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Sympthsical

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46. Yeah, we're on the same page

Fri Feb 26, 2021, 06:33 AM

Feb 2021

I was reading on Reddit earlier a whole sub-thread about why straight men will say something about having sex with other men and follow it up with "No homo."

To me, it signals that the straight guy is totally chill with gay people and making light/a joke in signalling it. No one's making a breezy, funny comment about blowing his best friend if he's homophobic.

So, "No homo!" doesn't offend me at all. I always crack a smile at those subthreads were straight guys out-gay each other in the comments. It's deeply amusing.

And then the Super Serious decided to chime in about how homophobic it all is.

It's like, you're defeating the purpose in complaining. This is straight people adjusting and accepting us. It's part of the process. It's not meant offensively. Why get offended and go into lecture mode?

So frustrating.

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'Françaises, Français': Why the French language need not be so sexist [View all] Klaralven Feb 2021 OP

The C-circumflex does not show up in thread titles. MineralMan Feb 2021 #1

Put in a regular C to make the title more readable. Klaralven Feb 2021 #3

workaround for the cedilla muriel_volestrangler Feb 2021 #10

Thank you! Klaralven Feb 2021 #11

Not quite the debate DarthDem Feb 2021 #4

Well, it is sort of changing the language. MineralMan Feb 2021 #6

It's strange to see the somewhat new practice of using "they" and "them" as singular. JustABozoOnThisBus Feb 2021 #19

A lot of it is just using plural nouns, so you can use they and them. MineralMan Feb 2021 #21

To be pedantic (in keeping with many of the replies to this OP!), singular they/them is not new. Emrys Feb 2021 #26

I bow to your pedanticism. Who'd'a thought to look to the 14th century? JustABozoOnThisBus Feb 2021 #31

Impossible to change? Act_of_Reparation Feb 2021 #8

Not in the same way French is. MineralMan Feb 2021 #9

I'm not talking about Modern English. Act_of_Reparation Mar 2021 #59

Languages change constantly, through usage. MineralMan Mar 2021 #60

American "equalization" is simpler and in most uses is simplifying Hortensis Feb 2021 #32

I was wondering when this particular aspect Miguelito Loveless Feb 2021 #2

"Gender" in linguistic terms is just a semantic/grammatical label. Emrys Feb 2021 #5

Yes, but the gendered nature of languages has an unconscious impact. MineralMan Feb 2021 #7

It does, but in modern English, gender isn't embedded in the grammar as it is in French. Emrys Feb 2021 #12

Yes. Writers and editors have to pay a lot of attention to usage. MineralMan Feb 2021 #14

True... did you know that... Happy Hoosier Feb 2021 #15

Add it to the pile of more or less useless facts I contributed myself above! Emrys Feb 2021 #24

As someone learning German.... it's a pain in the ass! NT Happy Hoosier Feb 2021 #13

Recite after me: Emrys Feb 2021 #25

Interestingly, it's not "just" a semantic/grammatical label. WhiskeyGrinder Feb 2021 #27

Yes, there are nuances there. Emrys Feb 2021 #30

Interesting. In Spanish it depends often on treestar Feb 2021 #51

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It's always that way leftstreet Feb 2021 #22

I love when people get offended *for* me Sympthsical Feb 2021 #33

interesting analyisis Skittles Feb 2021 #43

Just my personal experience Sympthsical Feb 2021 #44

I do understand Skittles Feb 2021 #45

Yeah, we're on the same page Sympthsical Feb 2021 #46

Really interesting, we outsiders struggle to see the toxicity apnu Feb 2021 #48

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It's coming though! treestar Feb 2021 #53

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