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TlalocW

(15,673 posts)
16. Not always lies
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 11:55 AM
Jan 2012

I befriended a stripper (outside the strip club) while I was in grad school, and she was in vet school. She and her roommate both stripped just part of the year and made enough to attend college, rent a nice house, and drive pretty modern cars. At one point, they were considering looking at working at clubs in other cities or doing private parties and asked me to come along with them to feel safe and asked me about being their bodyguard if they did parties. Ultimately, they decided on neither which is good because while I'm a big guy, I'm probably not the bodyguard type.

I remember the school paper did an article on students that stripped (mainly because of the hubbub it created on campus). They were mentioned in it saying that it was easy work, only had to be done a few nights a week, got them more money than other jobs, and ultimately wasn't sexual for them after a while because they said they would think about what laundry they needed to do, etc. while whirling around the pole.

I'm not saying it's like this for everyone, but much like my friend's costumes, your blanket statement in this case doesn't cover everything.

TlalocW

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To be fair, I've heard women say all of those things as well. Codeine Jan 2012 #1
What is this "fair" of which you speak? n/t lumberjack_jeff Jan 2012 #14
That wouldn't be bigoted or inflammatory enough. leeroysphitz Jan 2012 #28
Are you implying the TOS should apply to males? You... you... you misogynist! Zalatix Jan 2012 #60
Oh, women can say much, much worse. Wait Wut Jan 2012 #36
Women are people too, yes, and equally capable of being nasty to other people. redqueen Jan 2012 #45
"lies men tell themselves" .... it is all about me. nt seabeyond Jan 2012 #2
Ah, yes. She should be grateful is another. nt Snake Alchemist Jan 2012 #5
She really likes me and she's having fun! She's totally not just saying that for good tips. redqueen Jan 2012 #3
how about "she tells me I'm the best lover of all of her clients." CTyankee Jan 2012 #31
Ding ding ding!!! Marie Marie Jan 2012 #65
what's with all the prostitution, stripping, sex, violence, men, women threads? Liberal_in_LA Jan 2012 #4
I dared to post a thread about the link between prostitution and violence. redqueen Jan 2012 #6
There are advantages to train-wrecks... LanternWaste Jan 2012 #15
That's because the link is between ILLEGAL prostitution and violence. EOTE Jan 2012 #17
you started something big! lol Liberal_in_LA Jan 2012 #35
It seems to be the only real issue these days Ichingcarpenter Jan 2012 #10
Post removed Post removed Jan 2012 #13
Women are a disenfranchised minority group in almost every culture. redqueen Jan 2012 #32
Women are a majority group in the US. n/t Lance_Boyle Jan 2012 #39
*sigh* Sociological minority != statistical minority. redqueen Jan 2012 #40
Women have also enjoyed the right to vote (enfranchisement) for damn near a century. Lance_Boyle Jan 2012 #47
FFS. Look up 'disenfrachisement'. redqueen Jan 2012 #50
glad I missed it. love that emoticon Liberal_in_LA Jan 2012 #49
AGREED Mr Dixon Jan 2012 #37
they were abused by men in their life so now they hide the fact that they leftyohiolib Jan 2012 #7
they cant find a job and have children to feed leftyohiolib Jan 2012 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author DrDan Jan 2012 #9
Any of those things could be true or false. Every person is different. phleshdef Jan 2012 #11
nobody else will fuck me. Warren Stupidity Jan 2012 #12
Not always lies TlalocW Jan 2012 #16
The lies men tell themselves about the Demon Rum! DefenseLawyer Jan 2012 #18
The lies people tell themselves about bar tenders The Straight Story Jan 2012 #24
It's consentual Hugabear Jan 2012 #19
No one here supports anyone being forced to do a job that they don't want to do. EOTE Jan 2012 #22
I know what's best for them, so prostitution should be illegal. NT EOTE Jan 2012 #20
and all her customers are nice, clean gentlemen Whisp Jan 2012 #21
They all arrive in Rolls Royces and wear tuxedoes. nt Snake Alchemist Jan 2012 #27
Another one: theAntiRand Jan 2012 #23
"She hates doing this, other people have told me that all prostitutes are victims and I am the perp" The Straight Story Jan 2012 #25
You can talk about care bears with me if you want. DisgustipatedinCA Jan 2012 #29
Ya got a 900 number? The Straight Story Jan 2012 #30
she couldn't possibly See Beyond my opinions about sexuality Schema Thing Jan 2012 #26
NOT a lie... "I Like looking at young naked Women." Froward69 Jan 2012 #33
Yes, we get the message: Men are mosnters; women are saints. nt Speck Tater Jan 2012 #34
How about kctim Jan 2012 #38
Hooray For Broad Brush Attacks! NeedleCast Jan 2012 #41
No kidding. Wait Wut Jan 2012 #43
Prostitute does not equal Stripper superpatriotman Jan 2012 #42
Same category...sex trade. Wait Wut Jan 2012 #46
Respectfully superpatriotman Jan 2012 #52
Adult Entertainment is about... Wait Wut Jan 2012 #56
No RZM Jan 2012 #57
Yes. Wait Wut Jan 2012 #58
That's not how 'sex trade' is commonly used RZM Jan 2012 #59
6) They have no right to make their own decisions - we will force them to stop and it will be for Douglas Carpenter Jan 2012 #44
Is this from personal experience? pintobean Jan 2012 #48
Here's more thelordofhell Jan 2012 #51
She's not taking any unusual risks in providing this service to me marions ghost Jan 2012 #53
You have some of the best ones. nt Snake Alchemist Jan 2012 #54
+1 redqueen Jan 2012 #63
Wait - do you mean justifying what hookers do or justifying using them? HopeHoops Jan 2012 #55
"She needs rescuing". n/t lumberjack_jeff Jan 2012 #61
I went to bar in NYC with two friends over New Years. There was a man, in his underwear, dancing on Puregonzo1188 Jan 2012 #62
LOL B Calm Jan 2012 #64
Lies thread posters tell themselves Union Scribe Jan 2012 #66
Good thing I didn't say "DU's men" in the OP. Dodged a bullet. nt Snake Alchemist Jan 2012 #67
This message was self-deleted by its author Saving Hawaii Jan 2012 #68
I sense the OP genuinely means well, JFN1 Jan 2012 #69
I see you got the "Men's Rights" people out of their holes. Odin2005 Jan 2012 #70
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