Why is it some men get all offended if a woman they don't know is wary around them?

[JoePhilly]

62. I was playing golf once with a guy I worked with ...

And we talked about work, projects, some family stuff, so on ...

Around the 16th hole, he said ... "I notice you don't talk about how attractive the women we work with are." He told me how many of our peers spent lots of time talking about the "hot women".

He and I worked in a development and marketing group, and being attractive was part of the job description for those in marketing ... especially for the women (old grey hair guys appear to have "experience" ... but I digress).

I said ... (paraphrased) "Well, we do work with lots of attractive women, but for me to be successful, I need to make sure that the marketing team, male or female, knows the product details and can explain them. And I'm very happily married, so while I might find some of our female colleagues attractive, that's not an area of focus for me, professionally or personally".

As an aside ... the woman who made the "only a virgin once" comment that I mentioned ... I actually think she was comfortable saying that to me because she did not see me as a workplace threat. If she did see me a a threat, she'd never say that. I actually think she was displaying a level of comfort making an off-color joke in front of me, that I would have never been comfortable making in front of her. But at the time, it scared the crap out of me. Might she claim I said it??? No one else heard it. Ahhhhhh.