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55. Please don't ever "meekly admit" that you were a stay at home mom.

Fri Nov 4, 2022, 06:37 PM

Nov 2022

I don't care how many years someone accumulated in a paying job. This isn't a competition. I was a stay at home mom for 14 years, 4 of which I went to college full time/year round while raising my two children, graduating summa cum laude with two degrees and a 4.0 average. I was married to someone who made a decent living, but his job required us to relocate twice - pick up the family and move to other states. I always cared more about my children than money and things. I also thought that them seeing me work as hard as I did to get those degrees set the example for them of how important education and study was.

Once they were both old enough to stay home alone, did get a full time job and worked until I was 69. I also did lots and lots of volunteer jobs and I still volunteer. As I said, I was never driven by money or things.

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OK let's hear from you geezers [View all] Skittles Nov 2022 OP

Sounds like me Freddie Nov 2022 #1

Similar story. I'm 65. TomSlick Nov 2022 #94

Not me. No how. No way. scarletlib Nov 2022 #2

yeah well Skittles Nov 2022 #6

That's on top of a 40+ hour per week paying job for nearly 40 yrs. scarletlib Nov 2022 #27

but a lot of us gals have Skittles Nov 2022 #110

So like me you have had the equivalent of 2 jobs + per years. It's what we do. scarletlib Nov 2022 #115

Valuable hard work lostnfound Nov 2022 #24

Working since 1972, starting as a medical file clerk. no_hypocrisy Nov 2022 #3

About the same here. pwb Nov 2022 #4

With all those quarters of work, you should get a nice check... brush Nov 2022 #5

Fifty-three years for me when I retired in 2016 Glorfindel Nov 2022 #7

Female Boomer magicksmom Nov 2022 #8

40 years zipplewrath Nov 2022 #9

I have a long-frozen pension Skittles Nov 2022 #16

I have a pension also with no COLA. My pension has doc03 Nov 2022 #22

Congratulations! spooky3 Nov 2022 #10

I worked 34 years. MLAA Nov 2022 #11

50 years here too. 2naSalit Nov 2022 #12

we do what we have to do Skittles Nov 2022 #18

I wore out... 2naSalit Nov 2022 #25

I worked full time from 18 to 62 44 years. doc03 Nov 2022 #13

1965 Turbineguy Nov 2022 #14

I can't quite beat your record, Skittles Trailrider1951 Nov 2022 #15

Tax year 2022 will make it ... Auggie Nov 2022 #17

I've been working full time without a break since I was 16. SlimJimmy Nov 2022 #19

I'm a slacker. And a woman. I guess that makes me a female slacker. catbyte Nov 2022 #20

I do love your steady stream of hot men who love animals Skittles Nov 2022 #59

After reading your post, I need to take a nap Kaleva Nov 2022 #21

My 28 yrs pale in comparison. Need a nap. childfreebychoice Nov 2022 #31

I don't like to work. WhiskeyGrinder Nov 2022 #23

I've never drawn unemployment...EVER. roamer65 Nov 2022 #26

Same Here ProfessorGAC Nov 2022 #36

I too have never drawn unemployment Skittles Nov 2022 #97

I wish I could say the same, but I started working full time in the 80s Genki Hikari Nov 2022 #107

53 F TalenaGor Nov 2022 #28

Well, I certainly can't beat that, MarineCombatEngineer Nov 2022 #29

You win ! dweller Nov 2022 #30

I Only Paid In... ProfessorGAC Nov 2022 #32

When I started working (OK, I did a little tutoring before this) usonian Nov 2022 #33

Started working at 15 after school. Retired at 66 -- half a century. Am female. allegorical oracle Nov 2022 #34

I can't beat that. barbtries Nov 2022 #35

Hugs for you 🤗 Deuxcents Nov 2022 #61

Thank you. barbtries Nov 2022 #102

I think you did beat that Skittles Nov 2022 #96

Compared to most.... SergeStorms Nov 2022 #37

I worked full time from age 18 to 66, it was about 150 years. Chainfire Nov 2022 #38

Can't beat your total Ananda62 Nov 2022 #39

48 years work, 45 years full time, appx 1 year's worth of unemployment in there. haele Nov 2022 #40

46 years Wild blueberry Nov 2022 #41

I lose big time! Mossfern Nov 2022 #42

Can you also get your husband's social security? XanaDUer2 Nov 2022 #49

As I understand it, you get to choose the amount you've earned on your own account pnwmom Nov 2022 #88

Geez XanaDUer2 Nov 2022 #89

This is how I remember it from my parents. As a homemaker, Mom was getting pnwmom Nov 2022 #90

