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ShazzieB

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108. Oh, lord, yes.

Wed Jan 12, 2022, 06:16 PM

Jan 2022

I see comments about "tiny dicks," "small parts," etc. at DU almost every day. It's childish and silly, imo. (Also gendered insults, which are among my particular pet peeves.)

Some seem to think it's just fine to use insults that are classist, homophobic, sexist, body shaming, etc., as long as those insults are aimed at the "bad guys." I disagree. No matter what someone may have done to deserve being insulted, it's NEVER okay to (for example) call ANY woman a bitch or a skank, use homophobic insults when speaking of a (suspected) closeted gay man, or make fun of anyone's weight or (suspected) anatomical deficits. (Add to that comments about adults wearing diapers, which are offensively ableist, afaic.)

I've given up on commenting on these things when I see them in posts, because it never does any good, especially since there are no explicit rules against these kinds of insults. But I really wish more DUers could see how wrong this sort of thing is.

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Do you look down at people who live in trailers? Is it okay to ridicule people who live in trailers? [View all] NurseJackie Jan 2022 OP

Half my friends live in one of these CanonRay Jan 2022 #1

In one trailer??? underpants Jan 2022 #6

Good catch! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #7

They are close friends CanonRay Jan 2022 #11

Well, as long as you have an even number of friends Martin Eden Jan 2022 #88

On rare occasions a post here makes me laugh out loud. Ace Rothstein Jan 2022 #93

I did too! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #117

Which half? mercuryblues Jan 2022 #214

Nope, and of course it's not OK to do that. MineralMan Jan 2022 #2

The "Marjorie Trailer Queen" insult has started to gain some popularity here... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #196

I prefer "Marjorie Traitor Queen" sarchasm Jan 2022 #198

I had not seen that. Ugly. MineralMan Jan 2022 #202

I agree, NJ. brer cat Jan 2022 #3

I agree snowybirdie Jan 2022 #4

I wouldn't mind living in a nice place like that. I do know many people who live in trailers or who tblue37 Jan 2022 #5

That home in the photo is not bad at all. On a nice lot... brush Jan 2022 #13

K&R, I would live in a modular home or a California trailer park in a second. They are REALLY nice uponit7771 Jan 2022 #8

Too much snobbery, regional chauvinism, and 'soft bigotry' goes unanswered here EYESORE 9001 Jan 2022 #9

This. n/t ms liberty Jan 2022 #25

Well said. nt crickets Jan 2022 #49

I'd hate to be a Democrat living in Alabama here on DU... WarGamer Jan 2022 #107

I am proudly proclaiming I am Trailer Trash. Tommymac Jan 2022 #213

Glad things turned out so great for you EYESORE 9001 Jan 2022 #216

I always consider the source of criticisms. I am no more special then anyone else. Tommymac Jan 2022 #221

Indeed ck4829 Jan 2022 #232

With the bougie tiny homes movement, people living in mobiles homes, trailers, buses and vans... SYFROYH Jan 2022 #10

I live in a fifth wheel rv in an RV park. Half of the park is full timers.My space rent SammyWinstonJack Jan 2022 #71

350/mo including utilities and I assume some extras like BBQ area, etc... WarGamer Jan 2022 #109

I don't mean to be contentious AT ALL, so please don't take it that way. BobTheSubgenius Jan 2022 #175

This message was self-deleted by its author wyn borkins Jan 2022 #12

A few years ago, I was behind a car that hit a dog just beyond a mobile home park and drove off... hlthe2b Jan 2022 #14

... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #34

We would post about it on Next Door Sympthsical Jan 2022 #129

What a nice story EastMeetsWest Jan 2022 #181

Sometimes I think the people that live in... S/V Loner Jan 2022 #15

Well said. StarryNite Jan 2022 #16

Mobile home parks such as yours are all over Florida mcar Jan 2022 #17

Looks comfy. GoodRaisin Jan 2022 #18

I knew a guy who lived in a trailer bucolic_frolic Jan 2022 #19

:) We have friends who travel the world and use their MH Hortensis Jan 2022 #53

Just call it a "tiny house" and the snobs will adore you. Mister Ed Jan 2022 #20

I hadn't thought of that! 🤣😂🤣 NurseJackie Jan 2022 #28

That was my first thought as well. Coventina Jan 2022 #55

"We were driving each other crazy..." Jedi Guy Jan 2022 #151

Aw, thanks Jedi Guy! Coventina Jan 2022 #170

i only ever heard of the word catsudon Jan 2022 #21

Not at all. liberalmuse Jan 2022 #22

If the trailer is festooned with gay texan Jan 2022 #23

Mobile Home parks around here Mr.Bill Jan 2022 #75

We have no "HOA" here... but I don't see political yard signs around here. Only bumper stickers. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #236

