Adoption means abortion just isn't necessary, SCOTUS claims: That's even worse than it sounds

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29. My two beloved grandsons are adopted. This thread troubles me.

First, adoption has been horribly abused forever. The things people have done in that field have been monstrous.

And it’s got particular problems in the best of circumstances. Each case involves a potentially large number of people—child, adoptive parents, birth parents, birth siblings and relatives, adoptive siblings and relatives—whose lives intertwine in complex ways. At best everyone is trying to give children good lives and to fulfill a dream in a different way. At worst children are commodities and seen as such.

My kids have as much relationship with the birth mothers, and in one case the birth father, as is good for the families. It’s not been easy. Not all adults function well and giving the little ones an honest understanding of why they’re adopted can be hard to do. I’ve admired their respect for the birth families, the way they’re age appropriately helping their children figure out what they want that relationship to be over the years. And to protect our beloved little ones from potential harm To see them as elites who have no thought for how many people are impacted is dismissive of everyone involved. This stuff is hard, and the love is tremendous, and the dangers can be daunting.

I guess this is just to say be careful always in assuming things are black and white. These are people, all of them, and even the ones whose actions you might not understand or condone are real and need support. We try. We adore those babies. We have compassion for the extended families and fervently hope we can guide our grand babies into a life where they know they are valued and protected by a lot of very complicated people.

So that’s one way these things go. Just in case y’all are interested.