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46. So sorry.... remember though that there's nothing more impt than your mental health.

Sat Oct 6, 2012, 12:38 AM

Oct 2012

If anything threatens that - change it.

Who ever knew life would be so difficult?

Do what you need to take care of yourself and don't pay any attention to anyone who says you shouldn't. Friend/family or enemy. You are also not doing your husband any favors by continuing on in a very unhappy and unhealthy relationship.Sometimes you can never completely get your good mental health back.

I'm saying this as someone who has worked in the mental health field and in hospice care for 15 years.Can you get your husband (and you) some counseling? Both of you should go in order for it to work. There should be a local mental health organization that charges on a sliding scale in your area. If he refuses to go, I would give him a serious ultimatum. By the way, if you need to move out and get a roommate think about it!

Feel free to PM me if you'd like. Same for anyone else....

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Not sure if I can fight one more day. [View all] SmileyRose Oct 2012 OP

... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #1

There are far too many of us in the same place. gkhouston Oct 2012 #2

I don't have any words, except that you're not alone... petronius Oct 2012 #3

I feel this way often. Too much calamity going on in the family DebJ Oct 2012 #4

You are not alone... NancyDL Oct 2012 #11

Thanks NancyDL. DebJ Oct 2012 #30

Oh, DebJ... DollarBillHines Oct 2012 #12

Thank you very much. DebJ Oct 2012 #31

Deb Skittles Oct 2012 #14

Skittles, thank you. This did help. As far as counselling, DebJ Oct 2012 #32

Caregiver support group SmileyRose Oct 2012 #33

Thanks, I'll check that one out. I did try online DebJ Oct 2012 #35

ckd support is fine but you still need something for YOU SmileyRose Oct 2012 #44

Deb, try the online route, as suggested by another DUer Skittles Oct 2012 #34

Skittles, I can tell you I'm not going there... DebJ Oct 2012 #41

Easier said than done nadinbrzezinski Oct 2012 #47

Has your husband applied for disability? rl6214 Oct 2012 #25

We're not quite at the disability point as yet. DebJ Oct 2012 #29

If you do go the disability route, go sign up at this forum rl6214 Oct 2012 #36

THanks. bookmarked. DebJ Oct 2012 #42

(((hugs))) sueh Feb 2014 #52

Fuck him. It!s the only life you get. Move on. OffWithTheirHeads Oct 2012 #5

I can't offer advice... I can only offer my sincere condolences renate Oct 2012 #6

You don't have much to loose, I take it... MrMickeysMom Oct 2012 #7

I am only 44... awoke_in_2003 Oct 2012 #8

that thought is really wearying marions ghost Oct 2012 #37

I hope the economy improves enough for youu to ditch the guy Gal Friday Oct 2012 #9

SmileyRose Iwillnevergiveup Oct 2012 #10

...at the end of the day crazy homeless guy Oct 2012 #13

ditto that renate Oct 2012 #20

SMILEY MY SWEET Skittles Oct 2012 #15

Okay, start with this. SheilaT Oct 2012 #16

I wish I could help you somehow. AverageJoe90 Oct 2012 #17

''It is always darkest just before the Day dawneth.'' DeSwiss Oct 2012 #18

do a little something nice for yourself everyday, may I suggest renting Dolores Claiborne or KILL THE WISE ONE Oct 2012 #19

I hear ya Rose...... a kennedy Oct 2012 #21

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You are so not alone. HeeBGBz Oct 2012 #23

His illness is NOT a license to abuse you. Get out. Get away. Live. Care Acutely Oct 2012 #24

Had to check to make sure I hadn't written your post myself. Riley18 Oct 2012 #26

You are not alone. I have this conversation every single day. lapislzi Oct 2012 #27

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You work your whole life dreaming of the golden years. mick063 Oct 2012 #43

Both candidates will steal our Social Security. woo me with science Oct 2012 #45

So sorry.... remember though that there's nothing more impt than your mental health. Michigan Alum Oct 2012 #46

May I offer a shoulder to cry upon? nadinbrzezinski Oct 2012 #48

SmileyRose Berserker Oct 2012 #49

someone is always here for you on DU, SmileyRose Skittles Feb 2014 #50

Aw... you're so sweet. cui bono Feb 2014 #53

My mom is having the same issues. bravenak Feb 2014 #51