+1. Right now, we live in house near my Lady Friend's kids and grandkids. I suspect, when Hoyt Jan 2022 #24

No, not at all. And I don't blame you for being annoyed. Vinca Jan 2022 #26

My brother lives in a trailer, so no, I don't immediately go 'there'... Wounded Bear Jan 2022 #27

K&R sheshe2 Jan 2022 #29

Fat shaming, body part shaming, trailer park shaming. It's so disappointing. MenloParque Jan 2022 #30

+ agree. n/t iluvtennis Jan 2022 #111

You said it EastMeetsWest Jan 2022 #182

It's insensitive shorthand for what the person wants to say, like calling someone a Karen. Croney Jan 2022 #31

Oh, lord, yes. ShazzieB Jan 2022 #108

+1000 Jedi Guy Jan 2022 #152

Oh, but........ concretebluetwo Jan 2022 #178

In the popular opinion of my very single, professional MenloParque Jan 2022 #206

Great points. LoisB Jan 2022 #32

My wife and I aspire to live in a trailer eventually. iscooterliberally Jan 2022 #33

I live in a double wide in FL near the coast. babylonsister Jan 2022 #185

May I suggest big enough a motorhome to pull a runabout vehicle? lambchopp59 Jan 2022 #195

I was thinking about that too. iscooterliberally Jan 2022 #208

This message was self-deleted by its author lambchopp59 Jan 2022 #237

I hear you. Lovely photo. Joinfortmill Jan 2022 #35

I lived in a used mobile home for 14 years I saved doc03 Jan 2022 #36

**Raises hand** Me too, Nurse Jackie Trailrider1951 Jan 2022 #37

Hi, Trailrider1951... thanks for checking in. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #39

Definitely not OK, NurseJackie. Magoo48 Jan 2022 #38

I generally equate opulent with gaudy Victor_c3 Jan 2022 #85

Sounds like a solid plan. Magoo48 Jan 2022 #121

Ooh! "morbidly rich"--Good one! planetc Jan 2022 #149

Nope, it's not ok. BlackSkimmer Jan 2022 #40

Grew up in trailer Park 48656c6c6f20 Jan 2022 #41

I think it's different when people do that amongst themselves. ShazzieB Jan 2022 #114

Some DU friends have called me a nasty woman... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #135

I live in Oakland wryter2000 Jan 2022 #42

A lot of people here look down on renters. milestogo Jan 2022 #43

In Our Town... ProfessorGAC Jan 2022 #44

Tiny homes are fashionable these days IronLionZion Jan 2022 #45

Trailers are very roomy...Jackie's doublewide is likely as large as my bungalow. Demsrule86 Jan 2022 #189

Trailers are probably more roomy than tiny houses IronLionZion Jan 2022 #203

Can we thank Jeff Foxworthy for the term "trailer-trash" KS Toronado Jan 2022 #46

Oh, I've heard it all my life. (I grew up in the South.) NurseJackie Jan 2022 #48

Here in coastal Southern California... Spider Jerusalem Jan 2022 #47

One of my brothers lives in a trailer out in the desert. hunter Jan 2022 #50

It really depends on the condition of the trailer, and the yard it's on. Archae Jan 2022 #51

I see. Interesting. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #59

If the people living there are that sloppy, they deserve to be called sloppy. Archae Jan 2022 #82

One important thing my dad impressed on me is.... paleotn Jan 2022 #52

Raises hand,,,, KarenS Jan 2022 #54

Our screened-in porch has a open-flame propane heater/faux-fireplace NurseJackie Jan 2022 #61

Looking at wonderful, affordable manufactured homes Ishoutandscream2 Jan 2022 #77

Ideally, I'd want to live in a 55+ community. But so far.... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #113

I essentially live in a 55+ community, EastMeetsWest Jan 2022 #183

If Your Husband RobinA Jan 2022 #215

Good one!! KarenS Jan 2022 #223

Ha! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #228

Nope inthewind21 Jan 2022 #56

I know of one popular entertainer... ECL213 Jan 2022 #57

Sly Stone? OMGWTF Jan 2022 #212

Well, some can't resist, but smart people who aren't wealthy themselves Hortensis Jan 2022 #58

I live in Florida MOMFUDSKI Jan 2022 #60

Sometimes I envy the full-time RV'ers who just follow the wind (and seasons)... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #64

We Are Proud P-Nutt Jan 2022 #62

Sweet! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #65

I didn't know you lived in Maryland. Mr.Bill Jan 2022 #79

Thanks for being so positive on the merits of living in MH. As they say, Home is where the SWBTATTReg Jan 2022 #63

