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63. We just rolled our eyes. Frankly she wasn't the worst racist in either of our families.

Thu Mar 11, 2021, 05:13 PM

Mar 2021

I remember the first Jewish wedding I went to in my extended family.

It wasn't pretty.

It was funny, because the kid getting married was the son of the first guy in our family to marry a Puerto Rican.

Come to think of it - I never met the bastard - but I'm told that my grandfather once slapped one of my aunts for "talking to an Italian Boy." My sons' genetic heritage is 1/4 Italian.

Come to think of it, my wife's Grandfather almost refused to come to my mother-in-law's wedding because she was marrying an Italian - full blooded, 1st generation.

The more we marry each other, the more peace we'll have. I have to hand it to Harry Windsor. He was born a "Prince," but in leaving his "Princely" life behind he actually became a Prince.

Except for him, I have very little respect for "royalty."

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When I was a child... [View all] Solly Mack Mar 2021 OP

Thank you for that heartfelt explanation. Your mother-in-law's type of ignorance, Atticus Mar 2021 #1

Solly Mack, this is very moving and movingly written. I'm white, Oldem Mar 2021 #2

I go through life with white skin and people see that first Solly Mack Mar 2021 #46

I'm not able to make a rec yet. lpbk2713 Mar 2021 #3

Thank you for posting; and I am so sorry for the racism and pain you experienced. lucca18 Mar 2021 #4

Kicking and reccing. I just wish that I could wave a magic wand, and make all the pain and niyad Mar 2021 #5

Thanks for sharing this hurtful personal story. It reminds me that I have family records abqtommy Mar 2021 #6

I live in the Flathead! Would be ecstatic to hear more Maru Kitteh Mar 2021 #19

My great-great-grandmother and her husband lived in Kalispell. That's where my abqtommy Mar 2021 #27

It's a big world and a small world, all at the same time. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #44

Yes, it's a big world for big hurts and a small world for small hurts and some of us are abqtommy Mar 2021 #52

I sometimes despair and I sometimes say "Fuck'em". Solly Mack Mar 2021 #64

Yes. It's awfully good to make your acquaintance. abqtommy Mar 2021 #68

Thank you Solly Mack! alwaysinasnit Mar 2021 #7

Multigrain people get extra points from me. multigraincracker Mar 2021 #8

Multigrain people! lol I just say I'm a Heinz 57. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #42

I like that! "Multigrain people" - so much more delicious and flavorful than white bread! calimary Mar 2021 #47

Yep, pure bred dogs are a result of multigraincracker Mar 2021 #65

We've ALWAYS had good luck with mutts. calimary Mar 2021 #72

We love our multigraincracker Mar 2021 #73

LOL, I can relate... lambchopp59 Mar 2021 #94

My stepdaughter, who is half Irish, half Italian Mr.Bill Mar 2021 #9

We always ask, "What do you need?" (after any medical thing, even birth). Maybe one day that will be Solly Mack Mar 2021 #40

Today that baby is 34 years old and Mr.Bill Mar 2021 #51

My wife heard a similar remark from my mother-in-law. NNadir Mar 2021 #10

I'm sorry your wife had to be on the receiving end of that comment. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #38

We just rolled our eyes. Frankly she wasn't the worst racist in either of our families. NNadir Mar 2021 #63

Thank you for the excellent post. I have an ethnic heritage that led to decades of crap. I will Evolve Dammit Mar 2021 #11

We are a multi-ethnic family as well. A true melting pot of flavorful stew. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #37

I never envisioned it to be what the torn-off bandaid of the last 4 years has revealed. Evolve Dammit Mar 2021 #53

The thing is, the Trump years didn't bring any surprises as far as racism is concerned. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #55

That is true. It just was given permission to come forward and the flames fanned. A disgrace IMHO. Evolve Dammit Mar 2021 #78

Agreed. Promoted, encouraged, and praised. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #80

years ago i saw a young woman on tv (probably in her 20s) orleans Mar 2021 #54

Rainbows are beautiful. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #57

lol. thanks for the chuckle! nt orleans Mar 2021 #59

lol. thanks for the chuckle! nt orleans Mar 2021 #60

Thank you, my dear Solly Mack, for your bedrock post. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2021 #12

Thank you! MineralMan Mar 2021 #13

There is always homegirl Mar 2021 #14

Wondering if a child will have red hair isn't the same as wondering if they'll be black or white Solly Mack Mar 2021 #36

Best explanation that I have seen or heard. h2ebits Mar 2021 #15

I'm white because my skin is white and that's what people first see. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #35

