Why is it some men get all offended if a woman they don't know is wary around them?

[tblue37]

168. Please see my post 165 below. It might help you understand why women feel violated

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when strange men approach them in public and try to chat them up. Most men who do that do not stop until they are cut off curtly, and then they usually do take offense. We have experienced it, often. Just because you do not have a history of being subjected to such experiences, that doesn't mean that it is not upsetting and often terrifying for us when we are subjected to that experience.

I assume (hope) that if you tried to chat up a strange woman and she indicated that she did not want your attentions, you would back off.

But most of us women have had a lot of experience that tells us that men who approach us uninvited in public and try to chat us up will not back off willingly. No matter when we indicate that we no longer wish to chat (read "flirt," because that is what they are aiming at, and what they are demanding that we do in return), at that point they become annoyed at the very least, and often furious and threatening toward us for daring to rebuff their advances, no matter how politely or unoffensively we try to do it.

If we try to cut off the "flirtation" at the first "Hi" or the first question, they get angry. If we try to end it at any other point, they get angry. They do not think we have a right to refuse their advances at all.

When a woman has been subjected to many such approaches, she will naturally become wary of any strange man who approaches her uninvited and tries to strike up a conversation. And when she has had many such experiences, it is not unreasonable for her to make a general comment noting that such men tend to get pissed when we do not wish to chat with them, and wondering why they should get so pissed off, when they had no right to demand our attention in the first place.

Remember, when a strange man approaches a woman like that and persists in trying to chat when she doesn't indicate a willingness to chat with him, what he is doing is trying to force a flirtation on her. Flirtation is what such chatting is about, and no one has a right to force a woman to flirt with him, even if he knows her, but certainly not if she is a complete stranger!