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shrike3

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21. With some, it's not so much living in fear, but knowing what the hell could happen.

Reply to alphafemale (Reply #17)

Fri Apr 29, 2022, 10:08 AM

Apr 2022

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new Samsung ad, created by all male team, called tone deaf (woman jogging alone at night) [View all] Demovictory9 Apr 2022 OP

Life as it should be in every city in the world lapfog_1 Apr 2022 #1

I've found that many men have no idea how much we restrict our activities to avoid danger viva la Apr 2022 #2

LA has many major stores open 24 hours and the others close at 2am, reopen at 6am. I drove Demovictory9 Apr 2022 #4

and the women are probably coming back from a late shift at work in some store viva la Apr 2022 #5

yes, when I was young bus rider, after I got off the bus at dusk and walked home, cars would pull up Demovictory9 Apr 2022 #6

I listen to too many true-crime podcasts-- 80% which deal with "Femicide" viva la Apr 2022 #7

That happened to me, too. They pick up prostitutes leftyladyfrommo Apr 2022 #29

I don't see hardly any men out much in the LA burb I live in except workers waiting for a bus Raine Apr 2022 #10

this was SFV, near Ventura boulevard Demovictory9 Apr 2022 #11

This is along the coast, probably rougher here Raine Apr 2022 #15

Or not. Jirel Apr 2022 #13

Oh. Well good for you then. smirkymonkey Apr 2022 #35

"None of us have a care in the world, either." betsuni Apr 2022 #46

Must be nice, huh? MrsCoffee Apr 2022 #53

But if women did NOT restrict activities, and one were assaulted, spooky3 Apr 2022 #8

Oh, ya. It was her fault. Running alone late at leftyladyfrommo Apr 2022 #30

I'm so sorry that happened to your friend. shrike3 Apr 2022 #56

It was a long time ago. It makes me sick when young leftyladyfrommo May 2022 #57

I remember a policeman saying, "Young women have no sense of danger until it is too late." shrike3 May 2022 #61

I remember how dumb I was about stuff like that. leftyladyfrommo May 2022 #63

I know exactly what you mean. shrike3 May 2022 #65

I just didn't have a clue. leftyladyfrommo May 2022 #66

Neither did I. shrike3 May 2022 #67

At least we lived to tell our tale. So many young women leftyladyfrommo May 2022 #68

As if one would meet all her night owl friends in the dimly lit streets. madaboutharry Apr 2022 #3

In preparing a related class I once taught, I was stunned to learn spooky3 Apr 2022 #9

Oh, FFS. Jirel Apr 2022 #12

Well, I used to run at night, then I was sexually assaulted while running at night. shrike3 Apr 2022 #14

I'm sorry that happened to you Demovictory9 Apr 2022 #16

Thank you. I'm at a point where I rarely think about it, and I never thought that would happen. shrike3 Apr 2022 #19

I'm sorry you went through that. Jirel Apr 2022 #20

There should be no "but" in that paragraph. MrsCoffee Apr 2022 #22

Yep North Shore Chicago Apr 2022 #47

Per the Guardian article shrike3 Apr 2022 #23

I think it is quite beautiful, actually. alphafemale Apr 2022 #17

With some, it's not so much living in fear, but knowing what the hell could happen. shrike3 Apr 2022 #21

Just stop demanding that we all live in your world paralyzed by fear. alphafemale Apr 2022 #25

I'm demanding nothing of you, darlin'. shrike3 Apr 2022 #27

That is the very thing. alphafemale Apr 2022 #36

Too bad "facing it" didn't teach you a little compassion. shrike3 Apr 2022 #37

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Years ago I liked walking at night when it got hot outside. I didn't feel safe and I'm a man. Emile Apr 2022 #18

Feeling unsafe is a little different than being afraid, which of course you know. shrike3 Apr 2022 #31

The all-male team at Ogilvy New York lives in a fantasy world. milestogo Apr 2022 #24

It makes me want to buy it more Polybius Apr 2022 #26

But it isn't safe to jog 24/7. Wishing doesn't make it so. shrike3 Apr 2022 #28

+1 betsuni Apr 2022 #48

That depends where you live I'd say EX500rider May 2022 #62

Unless something happens there. But it may be a matter of risk assessment. shrike3 May 2022 #64

Well we "should" live in a utopia, but we don't. milestogo Apr 2022 #33

Of course she SHOULD. Yet at least 60% of women are harassed while running. MrsCoffee Apr 2022 #52

A woman SHOULD feel safe & there SHOULD be no psychopaths womanofthehills May 2022 #72

I don't see an issue with this vercetti2021 Apr 2022 #32

I take a dog. milestogo Apr 2022 #34

I've known women who've done that. shrike3 Apr 2022 #39

Some dogs are subtle about it. milestogo Apr 2022 #51

You had a good dog. shrike3 Apr 2022 #54

It's called being prudent. Or taking precautions. What smart people do. shrike3 Apr 2022 #38

I take very long walks in the middle of the night Skittles Apr 2022 #40

It's not a good idea to wear ear buds no matter who you are, in most situations. Just my opinion. shrike3 Apr 2022 #41

it is crazy stupid Skittles Apr 2022 #42

Male or female. It's just not a good idea. shrike3 Apr 2022 #43

There are other people out and about in the city streets in almost every scene-- Wingus Dingus Apr 2022 #44

I'm glad people are discussing this Novara Apr 2022 #49

+1 betsuni Apr 2022 #50

I can remember asking a colleague to walk me to my car after dark. shrike3 Apr 2022 #55

When I worked the late shift at my last job, my stop time was 10:30 pm. Jedi Guy May 2022 #59

Thanks for being such a good person. shrike3 May 2022 #60

Mom and Dad taught me that it's a man's job to protect the women around him. Jedi Guy May 2022 #69

sounds like your parents taught you to be a kind person. shrike3 May 2022 #70

Thank you for being sensitive to their fear instead of dismissing it renate May 2022 #73

It would have been really hard not to be sensitive to it, if I'm being honest. Jedi Guy May 2022 #74

walking in the dark feels differently by body type. Demovictory9 May 2022 #71

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