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mentalsolstice

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176. Truce?

Sun Jun 26, 2022, 11:00 PM

Jun 2022

Did the OP understand that sex was a primary requirement in her relationship? That it would be a weapon. I don’t know, did she know her husband was anti-abortion when they married. It’s not my place to judge without knowing more facts. There are a lot of disgusting posts in this thread....sex is an entitlement.

Yes, there are substitutes for sex if for some reason a partner is unable....as long as they agree to it. However, it should be negotiated. To just say “I’m out” is unfair.

As for the OP, she’s stated she’s done with having children, yet her husband is anti-abortion. I don’t know other aspects off their relationship and why they have stayed together thus far. Myself, I was friends with my husband for several months before we became romantically involved. So at that time we knew we had similar beliefs. And I chose him because we connected on so many levels, first and foremost. I knew I would enjoy his companionship no matter what life brought us....health, age, disability. Sex was a benefit, but it wasn’t a primary thing in our marriage.

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As a married woman living in TX, I will no longer be having sex [View all] cags Jun 2022 OP

Tell him if he wants sex again, y'all have to move mnhtnbb Jun 2022 #1

I had hesitated to write about this evemac Jun 2022 #2

that sentiment is even on my twitter handle... samnsara Jun 2022 #22

Soon owning an illegal firearm is a misdemeanor, owning a vibrator is a 2nd Degree Felony (2-20yrs) TheBlackAdder Jun 2022 #47

100% OMGWTF Jun 2022 #71

Nutcase Clarence Thomas has hinted that In Vitro Fertilization(IVF) will be on his/right wingnuts iluvtennis Jun 2022 #108

How about Loving v. Virginia Colbert Jun 2022 #124

You got it -- Thomas also wants to go after interracial marriage as well as same sex marriage. BTW, iluvtennis Jun 2022 #140

Loving will be harder to overturn as it doesn't rely on the substantiative due Celerity Jun 2022 #163

That's good news! n/t iluvtennis Jun 2022 #167

I we were united, we could all quit sex altogether until the safe abortion national laws were passed lindysalsagal Jun 2022 #3

battles have been won/halted by women taking this stand samnsara Jun 2022 #24

There is a Greek comedy about this: Lysistrata forgotmylogin Jun 2022 #42

I love this idea! calimary Jun 2022 #51

And a recent movie Jilly_in_VA Jun 2022 #64

One of my favorite plays. ChazInAz Jun 2022 #91

But Republican Traildogbob Jun 2022 #32

Republican women may learn the hard way to stop voting republican. n/t rainin Jun 2022 #37

I hope so. walkingman Jun 2022 #112

How bout no more sex until after the midterms. If Dems win Funtatlaguy Jun 2022 #33

She doesn't want a pregnancy. Nothing changes for her with a mid-term win n/t rainin Jun 2022 #38

If I understand correctly Dave says Jun 2022 #60

That's my understanding, too. Nt spooky3 Jun 2022 #79

But it still isn't safe until the law is passed. Winning more seats is nice. It is short of the Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #168

Yes, but if enough Dems are elected, they can pass a statute spooky3 Jun 2022 #77

I think the Republicans have just handed over the COL Mustard Jun 2022 #117

This SCOTUS can strike down that law, too. Wednesdays Jun 2022 #138

No. Allowing males with guns to have dominion over women means they can rape women at will. Texin Jun 2022 #127

+1 musette_sf Jun 2022 #157

I've been wondering about the impact of this ruling on women's attitude toward sex. ariadne0614 Jun 2022 #4

THIS SC would probably rule that women must submit to their husbands and Tadpole Raisin Jun 2022 #34

Alito did cite the originator of marital rape exception IbogaProject Jun 2022 #74

I would bet that a whole lot of married and committed couples are having a sit down Texin Jun 2022 #166

Or until he gets snipped Freddie Jun 2022 #5

+1 n/t Victor_c3 Jun 2022 #144

as a person of the male gender, onethatcares Jun 2022 #6

Mostly because my husband was a good person wryter2000 Jun 2022 #39

When I first got married, BonnieJW Jun 2022 #55

Similar here wryter2000 Jun 2022 #66

If my husband were to vote for a Republican he would not be sleeping in my house csziggy Jun 2022 #80

All men should not be punished for the ignorant religious self-rightious dumbasses in walkingman Jun 2022 #7

My husband voted for this, elections have consequences :) cags Jun 2022 #11

Erections have consequences :) hay rick Jun 2022 #28

lol housecat Jun 2022 #78

OMG that's good! "Erections have consequences"! calimary Jun 2022 #158

Oh did not realize your spouse is a Trumper! Dump him asap. emulatorloo Jun 2022 #36