Ah, got it nt XanaDUer2 Nov 2022 #91

Please don't ever "meekly admit" that you were a stay at home mom. llmart Nov 2022 #55

don't let others put you down Skittles Nov 2022 #58

I am looking at this from the other side of the fence. I'm proud that we were able to raise our- The Polack MSgt Nov 2022 #71

or you WIN big time! Skittles Nov 2022 #100

I can't beat ellie Nov 2022 #43

This message was self-deleted by its author debm55 Nov 2022 #44

I started working in 1972 but only doing occasional part-time jobs FakeNoose Nov 2022 #45

I had 50 years, took 2 years on a sabbatical when we adopted our son. So those 2 years don't count. debm55 Nov 2022 #46

Does living in this schizophrenic country Mblaze Nov 2022 #47

Fifty one. IzzaNuDay Nov 2022 #48

Only 49 years, including two years military (I don't think I paid into SS while serving). JustABozoOnThisBus Nov 2022 #50

I've worked since I was 14 markodochartaigh Nov 2022 #51

Been working since June 1968. Scalded Nun Nov 2022 #52

I worked 45 years but gab13by13 Nov 2022 #53

it's based on your 35 years of highest earnings Skittles Nov 2022 #63

I'll be 69 in a few months and it will be... S/V Loner Nov 2022 #54

Hi, Skittles. First part time job at 17, but worked full time 18 to 69, so 51 years total, but txwhitedove Nov 2022 #56

The lurking repukes already fuck themselves voting repuke. Niagara Nov 2022 #57

43 Years (3 Army), not even close HAB911 Nov 2022 #60

I have 52 years of earnings and I am female. Hamlette Nov 2022 #62

Almost continually employed since 15. I am 61 now. BMW2020RT Nov 2022 #64

I filed my first tax return in 71...but it was not "full time" employment... Sancho Nov 2022 #65

I am working at the SAME COMPANY since 1970 DeeDeeNY Nov 2022 #66

THAT is truly amazing Skittles Nov 2022 #70

I could do this only because I was allowed to work remotely DeeDeeNY Nov 2022 #75

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Nov 2022 #98

I am very sympathetic to my coworkers with kids Skittles Nov 2022 #99

52... Been working since I was 16 JT45242 Nov 2022 #67

Also 52 grantcart Nov 2022 #74

But the payout is average of top 35... JT45242 Nov 2022 #85

43 Years Nictuku Nov 2022 #68

that was quite a career ride! Skittles Nov 2022 #112

Got me beat.... paleotn Nov 2022 #69

54 years, all full time n/t Dale in Laurel MD Nov 2022 #72

My first reported wages are from 1968 EYESORE 9001 Nov 2022 #73

Because so many Boomers were out there looking for jobs, I took a job in a Catholic School. It was debm55 Nov 2022 #101

I can't beat it. I'm only on year 43. LudwigPastorius Nov 2022 #76

I started working at 16 oldtime dfl_er Nov 2022 #77

Fifty six years of paychecks for me. Grumpy Old Guy Nov 2022 #78

Filed my first tax return ggma Nov 2022 #79

Sounds like me... MiHale Nov 2022 #80

Oh, I can beat that easily! Aussie105 Nov 2022 #81

I am just getting started! GreenWave Nov 2022 #82

2 years US Army, 32 years full-time teaching, and 13 years as a substitute. 11 Bravo Nov 2022 #83

I stopped working 30 years ago this coming spring, so I probably am the biggest loser. 😉 Raftergirl Nov 2022 #84

Good on you, badass! I can't beat the work years, but I definitely could beat most geezer incomes. ancianita Nov 2022 #86

HA! Love your Special Note. I worked for 50 and figured that's enough. May do some more at some Evolve Dammit Nov 2022 #87

I'm 76, female, and still working, tavernier Nov 2022 #92

Worked full time from age 22 to 65. SharonClark Nov 2022 #93

omg don't get me started Skittles Nov 2022 #95

I started working at age 15 GenThePerservering Nov 2022 #103

54 years full time, including my time in the Navy plus 6 years part time as a young person. Stinky The Clown Nov 2022 #104

I lose out on a great deal of SS Genki Hikari Nov 2022 #105

BTW Genki Hikari Nov 2022 #106

to be clear Skittles Nov 2022 #109

I busted my ass, working for 48 years PlanetBev Nov 2022 #108

Give me 3 years. DFW Nov 2022 #111

55+ years here of contributions PCIntern Nov 2022 #113

I worked 46 years before I stopped being a wage slave! Emile Nov 2022 #114

Me, too, and thanks, Skittles, for this thread!! BComplex Nov 2022 #116

you're welcome! Skittles Nov 2022 #117