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Upthevibe

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31. KentuckyWoman....

Sat Jul 24, 2021, 06:13 PM

Jul 2021

I'm so sorry to hear about what your sister went through. I've always considered "fat-shaming" absolutely unacceptable!

I've been fortunate enough that over most of my career (in the vocational-college world) I had an absolutely amazing boss (who has now retired). At one school, we worked together for five years and at another school we worked together for 10 years. I can't tell you how much I adored her and how well we worked together (with her being my direct supervisor). She's been obese since the day I met her. I never had any kind of negative thoughts regarding her weight and we never discussed the subject. My sense is that she had a medical condition that simply couldn't be rectified.

Whenever I hear about someone talking about "will-power", "lack of control", etc., it makes me sick.

Thank you so much for bringing this up...and once again, I'm so sorry regarding your loss.....

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Listen you fat assed bitch. [View all] KentuckyWoman Jul 2021 OP

I cringe every time I see it here at DU regardless of its target. Dial H For Hero Jul 2021 #1

Ditto. Treefrog Jul 2021 #8

same Skittles Jul 2021 #43

+2 Vdizzle Jul 2021 #89

+1 Ferrets are Cool Jul 2021 #52

I'm so sorry, and you are so right GPV Jul 2021 #2

Thank you. Ms. Toad Jul 2021 #3

This treestar Jul 2021 #133

People can be so insensitve and cruel. dawg Jul 2021 #4

Condolences on your sister XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #5

Not ALL people of faith. Christians in particular. Treefrog Jul 2021 #9

I stand corrected XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #11

It's so hypocritical. Treefrog Jul 2021 #13

Ignore is my friend XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #17

I need to use that feature more. ShazzieB Jul 2021 #26

I didn't know we could trash threads nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #27

I put people on ignore if I might get pisssed enough to do something that will get me banned csziggy Jul 2021 #38

Wow. Every single day. Kingofalldems Jul 2021 #39

Got any links on that? Kingofalldems Jul 2021 #50

here's a perfect example of ignore XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #51

Maybe some think the criticism of Trump holding up the bible JI7 Jul 2021 #70

I don't have a problem trashing kkkristofascists. They're not Christians. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2021 #96

No one here thinks that wryter2000 Jul 2021 #115

He is a Christian along with most that support him JI7 Jul 2021 #121

I doubt he's ever stepped inside a church wryter2000 Jul 2021 #124

There are progressives who don't seem to know (or won't admit) that soldierant Jul 2021 #76

Scroll down a bit on this thread. phylny Jul 2021 #95

Not true wryter2000 Jul 2021 #114

Jewish people get far more hatred JI7 Jul 2021 #68

Comments about the imaginary guy in the sky phylny Jul 2021 #94

So if one doesn't treat the Christian God as existing that is bigotry? dsc Jul 2021 #109

Treat however you want, believe what you want. phylny Jul 2021 #111

Belief systems are often used as an excuse to deny rights JI7 Jul 2021 #122

I disagree. phylny Jul 2021 #127

Denying rights to people does affect others JI7 Jul 2021 #129

Somehow I feel that either I'm not being clear or perhaps you are phylny Jul 2021 #131

Can't prove unicorns don't exist JI7 Jul 2021 #142

It's making fun of people here who do believe wryter2000 Jul 2021 #116

On du treestar Jul 2021 #134

Yes, yes we do. Behind the Aegis Jul 2021 #148

Yep, rarely why I post Ishoutandscream2 Jul 2021 #47

It becomes tedious grantcart Jul 2021 #100

Thank you so much for sharing this; I hope people here can help carry your pain helpfully. I agree WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2021 #6

Thank you for that "straight from the heart" and much deserved criticism. nt Atticus Jul 2021 #7

It is really very immature sometimes here. JoeOtterbein Jul 2021 #10

Lol, spot on. Treefrog Jul 2021 #14

Ten bucks says you fail to see the irony in your having said that. LanternWaste Jul 2021 #136

