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cilla4progress

(24,587 posts)
4. As I bet others here have as well -
Mon May 3, 2021, 01:04 PM
May 2021

I've spent HOURS struggling with this!

You nailed it when you said it's about basic values, and ethics, I would add. Not to mention they are batshit cray. What are they capable of?

It's not like the old days where the differences between Rs and Ds were far more broachable - within normal range.

I've managed to maintain superficial relationships, while strictly avoiding any discussion of politics, with these friends.

I also find myself more actively seeking out relationships with those who share my views.

It is what it is, as they say.

... Nevilledog May 2021 #1
I sympathise. My wife and I had the same experience with a couple drray23 May 2021 #2
Life is too short to stand next to a smelly garbage can. That's always been my thinking. kairos12 May 2021 #97
the final choice llashram May 2021 #3
As I bet others here have as well - cilla4progress May 2021 #4
I have become more of a loner since most everyone doc03 May 2021 #5
Yeah I noticed that, too USAFRetired_Liberal May 2021 #20
If you do Facebook same thing someone can post doc03 May 2021 #38
Yep, that's what I do. slumcamper May 2021 #29
Remaining silent and looking at them with pity is another approach. LastLiberal in PalmSprings May 2021 #47
Ideological divides are to big for a band aid. cayugafalls May 2021 #6
That's good, sound perspective and advice there, cayuga. TYVM! slumcamper May 2021 #42
You're well-rid of your "friend." Paladin May 2021 #7
Amen. nt Atticus May 2021 #65
Move on. Your ex friend will excuse any behavior even murder. BlueNProud May 2021 #8
Demonstrably, he already has. dchill May 2021 #45
Same. This is pretty common, I've found. TraceNC May 2021 #9
Welcome to our DU family. niyad May 2021 #34
I can't be around so-called friends or family who are Trump Humpers. Frustratedlady May 2021 #10
Don't cast all the blame on trDUMP,.... magicarpet May 2021 #11
I can relate, as the same thing happened to me. lucca18 May 2021 #12
I empathize as I went through nearly moonscape May 2021 #13
Avoid, avoid, avoid. Baitball Blogger May 2021 #14
Same. Downtown Hound May 2021 #15
NOTE TO SELF: slumcamper May 2021 #43
Agreed, but I'd word it just a little bit differently. ShazzieB May 2021 #63
If only more Germans had done the same in the 1930's, a great tragedy could have been avoided." Evolve Dammit May 2021 #100
The disconnect from reality is too hard to deal with pandr32 May 2021 #16
I was shocked when I saw a friend's post ripcord May 2021 #17
I have some family members on my husband's side who Wingus Dingus May 2021 #18
Anyone who questions why they should get a vaccine GoCubsGo May 2021 #19
It's heartbreaking! DemUnleashed May 2021 #21
Qanon Poiuyt May 2021 #31
Poiut..... Upthevibe May 2021 #91
I'm sorry for your loss, which is real. catrose May 2021 #22
I got rid of my friends who went Trumpist. They showed themselves to be unworthy of my time. lagomorph777 May 2021 #23
I know how you feel. GaYellowDawg May 2021 #24
Friendship presupposes mutual respect. hay rick May 2021 #25
This message was self-deleted by its author EmeraldCoaster May 2021 #26
I abuse them verbally and with text. EmeraldCoaster May 2021 #27
I lost two friends. Delmette2.0 May 2021 #28
I lost two of my long time girl friends I've known 30+ years because of mf45 kimbutgar May 2021 #30
Get new friends or keep your own company. Zen Democrat May 2021 #32
I dropped the couple of trumpers that I was either friends with or acquaintances. MLAA May 2021 #33
I know people like that DFW May 2021 #35
Yup. Both friends and family. Tiger8 May 2021 #36
I'm sorry for your loss & pain - it's something we all share FakeNoose May 2021 #37
i've just about lost my sister, niece and 3 nephews. SAME REASON AS YOU LOST YOUR FRIEND Trueblue1968 May 2021 #39
It's been more with family for us caraher May 2021 #40
Same. pazzyanne May 2021 #84
Me too The Blue Flower May 2021 #41
Trump ran a bright line right through the middle of my family. It's heartbreaking. chia May 2021 #44
