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In reply to the discussion: If the HUNDREDS of men who sexually harrassed me got locked up, they would need 48576 jails [View all]Warpy
(111,243 posts)and was never the one to "make nice" when I was a kid because my parents had moved south and I didn't like southerners all that much that I wanted to be nice to them, especially the creepers.
Did I get passed over for promotions or other perks? Probably, but I worked corporate type jobs very seldom and only when I was desperate enough to take day jobs. Since I wasn't angling for promotions and lunch with the boss seemed like a grisly proposition, I didn't miss them.
We have to do better at raising girls to speak up instead of being nice. Too many men out there need to be told where our boundaries are and they're never going to learn unless we tell them.
Only when telling men where our boundaries are is commonplace will men stop punishing us for informing them.