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In reply to the discussion: Romney's Equal Pay Answer: Two Solid Minutes of FAIL [View all]Volaris
(11,336 posts)The advent of Feminism brought to women a sense of their own rightly claimed ability and power, and for all of the good it has done, I think there is a particular kind of American Man that has felt REALLY, personally emasculated by that (and not all of them are psychic little boys).
A lot of them were men for whom this was a new experience, and it took some time to adjust. In the meantime, in order to compensate for that feeling of emasculation, our culture has increasingly glorified those elements of The Male that are easily observed as being SOLELY MALE---competitiveness, sexual aggression, the exploitation of those newly empowered women, etc.). The reason this happened, I think, is because in post-modern, Industrial Revolution culture, Men have for too long defined themselves NOT by an understanding of what makes them uniquely and deeply and psychically(sp) and SPIRITUALLY MALE, but by what makes them NOT women. The old, ANCIENT definition of correct manhood was that Men were ALSO able to provide for and teach children, and show them love and spiritual nourishment (especially MALE children approaching physical and social adulthood). NOT having a modern and fulfilling definition of what it is to be a whole and functional MALE is devestating...and the problem is that it becomes a learned behavior for our kids I.E., if it's not PRODUCTIVELY un-taught and UN-learned, it gets passed on by default. It's why Mittens thinks MOM has to be the one to make sure dinner is prepared, ('cause I bet dollars to donuts that ANN has never so much as boiled water for coffee in her adult LIFE), that MOM has to be the one to make sure the kids do WORK-TIME, 'cause that way, by the time DAD gets home, playtime can start. It breeds men who think women are SUPPOSED to do all the heavy lifting in most aspects of life, that the heavy lifting is women's work, and that the heavy lifting that men were spiritually DESIGNED to do, just isn't FUN.
Take heart, men are starting to figure this out. The President is one of them. THAT'S why he was so able to utterly pull out Romney's LUNGS on this topic and eat them raw on stage.
As an aside, this problem is also one of the major roots of the rank and unnecessary levels of homophobia and gay-hating still prevalent in our country. But that can wait for another response=)