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yewberry

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29. READ THIS MM!

Wed Apr 28, 2021, 11:30 AM

Apr 2021

Disclaimer: I have nothing to gain by providing this information. I am a member of a local branch of the Funeral Consumer Alliance and nothing more.

I'm a member of the People's Memorial Association, a Washington co-op that advocates for and provides education about end-of-life planning. There are links to other groups across the US on their website here:
https://peoplesmemorial.org/membership/why-be-a-member/

There are discounted rates for burial, cremation, funeral services & green options for members. There are also informational resources (downloadable documents and grief support links) for non-members.

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One More Reason to Pre-Plan Your Funeral and to Consider Cremation [View all] MineralMan Apr 2021 OP

Thank you. piddyprints Apr 2021 #1

I don't begrudge my parents for not doing the arrangements. MineralMan Apr 2021 #9

MM I am so sorry you have gone through this. AllyCat Apr 2021 #53

Fortunately, my parents had receive the stimulus payment MineralMan Apr 2021 #66

Thank you. Good info. Just weird how the stimulus was supposed to go to anyone alive through AllyCat Apr 2021 #82

You can get a FREE grave marker or tombstone for your loved one if they served in the military. Farmer-Rick Apr 2021 #83

That's true, and I checked into that. MineralMan Apr 2021 #84

Sorry to hear that. Farmer-Rick May 2021 #99

Told my Children 4Q2u2 Apr 2021 #2

Right on point exboyfil Apr 2021 #3

Here we have the Memorial Society of Georgia... Phentex Apr 2021 #4

I wrote a note in huge letters exboyfil Apr 2021 #12

One of the problems is that the funeral home industry has consolidated MineralMan Apr 2021 #24

Cremation definitely. After dealing with funeral homes at least 4 times in my life, never want to Hoyt Apr 2021 #5

I shut down the funeral home's upselling efforts instantly. MineralMan Apr 2021 #15

LOL jmbar2 Apr 2021 #32

There you go! MineralMan Apr 2021 #42

Frigging disgusting jmbar2 Apr 2021 #46

In many places, funeral homes are a monopoly. MineralMan Apr 2021 #51

My family is pretty stingy with funerals jmbar2 Apr 2021 #56

It seems to be a racket pandr32 Apr 2021 #47

Depending upon where you live... SergeStorms Apr 2021 #73

Thank you for this heavy, heartfelt, and no doubt difficult post, MM. The death industry is niyad Apr 2021 #6

I'm doing fine. Thanks very much. MineralMan Apr 2021 #21

Your posts will remain as excellent guidelines for years on DU jmbar2 Apr 2021 #34

I will be very glad if that is the case. MineralMan Apr 2021 #36

It is. I'm taking mental notes on some of your posts. Dream Girl Apr 2021 #58

Thanks! While they're really off-topic for DU's GD forum, MineralMan Apr 2021 #67

My husband and I know we want cremation. I need to research where and how to get this started Dream Girl Apr 2021 #70

The Neptune Society is good. MineralMan Apr 2021 #80

My wife and I purchased a cremation plan Dan Apr 2021 #61

My parents planned and paid for their funerals back in the 90s MissMillie Apr 2021 #7

My body will be donated to Research for Life ChazII Apr 2021 #8

That's a wonderful plan. MLAA Apr 2021 #13

You are welcome. ChazII Apr 2021 #92

Thank you. One of my children has NF1. kiranon Apr 2021 #88

May is Neurofibromatosis Awareness ChazII Apr 2021 #93

Kick dalton99a Apr 2021 #10

If you really want to be environmentally conscious sarisataka Apr 2021 #11

I read about that briefly recently. I'll go back and read more. Thanks. MLAA Apr 2021 #14

Such a thing is not available where my parents lived, nor MineralMan Apr 2021 #16

It has only been approved sarisataka Apr 2021 #22

I really like the idea exboyfil Apr 2021 #20

Green burials are gradually becoming more available bcool Apr 2021 #30

that is my first wish. Put me in the ground and plant a tree on top. demigoddess Apr 2021 #38

