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In reply to the discussion: OK, DUers- I need advice, and this is not a political post [View all]ismnotwasm
(42,022 posts)Second, 12 step program are fine, but so is good counseling and medical intervention My son is a heroin addict, he sees a counselor at the VA (hes a vet) uses subluxone injections, and while hes not perfect, he keeps a roof over his head and makes his own money. Just got a dog, which is a major milestone.
I think a mix of whatever is available, community recovery, counseling, medication prescribed by a doctor experienced in addiction
I have been clean and sober for 30 years. Trust me when I say I took every advantage of family members when in my addiction. I use a 12 step program, but I recognize they are not for everyone. There are other community recovery type groups
For you, once boundaries are established ie, do you feel comfortable lending money? Having addicts around kids or teenagers? Family events? Putting them up in your house? Renting them a place or motel if they are homeless? How do the speak to you? Respectfully and decently or otherwise. Is violence an issue? Think about your own life, and what will be disrupted. What are you willing to accept, vs, what is reasonable and healthy to accept. By all means try al-anon, its group therapy in a way, and youll get good advice.
Most of all, stay safe, and live well. Addiction is a horrific condition, and you must be a great and loving person to understand this and want to help.