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grumpyduck

(6,672 posts) Wed Oct 6, 2021, 10:32 AM Oct 2021

Pronouns: he, him, his or she, her, hers [View all]

How many of you use, or are required to use, your pronouns in your email signatures, i.e., John Smith he, his, him.

A number of people at my office have started using them, so I'm just curious (I'm one of the hold-outs).

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Pronouns: he, him, his or she, her, hers [View all] grumpyduck Oct 2021 OP

I've always gotten them mixed up anyway in conversation. Some kind of dyslexia Walleye Oct 2021 #1

I don't think I understand the question.... Ohio Joe Oct 2021 #2

Thanks. I revised the question. grumpyduck Oct 2021 #3

ahh, ok I see now... Ohio Joe Oct 2021 #10

I don't do it on my e-mail sigs AZSkiffyGeek Oct 2021 #18

It's not that it bothers me, grumpyduck Oct 2021 #20

Sometimes "being politically correct" is just being polite and correct. meadowlander Oct 2021 #61

I've seen it a few times in emails. MLAA Oct 2021 #4

It's optional at both work and school Sympthsical Oct 2021 #5

Same TheProle Oct 2021 #8

You apparently don't need to identify your pronouns because your name/presentation match Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #65

Nowhere did I state that I didn't understand that Sympthsical Oct 2021 #68

My point precisely. Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #81

Hmmm...I'd be forced to use: ret5hd Oct 2021 #6

They/them can be chose by those who identify non-binary. we can do it Oct 2021 #7

Coming Attraction: Smee Champp Oct 2021 #9

Just use neuter plural pronouns - they, their, them or you, your Klaralven Oct 2021 #15

I'm starting to see this a lot lately, unblock Oct 2021 #11

Okay, please help me here PatSeg Oct 2021 #25

That is sort of like.... CrackityJones75 Oct 2021 #28

When it comes to the content of a business email PatSeg Oct 2021 #38

agreed, and online communication is an interesting venue in that color and gender actually can be unblock Oct 2021 #43

Yes it would PatSeg Oct 2021 #54

I don't understand - "you" and "your" are also gender-neutral muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #75

When you take the people out of business CrackityJones75 Oct 2021 #63

Some places allow for it Sympthsical Oct 2021 #39

Thank you PatSeg Oct 2021 #51

so, let's say your name is pat and you want people to know you identify as male unblock Oct 2021 #40

Thanks, I just couldn't picture PatSeg Oct 2021 #53

John Smith, him LeftInTX Oct 2021 #70

Thanks, it just feels rather odd to me, PatSeg Oct 2021 #73

I think the point is to make it comfortable and normal for people to specify what pronouns they want meadowlander Oct 2021 #59

+1 leftstreet Oct 2021 #72

There's a line for it in LinkedIn on your profile SCantiGOP Oct 2021 #12

I'm not adding them jimfields33 Oct 2021 #13

I have no problem respecting someone's personal wishes, but if they have a preference... hlthe2b Oct 2021 #14

By this you mean you don't feel a need to do this yourself? vanlassie Oct 2021 #26

Yes. That is what I said. hlthe2b Oct 2021 #27

👍👍 vanlassie Oct 2021 #31

Putting the onus on everyone is the main reason for doing it. Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #67

No, the onus is on EVERYONE to RESPECT a chosen pronoun when identified. hlthe2b Oct 2021 #69

That's a start. Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #80

It was unusual to see just a few years ago MissB Oct 2021 #16

Happy Birthday Pat. multigraincracker Oct 2021 #17

There really SHOULD be a set of non-gender pronouns for use when a gender is unkown. 70sEraVet Oct 2021 #19

I always found it rather odd PatSeg Oct 2021 #23

The plural forms are acceptable now when referring to a singular nuxvomica Oct 2021 #36

Oh yes, it did precede the use of plural forms PatSeg Oct 2021 #44

I've gotten used to "they/them/their" for singular nuxvomica Oct 2021 #66

I think we all have some of those PatSeg Oct 2021 #71

I Can't Get RobinA Oct 2021 #78

Unfortunately, the alternative would be to use the masculine nuxvomica Oct 2021 #84

We have one. Act_of_Reparation Oct 2021 #35

As a gay man who played the pronoun game often and with great relish Sympthsical Oct 2021 #42

Why are you confused by 'they' (both singular and plural), but not 'you' (both singular and plural)? muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #77

Here's a bbc article. hunter Oct 2021 #21

I really hate the they/their singular use. honest.abe Oct 2021 #33

Same. I'd be delighted if singular forms were to develop. Hortensis Oct 2021 #45

Yes, "they" have the right to do so. honest.abe Oct 2021 #74

I've seen xe/xir used as well AZSkiffyGeek Oct 2021 #87

I have a first name that a lot of people mistake for female, even though I'm male Silent3 Oct 2021 #22

Yes, very awkward and uncomfortable for me as well PatSeg Oct 2021 #24

I was always at war with my English teachers from grade school thru college. hunter Oct 2021 #37

My first rule is PatSeg Oct 2021 #50

If I start obsessing about the rules I freeze up and don't write anything at all. hunter Oct 2021 #56

Oh yes, that can be very inhibiting PatSeg Oct 2021 #60

Me too, but, I love how a non-binary person I follow vanlassie Oct 2021 #30

That's why I said *known* singular person Silent3 Oct 2021 #47

My mom was an English major. Tell me about it!😜 vanlassie Oct 2021 #55

I have the same in reverse and also work as a professional in field that has long been assumed male. hlthe2b Oct 2021 #62

I do not romana Oct 2021 #29

it's not required in my work, but it's becoming pretty standard voluntarily fishwax Oct 2021 #32

Just a thought Mossfern Oct 2021 #34

I like it. ananda Oct 2021 #41

My hospital asks patients their preferred pronouns, always. ismnotwasm Oct 2021 #46

I'm a HS teacher. I do it in my signature. It helps normalize the use. Cuthbert Allgood Oct 2021 #48

I don't and won't, would be unusual and attract unwanted attention Amishman Oct 2021 #49

Precisely the point - Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #79

At my company, the only people who do that are the HR Directors. beaglelover Oct 2021 #52

At 69 years old, I have come to greatly respect Jeffery Marsh. vanlassie Oct 2021 #57

Not required Mad_Machine76 Oct 2021 #58

Please do - it is a way of not "othering" trans, non-binary, genderqueer individuals. Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #64

I Am Not RobinA Oct 2021 #76

It's an LGBT inclusive thing...I'm not LGBT, so it's more out of respect for the LBGT community. LeftInTX Oct 2021 #83

Not required to, but I choose to Withywindle Oct 2021 #82

Never even heard of that. n/t DFW Oct 2021 #85

Slight diversion: why 3 pronouns in the example you give, or 2 for most I've seen? muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #86