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yellowdogintexas

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20. My sisters, my mom's oldest granddaughter and I prearranged everything

Sun Jan 24, 2021, 01:13 PM

Jan 2021

for my mom and prepaid it. Fortunately she had the funds and one of us had full power of attorney.

Mom had Alzheimer's and never knew we had done this, although we all knew exactly what she wanted.

My plans are to follow my husband's grandmother's plan: she donated her body to sciende and there were no costs involved.

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Are You Prepared for the Death of a Loved One? [View all] MineralMan Jan 2021 OP

One thing I never expected was losing my daughter padfun Jan 2021 #1

How sad malaise Jan 2021 #40

My father had chronic health problems and had preplanned a lot just like you suggest. Girard442 Jan 2021 #2

Yes. It is one of the best gifts you can give your next of kin. MineralMan Jan 2021 #4

My mom did that for me Mossfern Jan 2021 #53

And clean up your memorabilia. plimsoll Jan 2021 #30

Thank you MM for your generosity in sharing this with us. FM123 Jan 2021 #3

And that's just the beginning. MineralMan Jan 2021 #5

I don't know about California, plimsoll Jan 2021 #33

Fortunately, that is not the case for me. MineralMan Jan 2021 #51

Dear MineralMan MLAA Jan 2021 #6

No, my sister is still alive, but has pretty advanced Alzheimer's. MineralMan Jan 2021 #77

I love the birthday cards with $20 you are sending. MLAA Jan 2021 #98

Periodically this topic comes up here, PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #7

Well, many people have real issues in dealing with their own deaths. MineralMan Jan 2021 #16

I am like you, extremely practical and PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #23

My father had no health care directive. He had talked to me, though, MineralMan Jan 2021 #29

In one respect I envy them. plimsoll Jan 2021 #36

MM, isn't it rigged up so that a cremation is as high as a regular burial? mobeau69 Jan 2021 #8

I arranged for cremation of my wife, my aunt, and my mother. Binkie The Clown Jan 2021 #11

Thank you. mobeau69 Jan 2021 #58

Not really. If you prearrange and pay, and do not want any services MineralMan Jan 2021 #12

The cremation part is relatively inexpensive, plimsoll Jan 2021 #43

Our father just died on 1/11. His family has an underground phylny Jan 2021 #48

It is a huge problem for many people. MineralMan Jan 2021 #50

Thank you. mobeau69 Jan 2021 #56

I just want to second what MM said here. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #24

It can be. Mariana Jan 2021 #76

I'm so sorry for your loss. CrispyQ Jan 2021 #9

Thanks! MineralMan Jan 2021 #13

Thank you snowybirdie Jan 2021 #10

Dealing with cemeteries is maddening. nini Jan 2021 #14

It can be, for sure. Fortunately, I found the papers. MineralMan Jan 2021 #18

After my mom died nini Jan 2021 #104

Sorry for your losses Horse with no Name Jan 2021 #15

My sisters, my mom's oldest granddaughter and I prearranged everything yellowdogintexas Jan 2021 #20

My mother donated her body to the cadaver lab at a nearby medical school. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #26

My father-in-law did the same thing. BlueDawn Jan 2021 #86

Sorry For Your Loses, Thank You for Sharing This.. Stuart G Jan 2021 #17

my aunt & uncle had pre arranged cremation through a cremation society yellowdogintexas Jan 2021 #19

The Cremation Society is a good organization, for sure. MineralMan Jan 2021 #21

One of my neighbors died in a house fire two years ago... QED Jan 2021 #22

Our big shock: After my folks spent $20,000 on a prepaid funeral for both of them ... marble falls Jan 2021 #25

I'm just doing what's needful, really. MineralMan Jan 2021 #32

And just a reminder, have a will TexasBushwhacker Jan 2021 #27

People think they'll live forever. That's why. MineralMan Jan 2021 #34

Also bucolic_frolic Jan 2021 #28

Excellent advice TNNurse Jan 2021 #31

Thanks. I am glad they died on the same day. MineralMan Jan 2021 #44

I have a double name, Alice Beth TNNurse Jan 2021 #60

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Condolences 💐😢😢 OhNo-Really Jan 2021 #35

