson Jan 2012 #49

Yes, it is, if you read the entire articke obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #110

How is the suggestion of giving up one's seat PotatoChip Jan 2012 #70

If it were a gentleman who was obviously sick or in discomfort xmas74 Jan 2012 #79

Wow, what a joy of a human being you must be to be around. Arugula Latte Jan 2012 #80

Nice view of women you have there. How callous of you. chrisa Jan 2012 #88

So the elderly are "less than equal"? Somebody with a walking cast on their foot? gkhouston Jan 2012 #89

Unfuckingbelievable. CrispyQ Jan 2012 #95

Not the first time today obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #102

It's not about gender, it's about a medical condition ecstatic Jan 2012 #97

I don't think men were singled out were they? treestar Jan 2012 #99

It is the rigfht thing to do obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #101

Dude Dorian Gray Jan 2012 #110

lol La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2012 #123

I don't understand "have it both ways" or "male-bashing" from this nadine_mn Jan 2012 #129

Seriously? phylny Jan 2012 #136

I imagine many people believe that to give up one's seat for someone, LanternWaste Jan 2012 #145

I don't think men were being targeted here pipi_k Jan 2012 #154

This man would like to know why you're being a dick... DutchLiberal Jan 2012 #158

I don't care for the "gentleman" tag for this kind of thoughtful behavior.. left coaster Jan 2012 #10

me too and yes.. but every day Viva_La_Revolution Jan 2012 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #23

no, gentlemanly is directed specifically at men. provis99 Jan 2012 #76

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #77

women are not gentlemen. provis99 Jan 2012 #127

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #151

It's the connotation in the word 'gentleman'. badgerpup Jan 2012 #114

I don't understand why this is said to be a madmom Jan 2012 #13

Agree. I give up my seat for pregnant women, older folks and disabled. kiranon Jan 2012 #25

I tried to teach this to my kids when they were young ... frazzled Jan 2012 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #19

Well, don't ignore me until after the thread is 'over', not sure you would be able to see it then The Straight Story Jan 2012 #22

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #24

+1 uppityperson Jan 2012 #41

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #84

I never ignore xmas74 Jan 2012 #81

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #83

Disgusting, disturbing people. xmas74 Jan 2012 #86

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #87

I still give up my seat in crowded places, xmas74 Jan 2012 #91

~lol. CrispyQ Jan 2012 #96

lol obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #112

You don't have better things to do? blueamy66 Jan 2012 #142

After I had my first baby was very eye-opening as well - TBF Jan 2012 #27

Going to the grocery store with a 6 month old and a toddler that was one and a half Jennicut Jan 2012 #56

This morning I did my bi-weekly "big" grocery shop TBF Jan 2012 #72

And you learn to love the Americans with Disabilities Act. Nye Bevan Jan 2012 #71

That's a good point - TBF Jan 2012 #73

+1. I never fully appreciated how many barriers there are, even with the ADA, gkhouston Jan 2012 #93

Back in the 'olden' days, it used to be called 'common courtesy' or 'civility' MerryBlooms Jan 2012 #69

The concept of common courtesy should be passed on from generation to generation. AtomicKitten Jan 2012 #74

Been there!! I agree. Sparkly Jan 2012 #90

Well, sure. Because being pregnant on a bus is male-bashing, doncha know. Habibi Jan 2012 #98

OK maybe she chose to be pregnant treestar Jan 2012 #100

Oh, but you forget -- there IS a "choice" -- downwardly_mobile Jan 2012 #121

So February 22 is International Be a Gentleman Day cherokeeprogressive Jan 2012 #115

Women are expected to be ladies EVERY day obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #122

What kind of gentlemanly behavior is her family showing by not giving her a ride? JVS Jan 2012 #126

OT I know, but what is up Lunacee2012 Jan 2012 #128

That's a good question. nt redqueen Jan 2012 #133

Th only reasoning is because of the mention "gentlemanly" in the article Quantess Jan 2012 #139

I'm disabled and I've had similar things happen....I can't count the doors slammed in my face tpsbmam Jan 2012 #140

What a bunch of mean people have come out of the woodwork on DU today! distantearlywarning Jan 2012 #148

When I was pregnant, I never expected anyone to give up HappyMe Jan 2012 #150

The only caution I would advise pipi_k Jan 2012 #156

A man should *always* offer his seat to a woman, pregnant or not... DutchLiberal Jan 2012 #157

if i was preg and got jolted, it could result in harm to baby. so i would probably take an offered seabeyond Jan 2012 #159

What else do you expect in Australia? Charm? Wit? Grace? The ability to play cricket? truebrit71 Jan 2012 #163

Not to mention against the current form of the teams at the moment muriel_volestrangler Jan 2012 #166

They are playing the same Indian team that England destroyed 4-0 to take the number one ranking... truebrit71 Jan 2012 #168

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