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abqtommy

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1. Thanks for this personal information. 360 dollars a day for a live-in health aide sounds like

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Wed Jul 21, 2021, 04:04 PM

Jul 2021

an awful lot. I admire you for doing the best you can for your Mom.

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Elderly Care - The choices we've made [View all] maxrandb Jul 2021 OP

Thanks for this personal information. 360 dollars a day for a live-in health aide sounds like abqtommy Jul 2021 #1

That is only $15/hr. h2ebits Jul 2021 #28

You can put your Mom in assisted living here in Florida for $4,000 per month. Blue_true Jul 2021 #33

Good advice/suggestion/info h2ebits Jul 2021 #38

A person needs to do research on the present and future costs. Blue_true Jul 2021 #40

I had to pay around $22 to $24 dollars an hour for home health care after husband MLAA Jul 2021 #39

... Faux pas Jul 2021 #2

Only if you plan better maxrandb Jul 2021 #5

This is why having cash in a safe deposit box is always a good option. former9thward Jul 2021 #21

Yes, we have a 5 years back in Texas. flying_wahini Jul 2021 #25

That's Faux pas Jul 2021 #49

If he is not already on the deed, that might not work. appleannie1 Jul 2021 #36

I Faux pas Jul 2021 #48

Has there been an actual diagnosis of dementia? Croney Jul 2021 #3

We are trying to use home health aids as a stopgap maxrandb Jul 2021 #7

Depending on which state you live in, Ilsa Jul 2021 #18

Sadly, Medicaid - whether in red or blue states - has always been that way for nursing home care. Hoyt Jul 2021 #4

America never gave a shit about average people XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #6

Thanks maxrandb Jul 2021 #9

No, and if we lived in a decent first-world nation XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #12

Thank you for your post Mysterian Jul 2021 #8

First, an elder care lawyer costs a couple of $k. Since she has 30K, it will come out of that. Not 3Hotdogs Jul 2021 #10

Thanks for that. I will look into it. maxrandb Jul 2021 #11

I'm a veterans' home nurse & former home health Maru Kitteh Jul 2021 #52

Have you considered Jilly_in_VA Jul 2021 #13

Oh my ... Delphinus Jul 2021 #32

Listened In On A Long-Term Care Insurance Pitch modrepub Jul 2021 #14

A friends mom had long term care insurance maxrandb Jul 2021 #15

My MIL had long term care insurance while she Ilsa Jul 2021 #19

Makes me think of "I Care A Lot" JanMichael Jul 2021 #16

I'm sorry you are going through this long distance forthemiddle Jul 2021 #17

The information about losing your house to medicaid isn't true Deminpenn Jul 2021 #20

The rules vary, sometimes substantially, Tomconroy Jul 2021 #24

This is good advice, and plus... Tiger8 Jul 2021 #35

Medicare covers 21 days of "rehab" following a 3+ day hospital stay maxrandb Jul 2021 #41

Well, that shows how worse off we are now Tiger8 Jul 2021 #46

In her state, you don't qualify for Medicaid until you have less than $2K in liquid assets maxrandb Jul 2021 #37

If you have a good elder care attorney, he or she Deminpenn Jul 2021 #43

You may be able to accomplish some of this with a Power of Attorney... TygrBright Jul 2021 #22

Power of attorney as well as a healthcare power of attorney Deminpenn Jul 2021 #44

I hesitate to write in. I can't give advice. All I can do is describe Tomconroy Jul 2021 #23

Contact the Alzheimer's Association Dave in VA Jul 2021 #26

Do look at other options for her personal care. flying_wahini Jul 2021 #27

I'm not a lawyer. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2021 #29

The rest of us need to buy long term care insurance............. UGADawg Jul 2021 #30

Now I wondering if I should have a trust account... Historic NY Jul 2021 #31

You can spend the money on a prepaid funeral and other "allowed" things to reduce. . . . h2ebits Jul 2021 #34

Getting a prepaid funeral is good advice. Tomconroy Jul 2021 #42

Me too. h2ebits Jul 2021 #45

I appreciate all the suggestions and advice...I really do maxrandb Jul 2021 #47

I agree with you 100%. llmart Jul 2021 #50

You're well on your way. UTUSN Jul 2021 #51

Part of the problem may be Tomconroy Jul 2021 #53