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WhiskeyGrinder

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1. There aren't any good or right answers here but the most useful thing would be to find out exactly

Reply to PA_jen (Original post)

Sat Nov 26, 2022, 01:07 PM

Nov 2022

what the latest will says and then come to terms with it, because you can't change it. You don't know what the stepmom said was true. The next talk that should happen is between your husband and his father. I have seen a similar situation unfold and it was painful and full of resentment, and being the bigger person and letting shit go isn't satisfying but is often the only option.

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My thanksgiving shock. [View all] PA_jen Nov 2022 OP

There aren't any good or right answers here but the most useful thing would be to find out exactly WhiskeyGrinder Nov 2022 #1

Couldn't have said it better SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2022 #2

My thinking that if Hubby's dad leaves him with 10% of the estate have that PA_jen Nov 2022 #4

Thank you. I know we can't change it. I was nervous to have PA_jen Nov 2022 #3

I would be fake nice to her esp around your husband's dad womanofthehills Nov 2022 #14

I find re-writing to be a big help -- by numbering Tetrachloride Nov 2022 #5

I think Pa Jen was hoping for advice on the will situation, not formatting 🙂. MLAA Nov 2022 #7

Prior to seeing a lawyer, i make sure of what i wrote Tetrachloride Nov 2022 #9

My opinion, like others, it hubby should respectfully talk to his dad alone. Just the two of them. MLAA Nov 2022 #6

He wants to make sure his Stepmother wasn't around and I didn't get a chance to say PA_jen Nov 2022 #10

You did the right thing, for sure, I meant for hubby to catch his dad alone now that he knows what MLAA Nov 2022 #11

Thanks. I know I have no say in what happens to the Will only that hubby share the PA_jen Nov 2022 #13

Well, in my opinion, you don't know what the will actually says, and so, I would actually (if SWBTATTReg Nov 2022 #8

It is my husband's father so my father-in-law. We don't know how much the will has been PA_jen Nov 2022 #12

Well, I've put any beefs aside and still hope that a very long way in the future Backseat Driver Nov 2022 #15

I am sorry. PA_jen Nov 2022 #17

Good luck! mnhtnbb Nov 2022 #16

Thank you. I know. PA_jen Nov 2022 #18

A similar thing happened when my dad passed years ago luv2fly Nov 2022 #19

In your situation I'd no doubt feel much the same, including Hortensis Dec 2022 #20