+1 pandr32 Apr 2021 #48

We have plots Danmel Apr 2021 #17

Um, I don't care... brooklynite Apr 2021 #18

That's my attitude Silent3 Apr 2021 #25

I want whatever's the cheapest way to dispose of my carcass. lagomorph777 Apr 2021 #19

I pre-arranged Turbineguy Apr 2021 #23

I am definitely being cremated. My mom wanted the same thing. We still were able to bury her ashes SweetieD Apr 2021 #26

Green burial central scrutinizer Apr 2021 #27

Thank you for sharing that. MineralMan Apr 2021 #28

It was about the only positive aspect of a terminal diagnosis. central scrutinizer Apr 2021 #41

Yes. My mother had advanced Alzheimer's and died at home in hospice care. MineralMan Apr 2021 #43

What a wonderful way to send her off jmbar2 Apr 2021 #35

That is so poignant and beautiful. You both moonscape May 2021 #100

READ THIS MM! yewberry Apr 2021 #29

I understand. Sadly, if the need comes before the planning, MineralMan Apr 2021 #44

I am going to Spain when I die. CTyankee Apr 2021 #31

My wishes, which my wife knows, are for my ashes MineralMan Apr 2021 #45

I researched MA's law regarding ashes in the waterway arond the VINYARD and there were none. CTyankee Apr 2021 #71

Even if there are laws against it, those laws are not actively enforced. MineralMan Apr 2021 #81

I'll tell my son in law. I'll see them over july 4 weekend and that'l make a nice CTyankee Apr 2021 #91

Thank you so much for your post. Is cremation covered by VA or Ilsa Apr 2021 #33

There is a VA death benefit. It's not enough to cover the cost MineralMan Apr 2021 #49

I have placed several calls to our regional Ilsa Apr 2021 #95

I have been reading abut these living urns Tree Lady Apr 2021 #37

There was a man in my grief support group central scrutinizer Apr 2021 #39

My plans are easy: no obit, no funeral, no urn. Cremate me, stuff me in a box and Vinca Apr 2021 #40

My husband and I will be cremated. marie999 Apr 2021 #50

My father had VA life insurance, as well. MineralMan Apr 2021 #52

I'll settle for cremation.. Harker Apr 2021 #54

Ah yes, the 'Death Care' industry Blue Owl Apr 2021 #55

Did the word "cremains" come up? Harker Apr 2021 #60

my parents donated their bodies to science Hamlette Apr 2021 #57

I found an organization here that was unbelievably good when it was my father's time. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #59

A little anecdote I just LOVE. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #65

That's wonderful! MineralMan Apr 2021 #68

Thank you, from me and on her behalf. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #87

I'm going to plan my own funeral and put money into an account for it TlalocW Apr 2021 #62

I've let my loved ones know I want my remains scattered from a plane over San Francisco NullTuples Apr 2021 #63

That's great!!! Love it! displacedtexan Apr 2021 #72

I would like my ashes scattered someplace I love to hike Martin Eden Apr 2021 #64

Another good thing about cremation is that ashes don't all have to go MineralMan Apr 2021 #76

So much better than a concrete sarcophagus Martin Eden Apr 2021 #89

I would add to that and say go DIRECTLY to the crematorium harumph Apr 2021 #69

KnR Hekate Apr 2021 #74

I have had a range of experience between 4 deaths. Delmette2.0 Apr 2021 #75

Good points. MineralMan Apr 2021 #79

I'm donating my body to a local medical school. nt Javaman Apr 2021 #77

This message was self-deleted by its author Delmette2.0 Apr 2021 #78

First of all... WinstonSmith4740 Apr 2021 #85

Just wanted to add my thanks Colorado Liberal Apr 2021 #86

I told my kids I want to be cremated. They can go out to lunch or something but I don't Luciferous Apr 2021 #90

my father passed away 15 years ago and made ALL the arrangements. He mercifully had it all planned FlyingPiggy Apr 2021 #94

Do your family another favor jmowreader Apr 2021 #96

Yes, absolutely. MineralMan Apr 2021 #98

My dad was still alive when my mom died and took care of the arrangments dsc Apr 2021 #97