+1 Dial H For Hero Jul 2021 #16

+1000 USALiberal Jul 2021 #78

+1 Usually a sign of a lazy mind grantcart Jul 2021 #99

An important point you made is about the marketing Doc Sportello Jul 2021 #12

totally agree. nt spooky3 Jul 2021 #21

Well said Johnny2X2X Jul 2021 #85

I like that line you had Doc Sportello Jul 2021 #86

It's not just fast food. Check the snacks aisle at your grocery! BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2021 #97

Right, that's why I included sugar Doc Sportello Jul 2021 #106

Indeed!! Despicable marketing. 👎 BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2021 #112

+1 n/t ariadne0614 Jul 2021 #102

right on! BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2021 #113

Thank you for speaking up. 💕💖 MLAA Jul 2021 #15

Hugs to you. My mother could not shut up about her own weight & judged others as well... Hekate Jul 2021 #18

I have family that way. KentuckyWoman Jul 2021 #23

I relate closely, hugs to you, 2Gingersnaps Jul 2021 #24

Considering the fact that tRump will never see the insults on DU, ariadne0614 Jul 2021 #110

"In the end, she was carrying almost 200 pounds of other people's shit". Budi Jul 2021 #19

I'm so sorry and appreciate the points you made. My late mother spooky3 Jul 2021 #20

Kicked and recommended. Uncle Joe Jul 2021 #22

There is a weird trend about bad food. Mosby Jul 2021 #25

I know your pain Dakota Flint Jul 2021 #28

I once had a surgeon who said: LakeArenal Jul 2021 #29

The fookin' Git lies every day about his weight, House of Roberts Jul 2021 #30

KentuckyWoman.... Upthevibe Jul 2021 #31

My husband (who is a recovering alcoholic) likes to respond soldierant Jul 2021 #77

+1 on the DU tolerance for fat shaming Thunderbeast Jul 2021 #32

Thank you. summer_in_TX Jul 2021 #82

Thanks for starting this thread. ShazzieB Jul 2021 #33

I've had a thyroid condition for decades MyMission Jul 2021 #34

I'm so with you. I could run rings around most doctors I've met in terms of Neema Jul 2021 #135

This is sad but true cate94 Jul 2021 #35

there is also an assumption that you're unhealthy iemanja Jul 2021 #36

I hear you. And agree demigoddess Jul 2021 #37

Many do you are love the word fat and slob. Disgusting. USALiberal Jul 2021 #40

Calling Trump a slob is not fat shaming. Elessar Zappa Jul 2021 #66

Skinny people can be slobs wryter2000 Jul 2021 #118

Very often those on the highest horse forget they're hurting other people. WarGamer Jul 2021 #41

I make it a point to be kind. Kingofalldems Jul 2021 #42

criticism where criticism is due stopdiggin Jul 2021 #60

U can't fat shame me,,,,,, Cryptoad Jul 2021 #44

Recommended. H2O Man Jul 2021 #45

This message was self-deleted by its author H2O Man Jul 2021 #46

Being underweight UpInArms Jul 2021 #48

Thank you so much for this post. femmedem Jul 2021 #49

I cried a little bit, reading this post and the great comments KatK Jul 2021 #53

Or we could link to this OP whenever we see fat-shaming here to remind people of how hurtful it is. femmedem Jul 2021 #55

Yes, that would be beautiful! Great idea! KatK Jul 2021 #56

Great post MustLoveBeagles Jul 2021 #80

Thank you! It feels great to be heard on this. n/t KatK Jul 2021 #92

Thank you so much for posting this. Tom Yossarian Joad Jul 2021 #54

I'm sorry for your loss, and I agree that fat shaming is wrong. yardwork Jul 2021 #57