Your picture is what I would call a "premanufactured home" and not a trailer. NutmegYankee Jan 2022 #66

That photos is one that's just similar in layout and curb-appeal. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #76

Those hydrant style faucets, usually called frost proof, are code up here. NutmegYankee Jan 2022 #165

It's not the trailers DownriverDem Jan 2022 #67

I lived in a trailer when I first started working. nclib Jan 2022 #68

I live in a trailer. Mr.Bill Jan 2022 #69

The room we use for a guest-room / den is paneled. It's not my favorite... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #78

Sticks and stones... dixiechiken1 Jan 2022 #70

No and no ... it's very wrong to do that! nt Raine Jan 2022 #72

Trailer... or manufactured home... albacore Jan 2022 #73

We've often commented that our home would be worth MILLIONS... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #116

You can get away with a lot here; as long as you're insulting the "right" people oldsoftie Jan 2022 #74

Exactly right. +1. N/T Jedi Guy Jan 2022 #154

+2 Celerity Jan 2022 #167

Agree! birdographer Jan 2022 #80

BRAVA!!! OneGrassRoot Jan 2022 #81

I still have my Nextdoor account, but I unsubscribed from almost everything. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #100

I have a couple of acres and on two sides of me is multigraincracker Jan 2022 #83

I think that's a holdover of when Farmer-Rick Jan 2022 #84

there are trailer trash that live in million dollar houses Kali Jan 2022 #86

Good for you!!! LAS14 Jan 2022 #87

I have a deal for you. beemerphill Jan 2022 #89

nice house. there are mobile home parks all over southern California. but they are placed Demovictory9 Jan 2022 #90

Yeah... that's a little too-close for comfort. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #96

no. homes is homes dang nabbit. i know of people who live in boats , yurts . dugout cabins . AllaN01Bear Jan 2022 #91

I don't make ForgedCrank Jan 2022 #92

I have not seen that here it is probably pwb Jan 2022 #94

Excellent post. n/t MicaelS Jan 2022 #95

I'm a software engineer and I live in a singlewide. paulkienitz Jan 2022 #97

I lost my "real house" in bush's recession. Riverman100 Jan 2022 #98

I have lived in two mobile homes - one in a park and one not. dchill Jan 2022 #99

We're able to keep ours warm with the fuel-oil furnace... but the AC needs a little help. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #103

I lived in a rundown single-wide on my rural property cilla4progress Jan 2022 #101

Yikes! So sorry to hear about the fire! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #106

Thanks! cilla4progress Jan 2022 #160

Raises my son in one of these ... TomWilm Jan 2022 #102

I hate stereotyping people and their lifestyles. As long as a home & yard is acceptably clean Ziggysmom Jan 2022 #104

I will NEVER mock those living in trailers... WarGamer Jan 2022 #105

No. and I hate the practice of calling people " trash" whathehell Jan 2022 #110

Trailers can be quite cozy. Ellipsis Jan 2022 #112

We think so too. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #115

We just bought our first manufactured home OMGWTF Jan 2022 #118

Congratulations! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #124

1. I don't give a crap about where you live, I care more about what kind of person you are. And 2... George II Jan 2022 #119

I have lived in a double wide for the last 30 years, paid under 30k new for it in 1991 SmittyWerben Jan 2022 #120

That's awesome! NurseJackie Jan 2022 #125

My first housing buy was a trailer on an acre of land Woodwizard Jan 2022 #122

Pride in ownership does help to make up for some of the shortcomings. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #126

I lived there for 18 years Woodwizard Jan 2022 #162

We should definitely change the expression. From now on, it's not "trailer trash." pnwmom Jan 2022 #123

LOL NJCher Jan 2022 #177

Maybe "Trump trash"? oldsoftie Jan 2022 #186

I never forget I was poor. Sympthsical Jan 2022 #127

Yes, I never forget my family was poor. raging moderate Jan 2022 #130

One of the big ones I remember is eyeglasses Sympthsical Jan 2022 #132

I can relate to this. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #131

You guys sound like my partner and me Sympthsical Jan 2022 #137

Yes, that's why I can afford to feed homeless people, etc. raging moderate Jan 2022 #139

maybe NJCher Jan 2022 #179

Not for that reason. Gore1FL Jan 2022 #128

Nevada checking in ampm Jan 2022 #133

Yes! Owning the land is a BIG plus. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #134

Kind of how I feel about blonde jokes, y'know? madamesilverspurs Jan 2022 #136

We know they have a limited lifespan. It's not like the old-days when... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #138

14 years in a single wide. GPV Jan 2022 #140

If someone had told 25 year old me that I'd be living in a mobile home... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #143