Thank you Solly Mack, great post. Your wise words ring with truth from personal experience. c-rational Mar 2021 #16

Racism is why I am the only sibling living in the Caribbean malaise Mar 2021 #17

We kept to our own family for the most part while growing up. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #32

My MIL's first words about me: "What is she?" Maru Kitteh Mar 2021 #18

I'm sorry that happened to you. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #28

Solly, thank you for sharing your experience and feelings. TygrBright Mar 2021 #20

KnR. Thanks for sharing your experience with us all. And you're spot on, it's the damage and pain iluvtennis Mar 2021 #21

Thank you for such a comprehensive and eye-opening view that you have shared with us. secondwind Mar 2021 #22

I agree with you on all points. But , wouldn't you say that mixed race people are demigoddess Mar 2021 #23

I wouldn't say that, no. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #26

I have to agree with you, on a personal level of what I find attractive. Combining Maraya1969 Mar 2021 #76

I wish I could give this post 100 recs! Tanuki Mar 2021 #24

I love this!! KT2000 Mar 2021 #25

That's exactly what happened and in an instant too. Like a blow across the face. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #86

Thanks Solly Mack. spanone Mar 2021 #29

I was born in Dallas in 1944. Mickju Mar 2021 #30

Thanks for sharing and I can relate 100%! IrishAfricanAmerican Mar 2021 #31

I look forward to the day when speculation about skin color Warpy Mar 2021 #33

Margaret Cho was doing a routine one night when she said a person asked her how to Solly Mack Mar 2021 #77

That kind of question has never occurred to me Warpy Mar 2021 #84

Best advice I was ever given was to shut up and listen. That was over 50 years ago. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #85

Interesting, that incident. soldierant Mar 2021 #87

You were hoping to learn something new but not everyone has a good motive. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #88

I was - and I did - I learned I was better off as a human being without soldierant Mar 2021 #103

But because you opened yourself up to a new experience, you learned something even better. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #104

Thank you. I'm still trying. soldierant Mar 2021 #106

When my wife was in high school, she was either dating or friends with a boy of Italian descent. BobTheSubgenius Mar 2021 #34

Goodness. Family drama abounds in my own family. But that's a story for a time that will Solly Mack Mar 2021 #48

Thank you for this, Solly Mack Hekate Mar 2021 #39

Thank you for sharing your story so eloquently PatSeg Mar 2021 #41

❤ nt littlemissmartypants Mar 2021 #43

Thank you for opening up with your very personal truths. denvine Mar 2021 #45

Well said and on the money. Thank You. Magoo48 Mar 2021 #49

The worst type of racism comes from people who don't think they are. Aussie105 Mar 2021 #50

Thank You kooth Mar 2021 #56

It should go without saying... Behind the Aegis Mar 2021 #58

True. The labels may change but the fear and ignorance seems to cling tightly. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #61

Thank you for writing. Joinfortmill Mar 2021 #62

K&R JohnnyRingo Mar 2021 #66

Mine got thinner, noticeably so, on one side. I found that annoying. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #69

Strength and love and K&R. WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2021 #67

Right on, Solly Mack, right on! MLAA Mar 2021 #70

K & R chowder66 Mar 2021 #71

That was a great post Solly samplegirl Mar 2021 #74

How horrible for your sister and you! Solly Mack Mar 2021 #75

I just have say this samplegirl Mar 2021 #82

A great post! yellerpup Mar 2021 #79

Thanks for sharing this cate94 Mar 2021 #81

Thank you seta1950 Mar 2021 #83

Thank you for posting this MustLoveBeagles Mar 2021 #89

I hope Meghan and Harry do better over here and eventually the peeps on the other side of the pond TigressDem Mar 2021 #90

aye aye Roc2020 Mar 2021 #91

I'm white and can't believe it took me 50:years to see how stupid most whites are lostnfound Mar 2021 #92

Great post! Solly Mack Mar 2021 #101

K & R mountain grammy Mar 2021 #93

WHY do people feel entitled to ask stupid questions??? Moosepoop Mar 2021 #95

Because they hold one idea of the world and they think they're being nice, not stupid. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #100

What a poignant post flibbitygiblets Mar 2021 #96

Sadly, there are so many stories out there with mine being one of the minor ones. Solly Mack Mar 2021 #102

i don't care if it was his father or his brother (convinced it's one or the other), barbtries Mar 2021 #97

Thank you Wild blueberry Mar 2021 #98

Wonderful post, sorry that you and your mother had to endure that kind of behavior. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2021 #99

Heard former Sen. Carl Levin yesterday... Kid Berwyn Mar 2021 #105