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apnu

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50. You are fucking amazing

Fri Feb 26, 2021, 01:50 PM

Feb 2021

Not a joke. Thanks. Hands down the most real and honest response I've heard on the subject of allies in a long time.

When I'm quiet, I mean trying to speak of/for other people. You're right its best to show empathy and follow social queues when interacting. That's universal. I don't want to be the woke explainer bro, that's no good for anybody.

What I'm not quiet about is when I'm hearing bullshit from my own tribe: straight white men. I hear them talking racist shit, or sexist shit, or anti-gay shit, I call it out loud for everyone to hear. Fuck all that, not on my watch.

I know I have magical privilege powers. Straight white men will more likely listen to me than everybody else. So that's my role as ally -- telling other's in my tribe that shit isn't allowed anymore.

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'Françaises, Français': Why the French language need not be so sexist [View all] Klaralven Feb 2021 OP

The C-circumflex does not show up in thread titles. MineralMan Feb 2021 #1

Put in a regular C to make the title more readable. Klaralven Feb 2021 #3

workaround for the cedilla muriel_volestrangler Feb 2021 #10

Thank you! Klaralven Feb 2021 #11

Not quite the debate DarthDem Feb 2021 #4

Well, it is sort of changing the language. MineralMan Feb 2021 #6

It's strange to see the somewhat new practice of using "they" and "them" as singular. JustABozoOnThisBus Feb 2021 #19

A lot of it is just using plural nouns, so you can use they and them. MineralMan Feb 2021 #21

To be pedantic (in keeping with many of the replies to this OP!), singular they/them is not new. Emrys Feb 2021 #26

I bow to your pedanticism. Who'd'a thought to look to the 14th century? JustABozoOnThisBus Feb 2021 #31

Impossible to change? Act_of_Reparation Feb 2021 #8

Not in the same way French is. MineralMan Feb 2021 #9

I'm not talking about Modern English. Act_of_Reparation Mar 2021 #59

Languages change constantly, through usage. MineralMan Mar 2021 #60

American "equalization" is simpler and in most uses is simplifying Hortensis Feb 2021 #32

I was wondering when this particular aspect Miguelito Loveless Feb 2021 #2

"Gender" in linguistic terms is just a semantic/grammatical label. Emrys Feb 2021 #5

Yes, but the gendered nature of languages has an unconscious impact. MineralMan Feb 2021 #7

It does, but in modern English, gender isn't embedded in the grammar as it is in French. Emrys Feb 2021 #12

Yes. Writers and editors have to pay a lot of attention to usage. MineralMan Feb 2021 #14

True... did you know that... Happy Hoosier Feb 2021 #15

Add it to the pile of more or less useless facts I contributed myself above! Emrys Feb 2021 #24

As someone learning German.... it's a pain in the ass! NT Happy Hoosier Feb 2021 #13

Recite after me: Emrys Feb 2021 #25

Interestingly, it's not "just" a semantic/grammatical label. WhiskeyGrinder Feb 2021 #27

Yes, there are nuances there. Emrys Feb 2021 #30

Interesting. In Spanish it depends often on treestar Feb 2021 #51

Speaking of language issues, the phrase "tabled a bill" needs to die Silent3 Feb 2021 #16

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This is like the LatinX thing Sympthsical Feb 2021 #17

It's always that way leftstreet Feb 2021 #22

I love when people get offended *for* me Sympthsical Feb 2021 #33

interesting analyisis Skittles Feb 2021 #43

Just my personal experience Sympthsical Feb 2021 #44

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Yeah, we're on the same page Sympthsical Feb 2021 #46

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But the thing is, I don't want you to be quiet Sympthsical Feb 2021 #49

You are fucking amazing apnu Feb 2021 #50

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:) No editors, but a typist for my reports always changed Hortensis Feb 2021 #34

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