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calimary

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2. I've had tons of mixed feelings about this case and its coverage.

Sun Sep 19, 2021, 08:40 PM

Sep 2021

I think probably ANY feelings or opinions or impressions that come up here, I’ve felt too. Really lost in thought about this one, north ‘n’ south, pro ‘n’ con, good guys ‘n’ bad guys, singularly and collectively (would that be micro and macro?), and on and on.

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One should not be upset/angry about Gabby Petito getting media attention. [View all] boston bean Sep 2021 OP

Agreed . ... Lovie777 Sep 2021 #1

I've had tons of mixed feelings about this case and its coverage. calimary Sep 2021 #2

I guess I am coming down on the side of the woman who was murdered. boston bean Sep 2021 #3

To Help Put This In Perspective DallasNE Sep 2021 #33

Men are 77.8% of homicide victims. cinematicdiversions Sep 2021 #54

I'm Sure A Lot Of That Imbalance DallasNE Sep 2021 #58

But not by a SO. ShazzieB Sep 2021 #97

She didn't have a choice in her race...nor it would appear to lose her life at the hands of another. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #7

Exactly! Duppers Sep 2021 #36

There certainly is that. calimary Sep 2021 #39

I hope you are not referring to my post wnylib Sep 2021 #40

No. I didn't see your post. I, too am sympathetic to the much wider issues and aghast at hlthe2b Sep 2021 #59

Most Americans are completely unaware that wnylib Sep 2021 #76

I worked with Native Americans on Pine Ridge for several years. None of this is new to me. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #83

I do not condone deriding any victim or her family. wnylib Sep 2021 #88

I wasn't aware. And I like to think of myself as well read. Tommymac Sep 2021 #95

I would probably not be aware of wnylib Sep 2021 #96

Thanks, bean. Stand back and look at this as a woman's issue, knowing any woman ... Hekate Sep 2021 #4

+1000 smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #29

Well put. LisaM Sep 2021 #5

She's getting coverage because she had a YouTube channel with 40K followers TexasBushwhacker Sep 2021 #6

And... the news agencies know that mysteries drive months/years of ratings. Renew Deal Sep 2021 #8

Exactly TexasBushwhacker Sep 2021 #16

YES! And that is the problem that I have wnylib Sep 2021 #44

K&R n/t Moebym Sep 2021 #9

I don't need colonial advice or permission to be angry but thanks anyway. Cobalt Violet Sep 2021 #10

I agree, please never tell others what to be angry about. Jon King Sep 2021 #12

Well, Jon. You might not get it. But you should. boston bean Sep 2021 #15

Gabby Petito is also human. She didn't deserve to be missing and murdered. boston bean Sep 2021 #13

+1000 smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #31

Nobody is making the victim in this case wnylib Sep 2021 #50

Believe me white women are unprotected in these situations. boston bean Sep 2021 #60

You're preaching to the choir. I am wnylib Sep 2021 #81

I disagree with your assessment. Perhaps you've not seen what some of us have. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #61

It depends on the posts that you are wnylib Sep 2021 #84

We agree on the wider issues and have in every exchange. This issue is those who would discount hlthe2b Sep 2021 #87

We are cross posting. I wrote the previous post wnylib Sep 2021 #89

... hlthe2b Sep 2021 #91

I can't speak for Cobalt Violet, but I can say wnylib Sep 2021 #47

So link to one of those cases. treestar Sep 2021 #57

Good post. Treefrog Sep 2021 #93

As The Saying Goes..... COL Mustard Sep 2021 #11

I absolutely agree. Lunabell Sep 2021 #14

Thanks Luna. Thought for sure my OP was pretty clear. boston bean Sep 2021 #20

Oh yes. Lunabell Sep 2021 #32

It is said that the most dangerous place for women . . . Larissa Sep 2021 #17

This being 2021, it was inevitable that the coverage itself would be attacked. maxsolomon Sep 2021 #18

yes, it also grabbed the attention of social media because there is an identifiable villain Demovictory9 Sep 2021 #24