My boyfriend lives in a trailer. It's nicer than my house. TrogL Jan 2022 #141

That puts things into perspective. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #142

Simply, that is a lovely home, colorado_ufo Jan 2022 #144

Only a trashy trailer with the following rickford66 Jan 2022 #145

I'm probably going to move into a trailer in about five years. Xolodno Jan 2022 #146

Make sure that the rural area you eventually move to does have multiple access points SWBTATTReg Jan 2022 #226

No, and HELL no! 11 Bravo Jan 2022 #147

That's a manufactured house - BadGimp Jan 2022 #148

my first home was a trailer Skittles Jan 2022 #150

I live in a single wide, quite happily. planetc Jan 2022 #153

well here where i live we call them homes.....i will never understand why there is such a stigma dawn5651 Jan 2022 #155

My partner's grandson was abandoned by his Mother.. Permanut Jan 2022 #156

I was curious about RV life last year ecstatic Jan 2022 #157

K&R Solly Mack Jan 2022 #158

Nope. I'm in one. Used to be our winter home, now it's our permanent one. ancianita Jan 2022 #159

I sure hope I have never used the term here Retired Engineer Bob Jan 2022 #161

No it is not okay and says volumes about the person who does so. 58Sunliner Jan 2022 #163

Probably some when I was in my teens, 20's, but then I learned better.... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #164

Not a bad built-on porch. PatrickforB Jan 2022 #166

K&R DashOneBravo Jan 2022 #168

Fuck the snobs DenaliDemocrat Jan 2022 #169

Only the ones who have three cars on blocks in the "front" yard. Ferrets are Cool Jan 2022 #171

After my parents married their first home was a trailer Raine Jan 2022 #172

A single wide is much bigger than a travel trailer Tumbulu Jan 2022 #173

I just loved my trailer. Grey5 Jan 2022 #174

I was surprised to find it such a common slur in the US. Only people applegrove Jan 2022 #176

Home sweet home. Cheers! (Nt) FreepFryer Jan 2022 #180

I make good money, but I can easily see going that route in order to retire early Silent3 Jan 2022 #184

Yep... this is our retirement home (although we bought it many years before retirement.) NurseJackie Jan 2022 #230

"Go back to your double-wide and fry something" Shrek Jan 2022 #187

Have you ever gone to Youtube and seen what people do to their trailers...amazing and Demsrule86 Jan 2022 #188

Thanks... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #193

Just say it's a tiny house obamanut2012 Jan 2022 #190

I know, right? Whenever I feel "cramped" in our cozy abode... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #194

Of course it's not OK to ridicule people that live in trailers dwayneb Jan 2022 #191

I work traveling ancillary medical. lambchopp59 Jan 2022 #192

I'd be over the moon if my homeless but employed son could afford to live in one. lark Jan 2022 #197

Never OK to dis trailer life pfitz59 Jan 2022 #199

Speaking of which . . . AverageOldGuy Jan 2022 #200

Those are some outstanding observations. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #201

You really do not live in a trailer, you live in a mobile home, which is really not mobile it is Escurumbele Jan 2022 #204

I grew up in one. So, no. I get the stereotype, but for a party... SKKY Jan 2022 #205

Nothing wrong with trailers, in fact, they can be a good option. LuckyCharms Jan 2022 #207

Oh, I have one more comment that is kind of related. LuckyCharms Jan 2022 #209

Absolutely not. inanna Jan 2022 #210

I grew up in a trailer jmowreader Jan 2022 #211

Nothing wrong with prefabricated housing The Mouth Jan 2022 #217

When I'm not living in my truck, MarineCombatEngineer Jan 2022 #218

Good post... thank you. Harker Jan 2022 #219

I appreciate that... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #235

It isn't about trailers it is our tradition of abusing and blaming the poor for their poverty while ShazamIam Jan 2022 #220

I grew up in a trailer. In part on a military base. nolabear Jan 2022 #222

Exactly... thanks! Great post. NurseJackie Jan 2022 #227

No I don't and no it isn't. It's called "affordable housing" Hekate Jan 2022 #224

The ones who do tend to live in excessive tacky McMansions well beyond their means Dukkha Jan 2022 #225

There are some nice parks, and then there's the negative stereotype of trailer park. Wingus Dingus Jan 2022 #229

Kick ck4829 Jan 2022 #231

... NurseJackie Jan 2022 #234

No - I lived in a mobile home while in college csziggy Jan 2022 #233

My ex and her husband could have written your post. BobTheSubgenius Jan 2022 #238

I loved the years I owned a mobile home. Owl Jan 2022 #239

NurseJackie, I love your home wherever you are. Budi Jan 2022 #240