Story # 8564721 in fat shaming.

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7. Now don't get the wrong

idea about what I am about to say here because there is no real excuse for this sort of behavior, just getting that out of the way.
However, some (maybe most? I don't know) of these people think they are actually helping by trying to apply pressure to people who are overweight. We all know it's extremely unhealthy, and we all want our friends and family to be healthy, and we want them to be happy.
I do believe that in most, or at least a lot of these cases, people feel like it is some sort of "tough love" operation that they are working on. I've been the target of it myself in past years.
Again, no, it's wrong. I used to be overweight. When you are overweight, you already know it, you know it every minute of every day. People don't need to be reminded, the internal pressure is bad enough. There are more moving pieces involved here than some people realize. In my case, food was incorrectly used as a stress coping mechanism. It took me a long time to overcome that. And not unlike being a drug addict or alcoholic, I don' think the urge to eat when stressed will ever leave me. I have to wage that war every single day of my life, and having people shame me or make comments only added to the stresses.
If you are one of these people, your intentions may be good, but they are also misguided. Please don't do it.