He's a trumper? nini Jun 2022 #130

It sounds like she has made her decision. AllyCat Jun 2022 #13

lol. no shit! & thanks. nt orleans Jun 2022 #56

She is not punishing her husband BlueAJ Jun 2022 #81

It's not about punishment. Ms. Toad Jun 2022 #89

I understand and it pisses me off too. Hopefully Txass will not ban contraception but it wouldn't walkingman Jun 2022 #111

A woman choosing to not have sex is her right whopis01 Jun 2022 #160

If her husband doesn't support RvW then I can understand this....but walkingman Jun 2022 #162

It's mean? Gosh. How awful. A pregnant woman is now an appliance controlled by the state. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #170

It's not about punishment. It's about the fact that sex is now dangerous for women. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #169

The fact is many pro life men "care" about it but it's not something they would fight for. halfulglas Jun 2022 #8

Birth control? BlackSkimmer Jun 2022 #9

Not 100% cags Jun 2022 #12

Not 100% effective. hay rick Jun 2022 #29

Not the same. I think it's clear that an unwanted pregnancy is different. n/t rainin Jun 2022 #40

Of course it's not the same. hay rick Jun 2022 #76

The thing is that less than 100% effective rate is tolerable because there is an option of last rainin Jun 2022 #128

She gets the tubes tied, Disaffected Jun 2022 #137

Until they ban that too CanonRay Jun 2022 #14

And when contraception is illegal? Ilsa Jun 2022 #16

Makes "open carry" all the more appealing. Totally Tunsie Jun 2022 #139

does he know WhiskeyGrinder Jun 2022 #10

After we were done having kids I got a vasectomy Buckeyeblue Jun 2022 #15

Good for you! 👍 ShazzieB Jun 2022 #26

+100 CaptainTruth Jun 2022 #68

"My husband can kiss my ass" Botany Jun 2022 #17

Lead to sex??? That IS sex. Model35mech Jun 2022 #25

It is sex. AFAIK nobody's gotten pregnant from having their ass kissed. emulatorloo Jun 2022 #70

... orangecrush Jun 2022 #152

i hope all the women in texas follow suit!..there needs to be consequences.. samnsara Jun 2022 #18

ALL the women in Texas?? Colbert Jun 2022 #67

39% of women in Texas is about 5.8 million based on U.S. Census data. OnlinePoker Jun 2022 #75

A sense of the struggle to come Colbert Jun 2022 #126

Forgive me for not sharing this post with my wife shelshaw Jun 2022 #19

Are you planning to risk an unwanted pregnancy? If so, shame on you. rainin Jun 2022 #44

Haha shelshaw Jun 2022 #101

Whoops, I took you seriously. Your intention is now clearer. rainin Jun 2022 #129

😇 shelshaw Jun 2022 #134

HA! Lucky for me, my wife attacks me often. Her ex was basically a eunuch. oldsoftie Jun 2022 #100

Maybe divorces will increase after this IronLionZion Jun 2022 #20

I bet ebay and ticktok will see abortion kits or just make up fake ones and fake pills Oppaloopa Jun 2022 #95

I'd suggest planning the divorce already, to be safe NickB79 Jun 2022 #21

I'd be already filing Sympthsical Jun 2022 #65

What if birth control was illegal. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #87

Everyone has the right to their own choices Sympthsical Jun 2022 #93

What if birth control was illegal. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #99

Everyone should make the best possible decisions for themselves Sympthsical Jun 2022 #109

But would you be willing to get a vasectomy in order avebury Jun 2022 #164

Kind of a non-issue with me Sympthsical Jun 2022 #165

What if a disability or accident rendered one partner unable to have sex? mentalsolstice Jun 2022 #174

Thinking people who have different relationships are "lesser" is a nice look Sympthsical Jun 2022 #175

Truce? mentalsolstice Jun 2022 #176

I wouldn't put up with it either - any man in that situation would be fully justified to get a Midwestern Democrat Jun 2022 #104

People always kind of forget the second part of the equation Sympthsical Jun 2022 #106

My Grandparents were married for about 75 years. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #107

Lysistrata! Cracklin Charlie Jun 2022 #23

Excellent point! 3catwoman3 Jun 2022 #49

Strikes me as an extreme reaction, but then I don't know your risks. Hortensis Jun 2022 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2022 #30

I couldn't agree more! SheltieLover Jun 2022 #88

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2022 #147

Absofuckingloutely! SheltieLover Jun 2022 #148

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2022 #151

Agreed! SheltieLover Jun 2022 #153

Tell him Rebl2 Jun 2022 #31

Your decision of course. But their are other sex acts besides intercourse, and intimacy is the glue emulatorloo Jun 2022 #35