Being fat I_UndergroundPanther Jul 2021 #58

Thank you locks Jul 2021 #59

That's a really beautiful read, KentuckyWoman. calimary Jul 2021 #61

Thank you!!! NT Happy Hoosier Jul 2021 #62

Your post reminded me that during a recent visit from my sister and BIL, Sogo Jul 2021 #63

"Like you're some kind of prize..." thucythucy Jul 2021 #108

I'm so very sorry, Tesha Jul 2021 #64

The thing is, fat shaming doesn't work TexasBushwhacker Jul 2021 #65

Sister told me once KentuckyWoman Jul 2021 #71

Fat shaming done to get anyone to lose weight JI7 Jul 2021 #72

Trump's weight is fair play... brooklynite Jul 2021 #67

And he doesn't hesitate to make comments about other people's looks dflprincess Jul 2021 #69

ESpecially women. The fact is women are more fat shamed than men . Would a woman that was as fat as JI7 Jul 2021 #84

Yep. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2021 #101

I agree crimycarny Jul 2021 #73

His unhealthiness extends way beyond the fat, and soldierant Jul 2021 #79

Pointing out he's overweight? Sure. Fat shaming language? Not so much. Dial H For Hero Jul 2021 #87

Wrong. Happy Hoosier Jul 2021 #88

But it hurts others when *anyone* is fat-shamed KatK Jul 2021 #91

Lol, nice try! Nt USALiberal Jul 2021 #103

Indeed because a narcissist bully deserves it Dukkha Jul 2021 #107

Thanks for the post, even if it picks the scab of some painful memories Retired Engineer Bob Jul 2021 #74

It occured to me also. But kept quiet because I thought I'd only stir it up. Thanks. marble falls Jul 2021 #75

Thank you for posting this MustLoveBeagles Jul 2021 #81

Heartbreaking, KentuckyWoman! summer_in_TX Jul 2021 #83

❤️😢 live love laugh Jul 2021 #90

Took me a lifetime Aussie105 Jul 2021 #93

Sorry for your loss. The rest is just details. twodogsbarking Jul 2021 #98

Excellent thread KW. Thanks! Evolve Dammit Jul 2021 #104

K&R Roisin Ni Fiachra Jul 2021 #105

Thank you wryter2000 Jul 2021 #117

I'm sorry for your loss Bettie Jul 2021 #119

Fantastic Articles. Thank you. Must read for ... well ... EVERYONE KentuckyWoman Jul 2021 #125

Thank you Bettie Jul 2021 #126

I'm sorry seta1950 Jul 2021 #120

trumpety has gleefully chosen sloth and gluttony and deserves to be mocked for it. alphafemale Jul 2021 #123

There is a difference between private and public individuals miffelplix Jul 2021 #128

It's very disheartening to go to the doctor and be treated like Neema Jul 2021 #130

I got a prescription for appetite suppressant pills and a Bettie Jul 2021 #139

I'm so sorry. That's horrible and way too common. Neema Jul 2021 #140

When it is Trump treestar Jul 2021 #132

When overweight people were dying from Covid Johnny2X2X Jul 2021 #137

It's a shame that such a promising thread UnderThisLaw Jul 2021 #138

How so? Bettie Jul 2021 #141

The Orange Man portrays that he is not obese BradAllison Jul 2021 #144

I wonder often if the same half dozen folks don't realize how obvious they are. n/m BradAllison Jul 2021 #147

Donnie Boy isn't a normal person raising2moredems Jul 2021 #143

If the Emperor had no clothes. BradAllison Jul 2021 #145

This thread is bizarre. Goodheart Jul 2021 #146

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2021 #149

"When you try to demean someone saying "lard-ass" or other hate speech, you are directly linking Goodheart Jul 2021 #150

I'm late to this but thank you. Being "obese" is not at all what people assume. I know. nolabear Jul 2021 #151

Thank you...and you are right Bettie Jul 2021 #152

True dat. I have the same response to ageism. nolabear Jul 2021 #153