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Volaris

(11,336 posts)
40. I may have an answer for you on the Generational thing....
Wed Oct 17, 2012, 02:21 PM
Oct 2012

The advent of Feminism brought to women a sense of their own rightly claimed ability and power, and for all of the good it has done, I think there is a particular kind of American Man that has felt REALLY, personally emasculated by that (and not all of them are psychic little boys).

A lot of them were men for whom this was a new experience, and it took some time to adjust. In the meantime, in order to compensate for that feeling of emasculation, our culture has increasingly glorified those elements of The Male that are easily observed as being SOLELY MALE---competitiveness, sexual aggression, the exploitation of those newly empowered women, etc.). The reason this happened, I think, is because in post-modern, Industrial Revolution culture, Men have for too long defined themselves NOT by an understanding of what makes them uniquely and deeply and psychically(sp) and SPIRITUALLY MALE, but by what makes them NOT women. The old, ANCIENT definition of correct manhood was that Men were ALSO able to provide for and teach children, and show them love and spiritual nourishment (especially MALE children approaching physical and social adulthood). NOT having a modern and fulfilling definition of what it is to be a whole and functional MALE is devestating...and the problem is that it becomes a learned behavior for our kids I.E., if it's not PRODUCTIVELY un-taught and UN-learned, it gets passed on by default. It's why Mittens thinks MOM has to be the one to make sure dinner is prepared, ('cause I bet dollars to donuts that ANN has never so much as boiled water for coffee in her adult LIFE), that MOM has to be the one to make sure the kids do WORK-TIME, 'cause that way, by the time DAD gets home, playtime can start. It breeds men who think women are SUPPOSED to do all the heavy lifting in most aspects of life, that the heavy lifting is women's work, and that the heavy lifting that men were spiritually DESIGNED to do, just isn't FUN.
Take heart, men are starting to figure this out. The President is one of them. THAT'S why he was so able to utterly pull out Romney's LUNGS on this topic and eat them raw on stage.
As an aside, this problem is also one of the major roots of the rank and unnecessary levels of homophobia and gay-hating still prevalent in our country. But that can wait for another response=)

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Binders full of FAIL! tk2kewl Oct 2012 #1
FUCK yeah! FirstLight Oct 2012 #2
I may have an answer for you on the Generational thing.... Volaris Oct 2012 #40
well said! FirstLight Oct 2012 #49
You're RIGHT about the connection between Gen-X males and their divorced fathers... Volaris Oct 2012 #65
I am totally right there with you on this FirstLight Oct 2012 #68
Make DAMN sure though the younger one doesn't move to a spiritual place Volaris Oct 2012 #72
AND THEN-- annabanana Oct 2012 #3
And the woman's husband couldn't cook? Couldn't get away from work? Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2012 #4
Yeap, all the time he worked at Bain he saw no qualified women? Tells a lot about Bain... uponit7771 Oct 2012 #5
Women don't need equal pay, we just need more time to cook! blue neen Oct 2012 #6
What nauseated me the most was his attempt to bully Crowley by catbyte Oct 2012 #7
His body language all night was entitled bully. dhendry Oct 2012 #54
Mitt needs a Dumpster. mlevans Oct 2012 #8
Incredible post Matariki Oct 2012 #9
He is so incredibly out of touch. Quantess Oct 2012 #10
I just realized why Willard gave that answer. surfwith Oct 2012 #11
Welcome to DU, surfwith! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #24
PERFECT Post 2theleft Oct 2012 #12
BRAVO!!!!! redqueen Oct 2012 #13
I am a woman. So is my wife. n/t Plaid Adder Oct 2012 #22
... redqueen Oct 2012 #25
It's all right, redqueen. A lot of people misidentify me as male based on my writing style. Plaid Adder Oct 2012 #27
She is a woman. She also mentions in the OP that she and her wife are BOTH mothers. nt tblue37 Oct 2012 #33
dinner hibbing Oct 2012 #14
Just let the girls go home early JenniferJuniper Oct 2012 #15
Wow!! That's a blast from the past! FailureToCommunicate Oct 2012 #60
I'm a man. It was always me with the "flex time" to cook dinner. hunter Oct 2012 #16
He is a MORMON! If you want to know his views on women teewrex Oct 2012 #17
PA...you are on a SERIOUS ROLL!! Huge K&R! bullwinkle428 Oct 2012 #18
He never addressed the pay issue!!! DryHump Oct 2012 #19
He Stopped Just Short Of Saying............. ChoppinBroccoli Oct 2012 #20
yeah heaven05 Oct 2012 #21
Fantastic post! As always, you illuminate the question perfectly. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #23
K&R abelenkpe Oct 2012 #26
Hold on, let me just call up the factory NiteOwll Oct 2012 #28
. n/t porphyrian Oct 2012 #29
Bravo! JawJaw Oct 2012 #30
More like the 1950's. Before BC access and glowing Oct 2012 #31
I'm a dad and I make dinner for my wife and kids every evening Aldo Leopold Oct 2012 #32
Just to be a nerd, SCVDem Oct 2012 #34
Thanks. It's been a long time since TNG and I couldn't remember. n/t Plaid Adder Oct 2012 #35
Post removed Post removed Oct 2012 #42
If Mitt weren't so tall I would swear he was Quark's long-lost other brother. Plaid Adder Oct 2012 #45
A public apology. Moosepoop Oct 2012 #47
This picture contains a virus! Moosepoop Oct 2012 #46
Picture is from Funny or Die, not site posted. hunter Oct 2012 #48
That one is fine! Moosepoop Oct 2012 #50
And the hilarious punchline is this: Romney is pandering (and lying) here. cemaphonic Oct 2012 #36
You give Mitt too much credit. He's straight out of the 1950s. He's LibDemAlways Oct 2012 #37
The part about "cooking dinner" is certainly the one that pisses me the most. Mass Oct 2012 #38
+1000 lumberjack_jeff Oct 2012 #39
I got married in 1980 SheilaT Oct 2012 #41
Even His "Binders" Comment Was A Lie DallasNE Oct 2012 #43
lost mittens is such a loathsome thing. nt Javaman Oct 2012 #44
love this rant! southmost Oct 2012 #51
I would never be where Mitt is financially because I would have stopped and spent more time with my Dustlawyer Oct 2012 #52
Brilliantly and forcefully stated. Well done, Plaid Adder! dhendry Oct 2012 #53
newbie here but ABSOLUTELY HAD to say... dangerdoll Oct 2012 #55
Welcome to DU. surrealAmerican Oct 2012 #57
thanks! dangerdoll Oct 2012 #58
I have a minor quibble with #2 Major Nikon Oct 2012 #56
Great righteous rant! K&R nt femrap Oct 2012 #59
PA, I love you... KatyaR Oct 2012 #61
I'm really glad you are posting again. n/t Change has come Oct 2012 #62
omg there is a planet Ferenginar!!!! I thought you made that up. robinlynne Oct 2012 #63
great thread! BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2012 #64
Most insightful response of the whole debate M---Girl Oct 2012 #66
I raised four kids as a single working mother. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Arkansas Granny Oct 2012 #67
Two minutes of fail, one post of genius WoodyD Oct 2012 #69
Did you see the look on the woman's face that asked the question? Kalidurga Oct 2012 #70
This sums it up nicely... Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2012 #71
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