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PatSeg

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30. Something I know all too well

Reply to Claire Oh Nette (Reply #24)

Sat May 7, 2022, 01:50 PM

May 2022

I am both an adoptee and a birth mother and the grief and loss stay with you for a lifetime, especially when you were never permitted to grieve openly. Instead you are expected to be perpetually "grateful". Meanwhile, the fathers rarely suffer any consequences.

There are so many stories of both adoptees and mothers spending much of their adult lives searching for their lost loved ones. Sadly, even if they find who they're looking for, that hole from the original loss doesn't go away. So much damage.

Edit to add: Every time I see Amy Coney Barrett, it just brings that pain to the surface all over again.

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Adoption means abortion just isn't necessary, SCOTUS claims: That's even worse than it sounds [View all] Nevilledog May 2022 OP

This is made more fucked up because these cultoids... dchill May 2022 #1

I would think that more to the point is that there is a... TreasonousBastard May 2022 #2

Yes, that is so offensive PatSeg May 2022 #21

We are ruled by fucked up religious zealots and sadistic sociopaths dalton99a May 2022 #3

You left out IGNORANT. lastlib May 2022 #4

+1000! Sen. Gary Peters shares painful decision to seek abortion: Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #7

Yep ck4829 May 2022 #14

THIS !!!! ☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾 uponit7771 May 2022 #26

repulicants are against abortion because... JoeOtterbein May 2022 #5

Fucking Ghouls. chowder66 May 2022 #6

K&R Solly Mack May 2022 #8

WTF sheshe2 May 2022 #9

A domestic supply of infants... Claire Oh Nette May 2022 #10

Yes PatSeg May 2022 #22

SO are her children Claire Oh Nette May 2022 #24

Something I know all too well PatSeg May 2022 #30

Yep. Claire Oh Nette May 2022 #35

"Should be over it by now" PatSeg May 2022 #36

Unmarried girls were utterly shamed into giving up their firstborn child. The social consequences... Hekate May 2022 #11

Yes. Many women didn't even have a real choice. Buckeyeblue May 2022 #18

Yes, exactly. shrike3 May 2022 #20

Black people don't give away their kin Claire Oh Nette May 2022 #25

I know, I know... Hekate May 2022 #31

I listened to the SCOTUS Q&A for this case, live via some link online Karma13612 May 2022 #12

I recall an interview with one of the higher ups in the military Karma13612 May 2022 #13

A valid thought ck4829 May 2022 #15

All workers. Demand for labor and low birth rates by choice have Hortensis May 2022 #23

VERY interesting. Thanks for enlightening me! Eom Karma13612 May 2022 #27

K&R ck4829 May 2022 #16

"Modern developments" !!!! Amy Clueless Barrett sees nothing wrong PA Democrat May 2022 #17

Yup. All true. Eom Karma13612 May 2022 #28

The U.S. has one of the worst maternal death rates in the modern world shrike3 May 2022 #19

My two beloved grandsons are adopted. This thread troubles me. nolabear May 2022 #29

My kids have as much relationship with the birth mothers, and in one case the birth father, as is go Claire Oh Nette May 2022 #33

I'm not entirely sure what you're saying. nolabear May 2022 #34

Abortion wasn't a problem until the supply of white newborns dried up. Ilsa May 2022 #32