When I was a child...

[Solly Mack]

100. Because they hold one idea of the world and they think they're being nice, not stupid.

Within that framework of how they see the world and how they arrange everyone's place in it, they can only see people through that filter.

You seemed to be one of them but your child - something not quite right to their thinking. Their prejudice shining through though they would call it concern or being polite.

That's not an excuse I'm offering.

I've thought about this a lot. Why people would even be stupid enough to ask such questions.

An old DUer who is no longer around talked about the fish not knowing it is in water.

Some people don't know they're behaving in a way shaped by prejudice and ignorance. Some don't care if they are - will never bother to learn differently or simply don't think it is them that need to change.

Children do pick up on adult conversations and it does cause a lot of pain for them. Their minds are still forming and now they have this fear, this trauma to process. It can be very confusing.

I am so sorry you and your daughter had to experience that.