Thanks so much. MineralMan Jan 2021 #45

Oh. Those tears again. You're welcome OhNo-Really Jan 2021 #91

Great post malaise Jan 2021 #37

Having a small life insurance policy helps DeminPennswoods Jan 2021 #38

Thank You kooth Jan 2021 #39

Very eye opening Traildogbob Jan 2021 #41

Here's a tip for you: MineralMan Jan 2021 #47

Thank yo so much Traildogbob Jan 2021 #63

It's my pleasure. MineralMan Jan 2021 #64

Don't forget the titles to cars, too. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #73

Yes! My father, bless his heart, MineralMan Jan 2021 #79

My dad wrote his own obituary prior to his death. Of course that is not possible for everyone beaglelover Jan 2021 #42

One other thing to handle: Tracer Jan 2021 #46

Not in my case. I do not believe my parents had been in a church, except MineralMan Jan 2021 #49

Yes, picking out outfit was hard cally Jan 2021 #106

My husband and his Mom Marthe48 Jan 2021 #52

Well, I've been writing instructional materials for decades MineralMan Jan 2021 #55

My Spouse, her parents and I all went with The Neptune Society Operaweeble Jan 2021 #54

My wife's mother grew up in a small town in South Dakota MineralMan Jan 2021 #61

Perfect Hekate Jan 2021 #94

Mineral Man, I am sorry for your loss and appreciate you sharing your story OMGWTF Jan 2021 #57

Thanks for this thread, MM and the posts borne from it. yonder Jan 2021 #59

MM sorry for the lose of your parents. Very helpful as it's incumbent upon me to plan for my demise Cozmo Jan 2021 #62

Don't forget CostCo sells caskets for about half price of what funeral homes charge. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #65

At most funeral home sites, MineralMan Jan 2021 #68

In our case, the Costco casket was exactly the same casket but $5000 Cheaper. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #74

I'm so sorry for your loss, & thank you for sharing valuable advice. CaptainTruth Jan 2021 #66

We lost my father in law two years ago Gothmog Jan 2021 #67

It is, indeed, a mess. MineralMan Jan 2021 #69

My mom did a wonderful job. roamer65 Jan 2021 #70

Good for her! She was taking care of her children. MineralMan Jan 2021 #71

Everything is in a revocable living trust. roamer65 Jan 2021 #72

Perfect. That simplifies everything. MineralMan Jan 2021 #81

Yup. roamer65 Jan 2021 #89

Banks make it difficult to gain access to accounts cally Jan 2021 #107

Nope not ours. roamer65 Jan 2021 #108

This is great advice Mineral Man FakeNoose Jan 2021 #75

Thanks. Glad to hear it. MineralMan Jan 2021 #78

Thank you, and sympathies on your loss. More important things to keep in mind: Liberty Belle Jan 2021 #80

Thanks for your additional pointers. MineralMan Jan 2021 #84

Oh I went thru this and still am. Hope it doesn't get worse for you like for me GusBob Jan 2021 #82

My parents had an excellent attorney, who I'm working with now. MineralMan Jan 2021 #85

Most Individuals Aren't Prepared at All.... LovingA2andMI Jan 2021 #83

All my ducks are in a row to make it simple for my SO Roisin Ni Fiachra Jan 2021 #87

That's great! MineralMan Jan 2021 #88

My partner passed away unexpectedly Thanksgiving weekend Colorado Liberal Jan 2021 #90

Thanks for sharing that. MineralMan Jan 2021 #99

This message was self-deleted by its author Blue_true Jan 2021 #92

The deaths of both parents is the hardest. Blue_true Jan 2021 #93

Yes. Thanks! MineralMan Jan 2021 #100

Thank you so much for starting this topic, MM Hekate Jan 2021 #95

Sharing what I learn is what I do. It always has been. MineralMan Jan 2021 #101

I am sorry for your loss h2ebits Jan 2021 #96

Thanks for your additional ideas. MineralMan Jan 2021 #102

Thank you MM. Delmette2.0 Jan 2021 #97

You're very wise. MineralMan Jan 2021 #103

Things I learned after handling my Mother's affairs cally Jan 2021 #105