My mother is a Trumper kirkuchiyo May 2021 #46
I wrote the same thing about 8 months ago ... aggiesal May 2021 #48
I have a friend like this drmeow May 2021 #49
We lost a few. Loge23 May 2021 #50
This is just like my family. CharlieTuneA1 May 2021 #51
Let me be the first to welcome you to DU ... aggiesal May 2021 #58
damn, sry bout that ... I know two people who's brains have strained Trump & feel they know better uponit7771 May 2021 #68
Welcome to DU! Poiuyt May 2021 #69
Welcome to DU MustLoveBeagles May 2021 #71
I too have lost a lot of family Mr. Steve May 2021 #83
Eight is a lot of family. I am so sorry. Evolve Dammit May 2021 #101
Welcome to DU! pazzyanne May 2021 #86
The GOP politicizing health care during a deadly pandemic was one of the worst things Irish_Dem May 2021 #107
I dropped Republican friends awhile back. I have no energy for them. Maggiemayhem May 2021 #52
Sorry to hear that. I cut loose any trump humping friends/acquaintances in 2017 catbyte May 2021 #53
What exactly is it about him that brought the vile to the surface of people? slumcamper May 2021 #54
Well stated and I share your concern. Evolve Dammit May 2021 #102
Emily Post showed us the way many decades ago Warpy May 2021 #55
It's happened to all of us. Trump tore the nation apart. budkin May 2021 #56
I gave up at least 13 FB friends, LittleGirl May 2021 #57
I have a close friend Bettie May 2021 #59
Just remember that they don't give a crap about you RVN VET71 May 2021 #60
I lost an old HS and college friend last week. ananda May 2021 #61
I'm sorry for your loss MustLoveBeagles May 2021 #72
I to lost a friend of 50 years slater71 May 2021 #62
Friends, like all relationships, can be tricky. Rustyeye77 May 2021 #64
I came to offer condolences because your friend died of COVID19. glad he/she is still living Demovictory9 May 2021 #66
You didn't lose him because of Trump. He chose to end your friendship by no longer Coventina May 2021 #67
Did Trump change the character of his admirers ... Martin Eden May 2021 #70
This Sounds Like Something I Could Have Written ChoppinBroccoli May 2021 #73
I've "lost" my son because of TtRUmp. TigressDem May 2021 #74
I said GOOD RIDDANCE! to one today, there are many, many wonderful Habitation May 2021 #75
Nope ibegurpard May 2021 #76
How intelligent can he be if he's a Trumper? SunSeeker May 2021 #77
the few very intelligent Trumper/BNP/SD types I know simply have decided to go full-blown white Celerity May 2021 #79
Being racist is not logical. It hurts the environment, causes untold misery and death. SunSeeker May 2021 #106
so sorry that this has happened to you, and NEVER blame yourself Celerity May 2021 #78
I have jettisoned every trumphumper from my life... PittBlue May 2021 #80
My former boyfriend of over two years AKwannabe May 2021 #81
Lost a friend of 45 years to the Cult of the Sad Old Elvis. Roisin Ni Fiachra May 2021 #82
One of my old friends was a die hard Trump supporter Dopers_Greed May 2021 #85
yep paul91046 May 2021 #87
Humpers and narcissists: the only thing to do is to cut them out of my life. fierywoman May 2021 #88
is there anything that you still have in common? janterry May 2021 #89
It's really fking hard to have a conversation with someone who doesn't agree with reality. OMGWTF May 2021 #103
I know. I'm 66 and Riverman100 May 2021 #90
This person didn't change because of Agent Orange. BobTheSubgenius May 2021 #92
We were a group of 7 kpete May 2021 #93
I have a strategy Nictuku May 2021 #94
Luckily no close family are Trumpists mvd May 2021 #95
My former Republican BFF of 36 years has ghosted me for two years now. OMGWTF May 2021 #96
I don't hear a rant. I hear pain, loss and resignation that you have lost a friend to the darkness Evolve Dammit May 2021 #98
I don't hear a rant. I hear pain, loss and resignation that you have lost a friend to the darkness Evolve Dammit May 2021 #99
Trump has damaged many decent people. Kablooie May 2021 #104
"...he didn't shy away...when other conservatives were present" Grins May 2021 #105
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