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2022 #54

For one thing,Sex releases dopamine, which helps bond intimate partners. It is part of the picture emulatorloo Jun 2022 #69

"Sexless marriages can destroy both partners." Jedi Guy Jun 2022 #133

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2022 #150

K&R Thanks for posting. n/t TeamProg Jun 2022 #41

He could have a vasectomy mcar Jun 2022 #43

I think a lot of women (not just married ones) are locking up their vaginas at this point. Texin Jun 2022 #45

These guys are just like Trump. They just don't leftyladyfrommo Jun 2022 #92

Post removed Post removed Jun 2022 #46

Men, who respect their wives, should get vasectomies NOW rainin Jun 2022 #48

A lot of men should be making that choice now, because there will be consequences for them too. Texin Jun 2022 #50

I've been asking men how many children they can support. Lars39 Jun 2022 #52

They better be ready for one new baby a year. It's amazing that they don't even think. n/t rainin Jun 2022 #131

Our DIL asked our son to get one right after Shitler was "elected" OMGWTF Jun 2022 #84

I'll be having that conversation with my son this weekend. n/t rainin Jun 2022 #132

sex strike . AllaN01Bear Jun 2022 #53

This ruling guarantees that any man with a gun can FORCE rape/incest on a victim Texin Jun 2022 #125

I stand in solidarity with you. love_katz Jun 2022 #57

Tell him to get a vasectomy Beachnutt Jun 2022 #58

That's how it starts Maine Abu El Banat Jun 2022 #59

I, too, refuse sex with Texans. Solidarność"! jaxexpat Jun 2022 #61

What is it with (many) Texans? Why do they think THEIR state is that much better? oldsoftie Jun 2022 #103

I had a vasectomy years ago. I won't burden my wife with birth control. CaptainTruth Jun 2022 #62

Pretty soon only men with proof of a vasectomy leftyladyfrommo Jun 2022 #86

I thought of that last night..... paleotn Jun 2022 #63

Jebusland Colbert Jun 2022 #85

It sounds like sarisataka Jun 2022 #72

I would like to gouge alito's eyes out lefthandedskyhook Jun 2022 #73

Proof positive abortion is both a woman and a man issue. Emile Jun 2022 #82

That's the truth. Women should be afraid of having leftyladyfrommo Jun 2022 #83

It is now. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #94

These laws are so draconian the any problem in your leftyladyfrommo Jun 2022 #110

That almost killed my mother. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #113

That's what I was thinking. Best not to go to a leftyladyfrommo Jun 2022 #115

You are not kidding. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #118

The Catholic Hospital is still there. Texaswitchy Jun 2022 #135

It is her choice BlueAJ Jun 2022 #90

It's her choice Loki Liesmith Jun 2022 #155

At age 30 I gave birth and nearly died. My husband asked if he should get a vasectomy or housecat Jun 2022 #96

Same here, almost birdographer Jun 2022 #120

Thanks. Good to hear housecat Jun 2022 #123

I support your decision. llmart Jun 2022 #97

... with anyone assigned male at birth Colbert Jun 2022 #98

I presume the only male she's been having sex with Loki Liesmith Jun 2022 #142

This message was self-deleted by its author BusterMove Jun 2022 #102

your husband can get a vasectomy - TBF Jun 2022 #105

Think about that long and hard anamnua Jun 2022 #114

Sounds like somebody should reconsider her marriage Blecht Jun 2022 #116

This message was self-deleted by its author WarGamer Jun 2022 #119

True dat! Whatever your husband kisses, spit don't make no babies. Marcuse Jun 2022 #121

Ask him to get a vasectomy. roamer65 Jun 2022 #122

All women of fertile age should keep a supply of morning after pills on hand. Enough to hand diane in sf Jun 2022 #136

Find a good divorce lawyer. Loki Liesmith Jun 2022 #141

double headed dildo ftw hatsoffforu Jun 2022 #143

Whatever you've been using so far must have worked Raine Jun 2022 #145

I wish all Women would do this, no matter the political affiliation of the couple. Eliot Rosewater Jun 2022 #146

So many contraceptions for women and hardly any for men? Hahn_Bikey Jun 2022 #149

If my other half were a Republican scum, I'd cut off all sex, too. herding cats Jun 2022 #154

There will be a lot more frustrated incels. BrightKnight Jun 2022 #156

As a man normally I would disagree with what you are doing Jspur Jun 2022 #159

Maybe that's what it will take - a sex strike. Make sure those old, white men crafting their Vinca Jun 2022 #161

Given that a plurality of white females voters vote R Kaleva Jun 2022 #172

The sex door is closed, VGNonly Jun 2022 #171

Funny!! 😝 walkingman Jun 2022 #173