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meadowlander

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193. I didn't.

Mon Oct 4, 2021, 07:10 PM

Oct 2021

I live overseas and if my sister-in-law didn't post on Facebook daily my relationships with my nieces would basically just be exchanging Christmas and birthday presents.

My brother is hopeless about remembering to call and email people and my sister-in-law has a ginormous family so it's just not practical to expect them to keep up regular bespoke communications for each person in the family. But with Facebook it's easy to check in and see videos of music recitals, camping trips, etc.

Other than that, I pretty much never use Facebook and certainly wouldn't rely on getting my news or any other information there.

At the end of the day you do control what information goes on there and what doesn't and what information you choose to consume from there.

If they had better moderation and stronger policies about shutting down fake troll accounts it would be fine.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 OP

it's a tool. one decides what one sees and how to use. and get an adblocker lol nt msongs Oct 2021 #1

That is absolutely right, my dear msongs! And I do have and use an adblocker! n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #2

It is a tool. A screwdriver. lagomorph777 Oct 2021 #16

Only if you let yourself be Sugarcoated Oct 2021 #174

Adblock and FBPurity make it usable AZSkiffyGeek Oct 2021 #19

It's a tool alright Johnny2X2X Oct 2021 #34

How would these people that defend Facebook because it's a tool feel dem4decades Oct 2021 #83

I doubt you'd get many complaints here when it comes to raising regulations on either. nt Gore1FL Oct 2021 #106

I use FB all the time and am fine with (and prefer) more regulation relayerbob Oct 2021 #115

Agree on all points. mountain grammy Oct 2021 #121

Pretty much any tool which provides any power to the user soldierant Oct 2021 #162

Exactly seta1950 Oct 2021 #154

facebook is getting a bad rap. compare with rw radio, which is a 95% monopoly. who needs algorithms certainot Oct 2021 #136

Once people are locked in (see OP's list) FB is a de facto monopoly NullTuples Oct 2021 #170

Using Facebook is a Disillusion Paradise for the unschooled NotHardly Oct 2021 #175

This is by far the worst thread ever on this forum. Jon King Oct 2021 #181

I refuse to use it because doing so satisfies my need to feel smugly self-righteous Orrex Oct 2021 #191

same... FirstLight Oct 2021 #3

I'm really glad that you get it, my dear FirstLight! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #5

It's how I talk to my 2,000 miles away family. leftyladyfrommo Oct 2021 #4

I do that too, and with friends overseas. I rarely see the bad stuff. Thank you for responding! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #8

Facebook is a cesspool that needs to be cleaned up. dem4decades Oct 2021 #6

You are more than entitled to your opinion. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #10

Yay Cal Peggy. You'll take FB from my cold dead hands and my FB friends (from high school and some SheilaAnn Oct 2021 #7

Thanks for the cheery thoughts, my dear SheilaAnn! Right there with you. ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #12

Same here. Aristus Oct 2021 #9

I was so glad when I found you there, my dear Aristus! Your analogy is spot on. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #15

Thanks, CalPeg. Aristus Oct 2021 #23

Me too. femmedem Oct 2021 #11

Those are great ways to utilize FB! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #18

And everything about you, your family, and your friends has just been sold on the dark web. lagomorph777 Oct 2021 #13

Yeah, I know. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #20

Got news for you durablend Oct 2021 #24

I haven't had a credit card for 20 years or more. lagomorph777 Oct 2021 #41

ol 'saying - don't have the money for it , don't need it ! monkeyman1 Oct 2021 #172

Please post evidence Pinback Oct 2021 #46

You've just described the vast entirety of the internet. LanternWaste Oct 2021 #61

Lol, parody? Nt USALiberal Oct 2021 #150

they DO.NOT.CARE. Skittles Oct 2021 #184

I too use FB for good and not evil and it is priceless to me for Murphyb849 Oct 2021 #14

You've got the right idea! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #21

I like Facebook. Those who don't shouldn't use it. Kaleva Oct 2021 #17

That is absolutely right. ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #22

For me it's a godsend. I'm from a very large family scattered all over the lamp_shade Oct 2021 #25

It is all that, and it fills a large hole in distant families. Good for you! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #27

Thank you for starting this thread and for sharing ChazII Oct 2021 #26

My dear ChazzII! I am honored that I made your day a bit brighter! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #28

Thank you relayerbob Oct 2021 #29

You're very welcome, my dear relayerbob! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #35

Several ++ Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #44

Like it too. I'm into musical instruments, bourbons, bands, hiking, etc. Hoyt Oct 2021 #30

Yes indeed! There are lots of different groups there, for many different interests. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #38

This message was self-deleted by its author dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #31

because some DU members want to shut down a lifeline to our family and friends Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #36

I'm pretty sure it's not something anyone on DU can control, one way or another. dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #50

