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Moostache

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3. I have 2 teenaged daughters right now (13 and 15)...
Wed May 26, 2021, 02:11 PM
May 2021

The dress you describe is practically teenage girl uniform these days and it breaks my heart.

I blame TikTok and the endless stream of girls and women dancing in 20-30 second clips putting their bodies on display as the only way to garner attention from boys and men. The ones with the "hottest bodies" and "best make-up" score far more followers and subscribers to their OF (OnlyFans) pages. The race to be TikTok-famous or go viral is all encompassing for far too many...and they are all willing to essentially perform as exotic dancers to a nameless, faceless gaggle of mostly male perverts.

The end result is less and less clothing, more and more sexualization and far more body dysmorphia and angst than just 10 years ago when my oldest daughter was the same age as her sisters. I don't have an answer to this as sex sells, period. My problem with it is that these are young girls, beneath the legal age of consent in many cases, and they are performing like street prostitutes searching for the next john in many cases.

Prohibition and taking away access points is futile - all of their friends are also into this - if not TikTok then definitely Instagram. Today's youth live their lives in a fantasy digital space and are also very under-developed in face-to-face communication and interactions. Its getting frightening when you also account for how social media is destroying democracy and journalism at the same time it is hypersexualizing inexperienced and immature girls at the same time.

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I feel like a damn hypocrite. [View all] JPPaverage May 2021 OP
I hear you. Joinfortmill May 2021 #1
I went through two daughters and 3 granddaughters in that phase. All I can say is... Binkie The Clown May 2021 #2
I have 2 teenaged daughters right now (13 and 15)... Moostache May 2021 #3
When I grew up we had short short mini skirts and hotpants Bev54 May 2021 #15
I was thinking same thing in 1972 Tree Lady May 2021 #17
i understand, too NJCher May 2021 #4
A good question might be, what are you worried about? HUAJIAO May 2021 #5
Nothing wrong at all with being a protective Dad! As long as your daughter knows why you're SWBTATTReg May 2021 #6
You probably are... but zipplewrath May 2021 #7
Are you guys putting men's illicit thoughts on your daughter's shoulders? LakeArenal May 2021 #8
+1000 PortTack May 2021 #13
What, exactly, is your worry? That what she wears will make her a target for assault? WhiskeyGrinder May 2021 #9
Short shorts do not cause assaults, period. Laffy Kat May 2021 #10
I never said anything like that JPPaverage May 2021 #19
Time to have a hard conversation about choices Ms. Toad May 2021 #11
You're not being a hypocrite - it's really tough being a parent these days FakeNoose May 2021 #12
You might want to Google high school women's track and field uniforms Arazi May 2021 #14
I (sort of) ran track in high school JPPaverage May 2021 #20
I would LOVE for my tween to be wearing something like this ... uponit7771 May 2021 #22
It Happens Around That Age, Sir The Magistrate May 2021 #16
We're all human... Wounded Bear May 2021 #18
Your concern exist because of others. RegularJam May 2021 #21
You could try something like this ripcord May 2021 #23
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