Kick mcar Sep 2021 #19

yes, it's more than color.. it's race, gender, class, lookism, ageism Demovictory9 Sep 2021 #21

interesting point you make about battered women's syndrom. cop was looking for battered boyfriend Demovictory9 Sep 2021 #22

They did not ask her if she was in fear. He had a scratch on his hand. boston bean Sep 2021 #23

One of the hallmarks of a Narcissist is the ability to rile up their partner and remain cool ChubbyStar Sep 2021 #27

Yep. I think she believed it was her fault. Unfortunately all too common. boston bean Sep 2021 #30

I have not seen any footage I do not have a television ChubbyStar Sep 2021 #34

Come to find out the incident that preceded them being pulled over boston bean Sep 2021 #99

She said he shoved her and grabbed her face womanofthehills Sep 2021 #38

That's an interesting point. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #55

its the new shiny object msm is dangling before us so we don't notice the fascists dirty tricks. nt yaesu Sep 2021 #25

No, I think it's a story many women can relate to womanofthehills Sep 2021 #41

Surprise: It's possible to hold multiple thoughts in your head at the same time Bobstandard Sep 2021 #26

Calling her a pretty young white girl in a denigrating way is what boston bean Sep 2021 #28

Thank you. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #35

+++ hlthe2b Sep 2021 #63

Agree Meowmee Sep 2021 #64

I'm not upset by the media coverage. Beacool Sep 2021 #37

But these are not old times - everything is caught on video now womanofthehills Sep 2021 #45

Totally agree ... Thanks for saying it. 👍 nt Raine Sep 2021 #42

Very true. yardwork Sep 2021 #43

This implies that DUers, or some DUers, are enthralled by the national news. Kaleva Sep 2021 #46

Thank you StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #49

IMO, it is a good thing she is getting all this attention it brings attention to the fact that many Demsrule86 Sep 2021 #51

But how long will this attention to this major issue last? Kaleva Sep 2021 #53

Any attention is a good thing...some woman will see herself in this situation and get out in time... Demsrule86 Sep 2021 #78

That would be the common denominator if black women were ever included in the coverage StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #74

Agree 100% LeftInTX Sep 2021 #69

Excellent point. I agree. I was disturbed by this almost blaming the poor girl....it is a terrible Demsrule86 Sep 2021 #48

I don't think anyone is blaming this poor girl StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #52

But they are. Also, think about why an attractive young white woman boston bean Sep 2021 #62

I didn't see anyone blaming her StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #65

I can't read past the first sentence without responding. boston bean Sep 2021 #66

Do you think media only reports the way you describe because they believe she is a more important boston bean Sep 2021 #67

Yes. StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #70

Ok. That is not all I see. boston bean Sep 2021 #71

What you see is often based on where you sit StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #72

Perhaps it is you who should try your own advice. I see what you are saying boston bean Sep 2021 #73

Funny - you don't seem like you have been agreeing with it StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #75

I think you should read the OP again. boston bean Sep 2021 #77

No, I think you should listen to nonwhite women violasays Sep 2021 #86

Imagine thinking the coverage was the most important thing. BannonsLiver Sep 2021 #94

And what makes you think I disagree with that? boston bean Sep 2021 #98

Agree. It's like there is a cold lack of sympathy for treestar Sep 2021 #56

"they refuse to provide information" Cobalt Violet Sep 2021 #100

Well it is your job to convince someone of your point treestar Sep 2021 #101

This message was self-deleted by its author Cobalt Violet Sep 2021 #102

Will that be MasterCard or Visa Cobalt Violet Sep 2021 #103

The national media, in particular cable news, will generally grab on to one case at a time LeftInTX Sep 2021 #104

All those other threads trying to diminish her death are disgusting, people care Shanti Shanti Shanti Sep 2021 #68

There is not enough "media" in this entire world to cover all those stories. Goodheart Sep 2021 #79

The other thread is sad and pitiful. BannonsLiver Sep 2021 #80

Post removed Post removed Sep 2021 #85

I can walk and chew gum at the same time. BannonsLiver Sep 2021 #90

K & R. I agree rollin74 Sep 2021 #82

How do you know people are upset about specifically that? Caliman73 Sep 2021 #92