Why is it some men get all offended if a woman they don't know is wary around them?

[felix_numinous]

254. This thread reminded me of Gavin De Becker's book

Gift of Fear, I thought it was really excellent and clear. I like the way he encourages us all to honor our instincts.

Here is a site with his quotes, and here is one that seems to apply to this thread:

“intuition is always right in at least two important ways;
It is always in response to something.
it always has your best interest at heart”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/31933.Gavin_de_Becker

Here is another site listing his survival signals.

The capable face-to-face criminal is an expert at keeping his victim from seeing survival signals, but the very methods he uses to conceal them can reveal them.
1. FORCED TEAMING (The Gift of Fear, by Gavin de Becker, pg. 64-66):
Forced teaming is an effective way to establish premature trust because a we’re-in-the-same-boat attitude is hard to rebuff without feeling rude. Sharing a predicament, like being stuck in an elevator or arriving simultaneously at a just-closed store, will understandably move people around social boundaries. But forced teaming is not about coincidence; it is intentional and directed, and it is one of the most sophisticated manipulations. The detectable signal of forced teaming is the projection of a shared purpose or experience where none exists: “Both of us”; “We’re on the same team”; “How are we going to handle this?”; “Now we’ve done it,” etc.

http://www.womynwarrior.com/2011/06/gavin-de-beckers-survival-signals

Anyone who thinks this is paranoid has not been forced in a situation. Trust your instinct