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58. Thank you.

Reply to Binkie The Clown (Reply #11)

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Are You Prepared for the Death of a Loved One? [View all] MineralMan Jan 2021 OP

One thing I never expected was losing my daughter padfun Jan 2021 #1

How sad malaise Jan 2021 #40

My father had chronic health problems and had preplanned a lot just like you suggest. Girard442 Jan 2021 #2

Yes. It is one of the best gifts you can give your next of kin. MineralMan Jan 2021 #4

My mom did that for me Mossfern Jan 2021 #53

And clean up your memorabilia. plimsoll Jan 2021 #30

Thank you MM for your generosity in sharing this with us. FM123 Jan 2021 #3

And that's just the beginning. MineralMan Jan 2021 #5

I don't know about California, plimsoll Jan 2021 #33

Fortunately, that is not the case for me. MineralMan Jan 2021 #51

Dear MineralMan MLAA Jan 2021 #6

No, my sister is still alive, but has pretty advanced Alzheimer's. MineralMan Jan 2021 #77

I love the birthday cards with $20 you are sending. MLAA Jan 2021 #98

Periodically this topic comes up here, PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #7

Well, many people have real issues in dealing with their own deaths. MineralMan Jan 2021 #16

I am like you, extremely practical and PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #23

My father had no health care directive. He had talked to me, though, MineralMan Jan 2021 #29

In one respect I envy them. plimsoll Jan 2021 #36

MM, isn't it rigged up so that a cremation is as high as a regular burial? mobeau69 Jan 2021 #8

I arranged for cremation of my wife, my aunt, and my mother. Binkie The Clown Jan 2021 #11

Thank you. mobeau69 Jan 2021 #58

Not really. If you prearrange and pay, and do not want any services MineralMan Jan 2021 #12

The cremation part is relatively inexpensive, plimsoll Jan 2021 #43

Our father just died on 1/11. His family has an underground phylny Jan 2021 #48

It is a huge problem for many people. MineralMan Jan 2021 #50

Thank you. mobeau69 Jan 2021 #56

I just want to second what MM said here. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #24

It can be. Mariana Jan 2021 #76

I'm so sorry for your loss. CrispyQ Jan 2021 #9

Thanks! MineralMan Jan 2021 #13

Thank you snowybirdie Jan 2021 #10

Dealing with cemeteries is maddening. nini Jan 2021 #14

It can be, for sure. Fortunately, I found the papers. MineralMan Jan 2021 #18

After my mom died nini Jan 2021 #104

Sorry for your losses Horse with no Name Jan 2021 #15

My sisters, my mom's oldest granddaughter and I prearranged everything yellowdogintexas Jan 2021 #20

My mother donated her body to the cadaver lab at a nearby medical school. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #26

My father-in-law did the same thing. BlueDawn Jan 2021 #86

Sorry For Your Loses, Thank You for Sharing This.. Stuart G Jan 2021 #17

my aunt & uncle had pre arranged cremation through a cremation society yellowdogintexas Jan 2021 #19

The Cremation Society is a good organization, for sure. MineralMan Jan 2021 #21

One of my neighbors died in a house fire two years ago... QED Jan 2021 #22

Our big shock: After my folks spent $20,000 on a prepaid funeral for both of them ... marble falls Jan 2021 #25

I'm just doing what's needful, really. MineralMan Jan 2021 #32

And just a reminder, have a will TexasBushwhacker Jan 2021 #27

People think they'll live forever. That's why. MineralMan Jan 2021 #34

Also bucolic_frolic Jan 2021 #28

Excellent advice TNNurse Jan 2021 #31

Thanks. I am glad they died on the same day. MineralMan Jan 2021 #44

I have a double name, Alice Beth TNNurse Jan 2021 #60

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Condolences 💐😢😢 OhNo-Really Jan 2021 #35

Thanks so much. MineralMan Jan 2021 #45

Oh. Those tears again. You're welcome OhNo-Really Jan 2021 #91

Great post malaise Jan 2021 #37

Having a small life insurance policy helps DeminPennswoods Jan 2021 #38

Thank You kooth Jan 2021 #39

Very eye opening Traildogbob Jan 2021 #41

Here's a tip for you: MineralMan Jan 2021 #47

Thank yo so much Traildogbob Jan 2021 #63

It's my pleasure. MineralMan Jan 2021 #64

Don't forget the titles to cars, too. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #73

Yes! My father, bless his heart, MineralMan Jan 2021 #79

My dad wrote his own obituary prior to his death. Of course that is not possible for everyone beaglelover Jan 2021 #42

One other thing to handle: Tracer Jan 2021 #46

Not in my case. I do not believe my parents had been in a church, except MineralMan Jan 2021 #49

Yes, picking out outfit was hard cally Jan 2021 #106

My husband and his Mom Marthe48 Jan 2021 #52

Well, I've been writing instructional materials for decades MineralMan Jan 2021 #55

My Spouse, her parents and I all went with The Neptune Society Operaweeble Jan 2021 #54

My wife's mother grew up in a small town in South Dakota MineralMan Jan 2021 #61

Perfect Hekate Jan 2021 #94

Mineral Man, I am sorry for your loss and appreciate you sharing your story OMGWTF Jan 2021 #57

Thanks for this thread, MM and the posts borne from it. yonder Jan 2021 #59

MM sorry for the lose of your parents. Very helpful as it's incumbent upon me to plan for my demise Cozmo Jan 2021 #62

Don't forget CostCo sells caskets for about half price of what funeral homes charge. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #65

At most funeral home sites, MineralMan Jan 2021 #68

In our case, the Costco casket was exactly the same casket but $5000 Cheaper. flying_wahini Jan 2021 #74

I'm so sorry for your loss, & thank you for sharing valuable advice. CaptainTruth Jan 2021 #66

We lost my father in law two years ago Gothmog Jan 2021 #67

It is, indeed, a mess. MineralMan Jan 2021 #69

My mom did a wonderful job. roamer65 Jan 2021 #70

Good for her! She was taking care of her children. MineralMan Jan 2021 #71

Everything is in a revocable living trust. roamer65 Jan 2021 #72

Perfect. That simplifies everything. MineralMan Jan 2021 #81

Yup. roamer65 Jan 2021 #89

Banks make it difficult to gain access to accounts cally Jan 2021 #107

Nope not ours. roamer65 Jan 2021 #108

This is great advice Mineral Man FakeNoose Jan 2021 #75

Thanks. Glad to hear it. MineralMan Jan 2021 #78

Thank you, and sympathies on your loss. More important things to keep in mind: Liberty Belle Jan 2021 #80

Thanks for your additional pointers. MineralMan Jan 2021 #84

Oh I went thru this and still am. Hope it doesn't get worse for you like for me GusBob Jan 2021 #82

My parents had an excellent attorney, who I'm working with now. MineralMan Jan 2021 #85

Most Individuals Aren't Prepared at All.... LovingA2andMI Jan 2021 #83

All my ducks are in a row to make it simple for my SO Roisin Ni Fiachra Jan 2021 #87

That's great! MineralMan Jan 2021 #88

My partner passed away unexpectedly Thanksgiving weekend Colorado Liberal Jan 2021 #90

Thanks for sharing that. MineralMan Jan 2021 #99

This message was self-deleted by its author Blue_true Jan 2021 #92

The deaths of both parents is the hardest. Blue_true Jan 2021 #93

Yes. Thanks! MineralMan Jan 2021 #100

Thank you so much for starting this topic, MM Hekate Jan 2021 #95

Sharing what I learn is what I do. It always has been. MineralMan Jan 2021 #101

I am sorry for your loss h2ebits Jan 2021 #96

Thanks for your additional ideas. MineralMan Jan 2021 #102

Thank you MM. Delmette2.0 Jan 2021 #97

You're very wise. MineralMan Jan 2021 #103

Things I learned after handling my Mother's affairs cally Jan 2021 #105