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52. That mirrors what I've always told my daughter.

If you are graced with love it is to be celebrated. Period.

I've said it any number of times, and I've tried to live the example be it same gender, opposing religions, or multi-cultural couples. One of the most astounding events for me, as a parent was when one of her friends was staying with us for a weekend and the subject of a gay girl in the high school came up. The girl's parents were not dealing with her at all well--to the point that they'd threatened to throw her out of the house unless she "gave up the gay stuff."

When they brought it up I noticed my daughter's friend (H) looking sideways at me waiting to see my response. My daughter noticed it too, and started laughing. Her comment to (H) was it was ok to talk to me about it--that I was "cool" with it. (H) asked me directly what I thought about it all, and I told her that I figured that poor kid had been through enough in her life just figuring out and accepting who she was given our societal attitudes about GLBT issues. I said that child really probably just needed to hear one adult in her life tell her that love is a gift to be celebrated and that she was worthy of that gift. Both girls agreed with me and we all talked about how awful it must be to be gay in a small town high school and how the hate words get thrown around ALL the time.

(H) made the comment was that she doubted her own mom would ever say that same thing. She said she'd heard her mom use derogatory terms and that she'd never attempt to have any conversation with her own mom about any gay friends she has.

Made me sad.



Laura