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In reply to the discussion: "I hate every one of you. I wish I had never been born." [View all]Solly Mack
(90,765 posts)the call to nurture a baby.
Oh, sure, she was raped and forced to give birth but just you wait, her maternal instincts will kick in and she'll love that baby!
Or she'll abuse it because the trauma of rape has never been dealt with and/or the baby looks just like the rapist. Or maybe, just maybe, a woman or young girl doesn't want to give birth to their own sibling/cousin/aunt/uncle, or the child of a rapist not related to her.
And why would anyone be so cruel as to force a little girl to give birth? That's child abuse and people who would do that are no better than the rapist that got the child pregnant. Sick and depraved all.
Or you hear the completely dismissive "the baby is innocent".
So? Just because the fetus wasn't the rapist doesn't make it a blessing. Or wanted. Or needed. Or the best outcome.
Even if she wasn't raped and simply does not want to carry a pregnancy to term - they say the same kind of shit.
Oh, honey. Just because you feel that way now doesn't mean your maternal instincts won't kick in later.
Like enjoying a good fuck (or lamenting a bad one) that results in pregnancy translates into instant maternal instincts. Instant desire to be a mother.
Like you couldn't possibly know your own mind about not wanting a child and that once overcome by hormones everything will change.
People who think that way are no different than the fool who said women have a way of shutting it all down to prevent conception during rape.
No clue about the effects of rape, no clue about how reproduction works, no clue about the female body, and for damn sure no clue about women as people.
And just because somebody's grandmother/mother/sister/aunt changed her mind about having kids doesn't mean it holds true for all women.
And just because a rape victim does choose to give birth doesn't mean all rape victims want to carry the fetus to term.
You want to "choose life"? Then how about choosing the life of the person in the world - the woman. Choose her well-being. Choose her rights.