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femmedem

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28. The problem with going out is that there will be tons of ummasked people eating.

Tue Nov 23, 2021, 07:36 PM

Nov 2021

And you won't know how many are vaxxed. I love the idea of postponing, with the explanation that you don't want to put her in an uncomfortable position with your BIL. I imagine your MIL has probably already bought a ton of perishable food, but maybe you could offer to reimburse her? And then zoom on Thanksgiving so she doesn't feel alone.

I really feel for you. There's no perfect solution, but you can't risk catching covid and postponing the surgery.

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My Covidiot Anti-Vax BIL is ruining our Thanksgiving!!!! [View all] Coventina Nov 2021 OP

Can you invite just your mother-in-law to your house? eom guillaumeb Nov 2021 #1

That would be a good idea that would work under normal circumstances for most people. Coventina Nov 2021 #5

Your MIL could be carrying COVID if he's been around her. You should cancel the whole thing, Liberty Belle Nov 2021 #32

I vote with this suggestion. 👍 EOM Scottie Mom Nov 2021 #47

+1000 mahina Nov 2021 #58

If he wanders in and out like that Dorian Gray Nov 2021 #56

I can count at least a dozen reasons why the idiot BIL needs to be excluded. hlthe2b Nov 2021 #2

IKR? Argh. n/t Coventina Nov 2021 #7

Do not let him near you wryter2000 Nov 2021 #3

She doesn't want him to, but she's the one who has to "live" with him and Coventina Nov 2021 #9

If she's worried about LIVING, she needs to vanlassie Nov 2021 #30

Why is it so hard to tell people what the rules are and then enforce them? dem4decades Nov 2021 #4

He's already being babied 6 ways to Sunday, unfortunately. Coventina Nov 2021 #10

I have a unvaccinated BIL too, he refused to get vaccinated and attend my sons wedding. So F him. dem4decades Nov 2021 #13

You have the right to say no. Texaswitchy Nov 2021 #6

Ha! I like that idea. I'll see if that one will fly.... n/t Coventina Nov 2021 #11

Fuck him. Take your mother in law to a restaurant. captain queeg Nov 2021 #8

YEP! 634-5789 Nov 2021 #16

If you're hosting it, you call the shots. Doremus Nov 2021 #12

MIL is hosting. Maybe she would be willing to delay. Coventina Nov 2021 #17

Allow him to attend The Wizard Nov 2021 #14

Grow a pair and refuse that moran! 634-5789 Nov 2021 #15

I can refuse to attend. But, I don't want to be put in the position of being the Coventina Nov 2021 #19

If you refuse to attend how does that make you the "bad guy" who won't let him attend... SMC22307 Nov 2021 #21

Think again... 634-5789 Nov 2021 #23

You are not the bad guy, HE IS!!! mrsadm Nov 2021 #29

better to be the "bad guy" than MissMillie Nov 2021 #36

Tell your MIL if your BIL doesn't get tested you can't invite either of them.it's blueinredohio Nov 2021 #18

Apologies, I should have put in my OP that MIL is hosting, not me. n/t Coventina Nov 2021 #20

Take her out that way neither one of you have to cook. blueinredohio Nov 2021 #22

I'll float that idea when I get home. Coventina Nov 2021 #24

The problem with going out is that there will be tons of ummasked people eating. femmedem Nov 2021 #28

negative test or forget it. barbtries Nov 2021 #25

Thanks, good advice. n/t Coventina Nov 2021 #26

Testing is a BAD idea, he's too late for an accurate test. He wouldn't get Maru Kitteh Nov 2021 #35

He needs to stay home. Someone can bring him a doggy bag full of the thanksgiving feast! beaglelover Nov 2021 #27

Disinvite him or risk dying, your choice traitorsgalore Nov 2021 #31

What do his tantrums look like, and why do they worry you so? When you say Scrivener7 Nov 2021 #33

Tell him very clearly, TNNurse Nov 2021 #34

If you know your BIL Raftergirl Nov 2021 #37

It's her house Demobrat Nov 2021 #38

coventina I am so sorry you have an asshole BIL MLAA Nov 2021 #39

They can cook their own turkey. Texaswitchy Nov 2021 #46

Hugs. Ms. Toad Nov 2021 #40

Probably don't want to hear this, but with surgery coming up.... paleotn Nov 2021 #41

He is an ignorant bully. Stick to your guns. Grumpy Old Guy Nov 2021 #42

My SIL said she and her family had had COVID and recovered. LastLiberal in PalmSprings Nov 2021 #43

Doesn't love anyone but himself....my answer take care....buy a frozen dinner meal..... turbinetree Nov 2021 #44

Sick but recovering? LisaL Nov 2021 #45

********* Update ********** Coventina Nov 2021 #48

Good for her. Monsieur_Grumpe Nov 2021 #51

That's good MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #54

Good Hav Nov 2021 #55

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2021 #49

Back again just to be banned? n/t GP6971 Nov 2021 #52

Lonely under the bridge? johnp3907 Nov 2021 #53

Just say no... Trueblue Texan Nov 2021 #50

All I Did Was Sit At A Table With Someone Who Didn't Know They Had It ChoppinBroccoli Nov 2021 #57

OMG! No! He's probably still contagious. I wouldn't allow him into my home! liberal_mama Nov 2021 #59