It's back up.... mine is anyway... partially. lamp_shade Oct 2021 #77

This message was self-deleted by its author paleotn Oct 2021 #107

What did you do before Facebook? paleotn Oct 2021 #104

i did. the airplane tickets were not as inexpensive as FB. Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #114

See post 110 below. n/t spike jones Oct 2021 #116

I didn't interact with people from my past. Gore1FL Oct 2021 #119

Kind of like wearing a mask during a pandemic.... paleotn Oct 2021 #126

Why do *I* feel the need? CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #45

Because some people want to shut it down left-of-center2012 Oct 2021 #51

Just curious, how did you connect with them before FB? dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #53

Thank you for your question left-of-center2012 Oct 2021 #85

i got a passport and flew to Europe. One died before i could arrive. Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #101

I didn't. meadowlander Oct 2021 #193

I actually *don't* go there... dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #62

Yeah, except even if you "don't go there" NYC Liberal Oct 2021 #137

Seriously? left-of-center2012 Oct 2021 #160

"a scourge on society" left-of-center2012 Oct 2021 #54

No, it's not relayerbob Oct 2021 #60

Relax... dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #66

Thanks, you reminded me I can block people here too relayerbob Oct 2021 #75

Ignore is a beautiful thing, indeed. dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #135

I'd imagine for the same reason so many feel the need to explain their distaste of it. LanternWaste Oct 2021 #63

Fair enough dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #71

Lol, why did you feel necessary to post this? Nt USALiberal Oct 2021 #152

😁😁😁 dixiechiken1 Oct 2021 #159

Why do you care? Sugarcoated Oct 2021 #177

Ty Peggy Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #32

YW my dear Tetrachloride! I agree with your point of view. That's why I posted this. ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #48

On FB you have to carefully weed out "friends" who post political stuff FakeNoose Oct 2021 #33

Oh yes, I learned that the hard way too! Thank goodness for block. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #56

OMG, yes. Same: after a class reunion. Holy cow... Beartracks Oct 2021 #151

Among other things: I would not have gotten to know C-Peggy and my friend in Raleigh (Ms. B) CurtEastPoint Oct 2021 #37

And how much I would miss you and Ms. B, my dear CurtEastPoint! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #65

It is a choice like so many things in our lives. Fortunately, my family decided long ago to use hlthe2b Oct 2021 #39

You chose to use this instead of FB, and good for you! It is a Choice! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #67

hlthe2b: I am wondering ... KatK Oct 2021 #173

Well a cousin originally designed ours with several of us adding features, but this article includes hlthe2b Oct 2021 #179

Exactemunde CP... PCIntern Oct 2021 #40

Thank you so much, my dear PCIntern! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #69

I agree with you 110% left-of-center2012 Oct 2021 #42

I wish that too........but we have no control over other folks. That's how it is. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #72

Yes, I don't see that the nonexistence of it treestar Oct 2021 #43

That would never happen, I suspect! Lots of liberal groups that I belong to. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #74

I know Facebook is a money making operation. Everything exists to make money. Pick and choose wha Srkdqltr Oct 2021 #47

WORD! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #78

It helps me connect to other people who like the same shows as I do sakabatou Oct 2021 #49

That's great, my dear sakabatou! Have a great time with them! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #80

I do sakabatou Oct 2021 #86

Thanks Peggy! flamingdem Oct 2021 #52

YW! And I agree about social media awareness being taught. ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #81

It might be great for you but it's terrible for the country budkin Oct 2021 #55

OK, so be it. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #82

Screw democracy so you can....do what? paleotn Oct 2021 #111

I agree. StarryNite Oct 2021 #57

Thank you! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #84

I agree... Mike Nelson Oct 2021 #58

Your awareness is helping keep you safe! That's great. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #87

If Facebook is indeed gone today, or in the near future, I hope you are able to find ColinC Oct 2021 #59

We shall see what transpires. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #90

I had an account for a few months, years ago happybird Oct 2021 #64

Good for you! You had a choice to make, and you chose wisely. Very smart, and I mean that. ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #92

So true DownriverDem Oct 2021 #68

They are there, and I've found them too! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #94

I have only ever used FB to follow the Music Bands I am interested in. Tikki Oct 2021 #70

A good use for you! That makes it work. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #97

It's a lifeline for many people. spanone Oct 2021 #73

Indeed it is! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #98

Yes, it absolutely is relayerbob Oct 2021 #123

Only because you directed this at the haters instead of like-minded folk... Shermann Oct 2021 #76

Everyone has to decide what is justified and what isn't. Not my place! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #100

Facebook is fun! I enjoy it very much! NurseJackie Oct 2021 #79

I pretty much see it that way too! n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #105

HORSE AND BUGGY FOREVER!!! relayerbob Oct 2021 #131

I've used fluff buster for years Marthe48 Oct 2021 #88

You know what to do to have a good time and stay safe. That's great! n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #108

I never used it because I am private pwb Oct 2021 #89

You are doing what is right for you. The perfect choice! ♥ CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #109

Do your own thing. pwb Oct 2021 #112

Hardly any of the items on my profile are filled in Marthe48 Oct 2021 #125

I'm actually far less political on Facebook than I am here or Twitter. Tommy Carcetti Oct 2021 #91

No disrespect, Butterflylady Oct 2021 #93

SWMBO in my life agrees with you. Kid Berwyn Oct 2021 #95

I'm with you. Liberal In Texas Oct 2021 #96

What did we do before Facebook? paleotn Oct 2021 #99

Lets see. Climb 5 flights of stairs, no elevator, put mask on, Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #124

So instead, we give the Reich Wing a platform to take down liberal democracy... paleotn Oct 2021 #130

They already have Fox, Newsweek, ghosts of Limbaugh Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #142

Totally agree with all your comments in the trade off not being worth FBs existence in its Alexander Of Assyria Oct 2021 #158

Interactive social media is the peoples media! leftstreet Oct 2021 #102

I think you've got that backwards.... paleotn Oct 2021 #113

Also I would add to your thoughts, social media should not be conflated with informational news. Alexander Of Assyria Oct 2021 #169

I DO NOT do face book, My wife does occasionally bluestarone Oct 2021 #103

You can do all that you mentioned with email, and emailing list of your family and friends. spike jones Oct 2021 #110

We also used horse and buggy relayerbob Oct 2021 #127

I see your poems and photos on there all the time. Swede Oct 2021 #117

Because authoritarian countries block access IronLionZion Oct 2021 #118

I wish that were true, but it isn't.... paleotn Oct 2021 #139

China, Egypt, and others have blocked it periodically IronLionZion Oct 2021 #156

FB has been down all day. I really don't miss it alfredo Oct 2021 #120

I am with you Cal Peggy. Yes, I still have an acct. on FB. flying_wahini Oct 2021 #122

Thanks Peggy.. I agree mountain grammy Oct 2021 #128

Post removed Post removed Oct 2021 #129

What does "patentic" GusBob Oct 2021 #134

My husband celebrated the demise of FB all day. TNNurse Oct 2021 #132

I don't dislike Facebook The Fifty Stateman Oct 2021 #133

I have good experiences there too radical noodle Oct 2021 #138

I left FB after finding out about Cambridge Analytica kellytore Oct 2021 #140

Thanks Peggy - you and I are of the same mind. I just ignore the hateful Facebook Bludgeoners. NBachers Oct 2021 #141

Where's the laugh like on here? HelpImSurrounded Oct 2021 #143

"never play the games..." reACTIONary Oct 2021 #144

It includes me as well! polmaven Oct 2021 #145

Recommended. H2O Man Oct 2021 #146

Well stated snowybirdie Oct 2021 #147

Messenger Bear Creek Oct 2021 #148

All that you like is available without the invasive algorithms that drive the commericialism randr Oct 2021 #149

That is the reason seta1950 Oct 2021 #153

Statement from Facebook Mosby Oct 2021 #155

LOL Pinback Oct 2021 #167

Haha. I totally don't rely on Facebook to remember peoples' birthdays. meadowlander Oct 2021 #190

thank you Peggy! HAB911 Oct 2021 #157

I'm on FB all the time but I have no issues with those who are critical of it. C Moon Oct 2021 #161

I don't understand why so many people hold this hate for Facebook yourmovemonkey Oct 2021 #163

Never used it, never happier. 634-5789 Oct 2021 #164

Ditto Ditto Ditto, as you know, Peg. elleng Oct 2021 #165

I agree easttexaslefty Oct 2021 #166

I have never used Facebook, so it's sort of like not missing Mr.Bill Oct 2021 #168

Thank you for this....nt Heartstrings Oct 2021 #171

I think you are completely wrong. Jon King Oct 2021 #176

This message was self-deleted by its author Jon King Oct 2021 #178

It has its good points but all in all it's destructive trash. argyl Oct 2021 #180

I am baffled that every DUer is not trying to destroy Facebook!!! Jon King Oct 2021 #182

as I have said before Skittles Oct 2021 #183

But when they "have at it" they are helping to destroy democracy. Jon King Oct 2021 #188

Time to take another break from DU. Jon King Oct 2021 #185

I worry about the disinformation promulgated there and what it does to people Kali Oct 2021 #186

I have never used it, so perhaps I'm not entitled to an opinion. NNadir Oct 2021 #187

Educate yourself, this is what you are doing when you give Facebook your revenue. Jon King Oct 2021 #189

Me too Faux pas Oct 2021 #192

I am going to lock my thread. First, I'm reposting my opening post so anyone can read it. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2021 #194