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BlackSkimmer

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83. I respect that.

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 04:35 PM

Sep 2022

I wasn’t talking to you in that response, but totally understand what you’re saying.

The OP has me flummoxed. Many cultures deal with death differently.

Many of my relatives are Irish. “Passed” is used quite a bit.

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Serious question [View all] malaise Sep 2022 OP

Excellent point. OLDMDDEM Sep 2022 #1

Serious question PJMcK Sep 2022 #2

Join the line malaise Sep 2022 #4

One cannot simply tiptoe surreptitiously around death EYESORE 9001 Sep 2022 #3

I find the attempts to do just that malaise Sep 2022 #6

Thank you. It's a pet peeve of mine, too. Mister Ed Sep 2022 #5

It's beyond stupid malaise Sep 2022 #8

You really should do some research on Native America cultures. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #44

"Passed" is my personal pet peeve Retrograde Sep 2022 #51

Yes, death is inevitable. pandr32 Sep 2022 #7

Agree malaise Sep 2022 #9

100% pandr32 Sep 2022 #10

My 89 year old golfing buddy won't say die, gab13by13 Sep 2022 #11

Because we are all concerned with our own mortality. Sneederbunk Sep 2022 #12

Well the British queen just died malaise Sep 2022 #13

Yep, we all reach the very same point in the end. KPN Sep 2022 #77

i feel that reality is the great equalizer...death is merely the end of the timeline. Moostache Sep 2022 #81

Well said. Nt raccoon Sep 2022 #98

I have a friend of mine who abhors at least one of those terms and will not allow it used. Wrestlefire769 Sep 2022 #14

I think some of the common euphemisms lend some dignity, respect, and kindness to the moment. Gidney N Cloyd Sep 2022 #15

dropped the robe is a native american expression. it means just that, mopinko Sep 2022 #18

I never slammed a coffin lid down on a malaise Sep 2022 #19

You can't be serious? BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #46

i talk to my ancestors. mopinko Sep 2022 #82

I respect that. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #83

Same here malaise Sep 2022 #85

Once upon a time, family members lived in the same dwelling, in the same small community, and death question everything Sep 2022 #16

Beautiful post malaise Sep 2022 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author MineralMan Sep 2022 #17

because when it is someone we love, it hurts to say that word. mopinko Sep 2022 #20

How do we heal if we can't speak the truth malaise Sep 2022 #22

we dont. when it's someone we love, we are never that person again. mopinko Sep 2022 #24

Well said. StarryNite Sep 2022 #43

I loved my brother piddyprints Sep 2022 #74

My youngest sister died in 2005 malaise Sep 2022 #84

What a wonderful gift! piddyprints Sep 2022 #96

We never forget those we love or those malaise Sep 2022 #97

I agree. I use "die." MineralMan Sep 2022 #23

You know that to be true for everyone? Sogo Sep 2022 #36

I think it depends. calimary Sep 2022 #52

Well said. Sogo Sep 2022 #60

Thanks. I think you have to think of the survivors and how THEY'RE feeling. calimary Sep 2022 #67

Except the poem is Danascot Sep 2022 #80

Certainly one of the great quotes. calimary Sep 2022 #91

I said what I do and what I think. MineralMan Sep 2022 #68

Why does it matter? BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #25

Agree. obnoxiousdrunk Sep 2022 #27

+1 chowder66 Sep 2022 #41

Agree StarryNite Sep 2022 #45

Exactly. Sogo Sep 2022 #58

I'm with you. I loathe euphemisms for 'dead' or 'died'. Aristus Sep 2022 #26

My mum used to tell us that she'd come back and haunt us if we ever put malaise Sep 2022 #95

I always thought if it as compassion toward the family and friends of the deceased In It to Win It Sep 2022 #28

You think they don't know their loved one is malaise Sep 2022 #31

Recommended. H2O Man Sep 2022 #29

Great post malaise Sep 2022 #30

In my will, H2O Man Sep 2022 #48

That's very cool malaise Sep 2022 #86

Why do so many people like to shit on what others do for comfort? LexVegas Sep 2022 #32

This. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #49

+1. n/t obnoxiousdrunk Sep 2022 #57

Good question. n/t demmiblue Sep 2022 #62

I don't get it either. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2022 #33

It's often painful to think of those whom you love in terms of their death. Sogo Sep 2022 #34

I lost my grandfather when I was 8 and my father when I was 10. TNNurse Sep 2022 #35

In my will, I have left instructions to find your resting place and carve a stone... Hermit-The-Prog Sep 2022 #37

Jeanne Robertson, a southern woman who was a speaker and humorist Tadpole Raisin Sep 2022 #38

Great story! cksmithy Sep 2022 #66

Nice post malaise Sep 2022 #87

My brother bought a casket before he died and asked if he could have his picture made... 40RatRod Sep 2022 #39

My Father discouraged the use of the word "passed" Stuckinthebush Sep 2022 #40

Saying "Jesus DIED for our sins" sounds better to the gullible, sky-fairy-tale evangelicals than TeamProg Sep 2022 #103

The only thing I fear is pain. Will it be a painful death Emile Sep 2022 #42

They didn't die they moved on. Sentient beings do not die, their physical bodies stop working. Dysfunctional Sep 2022 #47

I've wondered the same, I am quite merciless in using "to die." malthaussen Sep 2022 #50

My girlfriend is a southern black woman. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #53

Some people think they will live forever. pwb Sep 2022 #54

Charles Frohman, producer of Peter Pan, and who died on the Lusitania, had the best dying words BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #63

I am OK knowing that I have fewer years ahead than behind.😀 malaise Sep 2022 #89

The answer is obvious to even the least skilled in social graces: TeamProg Sep 2022 #55

This. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #73

You're right! The connotation of words can carry far more than their literal meaning. Tadpole Raisin Sep 2022 #99

Dark Frost on TikTok tells the story MadScot Sep 2022 #56

That is brilliant malaise Sep 2022 #90

One of my pet peeves too Hamlette Sep 2022 #59

Because death is abrupt and final. canuckledragger Sep 2022 #61

Only the date malaise Sep 2022 #92

Is it really a problem? Brainfodder Sep 2022 #64

I often us the word. However, I think it's a little harsh for a spouse or child of someone who just Martin68 Sep 2022 #65

I was in the insurance business for most of my working life. gibraltar72 Sep 2022 #69

Well I'll happily eventually escape the question itself. NNadir Sep 2022 #70

Serious question. BlackSkimmer Sep 2022 #71

I don't get it either. piddyprints Sep 2022 #72

Whistling past the graveyard NT bigtime Sep 2022 #75

malaise, I was just thinking of an adjacent issue. skip fox Sep 2022 #76

You mean you didn't see that bright light.? malaise Sep 2022 #88

I say passed, bucause that is exactly what I believe happens CanonRay Sep 2022 #78

Energy is neither created nor destroyed. I sort of look forward to Backseat Driver Sep 2022 #79

I believe we leave some of our energy with family and those we touched along the way malaise Sep 2022 #94

I dunno. Why do people have to post hurricane forecasts on a political board Thtwudbeme Sep 2022 #93

I believe it is to soften a very painful loss Meowmee Sep 2022 #100

Part of what I do is talk about death Maeve Sep 2022 #101

Fascinating malaise Sep 2022 #102

I agree with you. llmart Sep 2022 #104

I don't plan to have a long and drawn out malaise Sep 2022 #105

Agree. llmart Sep 2022 #106

K&R spanone Sep 2022 #107

I go the other way. KentuckyWoman Sep 2022 #108

Is "deceased" okay? ShazzieB Sep 2022 #109