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yardwork

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64. I had the same reaction.
Thu Dec 22, 2022, 10:52 AM
Dec 2022

We all know that Covid disrupted social interactions, and it's certain that young people were/are greatly affected by that, during key developmental parts of their lives. A sophomore in college now had their junior year of HS abruptly truncated, Senior year of HS was probably fully virtual with few opportunities for social interaction, first year of college may have involved a hybrid of virtual/in-person classes, depending on the school. Add in the fact that this generation spends a huge amount of time online, engaging in social media, and it's obvious where problems might arise. My heart goes out to them.

But blaming it on MeToo seems off.

I wonder if this young man is suffering from depression or social anxiety. I would explore what he's feeling and experiencing, rather than blaming this on vague external factors. Find out what's going on with him.

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"Smart enough to be in college" is a pretty low bar... Wounded Bear Dec 2022 #1
Yeah, no bar scene. Not old enough yet. tavernier Dec 2022 #7
it depends on the college NJCher Dec 2022 #49
And how much does the percentage rise for 'legacy' applications from wealthy alumni? nt Wounded Bear Dec 2022 #61
hahah NJCher Dec 2022 #62
To the extent that it is true, it won't last. Don't forget Covid set some new Bernardo de La Paz Dec 2022 #2
i know someone with two kids in college, the younger one started at the onset of Covid Rhiannon12866 Dec 2022 #43
When karaoke is able to start up Captain Zero Dec 2022 #96
It's prob true to some extent bucolic_frolic Dec 2022 #3
Not if you've laid groundwork and treat people as people. Yeah, don't open with "you're cute" Bernardo de La Paz Dec 2022 #6
well, I was an expert at meeting the opposite sex NJCher Dec 2022 #50
As a male who grew up around other males, "Hello" is a pretty good pickup line for girls to use. PurgedVoter Dec 2022 #111
Girls just wanna' have fun NJCher Dec 2022 #129
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Dec 2022 #4
He was a nice guy. Reminds me of this Rodney Dangerfield bit. TheBlackAdder Dec 2022 #42
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Dec 2022 #46
My son has met a lot of girls in College. onecaliberal Dec 2022 #5
So no social gatherings, friend groups, parties? elias7 Dec 2022 #8
Meet people with similar interests vlyons Dec 2022 #9
Exactly. Join 2-3 groups Tetrachloride Dec 2022 #35
This is not what I have heard from college students in my life. And frankly, him pegging it to WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #10
Sounds like a Hannity guest "story" Effete Snob Dec 2022 #12
Right? Tree-Hugger Dec 2022 #22
Gonna say the same thing. Went to Rutgers for continuing ed, and that wasn't what I noticed. TheBlackAdder Dec 2022 #45
+1, uponit7771 Dec 2022 #52
beware Skittles Dec 2022 #54
I had the same reaction. yardwork Dec 2022 #64
Send him out to here to UCSB in Santa Barbara. Kids partying in the street and hook up central ZonkerHarris Dec 2022 #112
Sounds like a right wing grievance propaganda story Effete Snob Dec 2022 #11
Sounds implausible. enough Dec 2022 #13
Universities have lots of clubs, especially in business schools. I don't spooky3 Dec 2022 #14
Not from my observations Lemonwurst Dec 2022 #15
Doesn't sound right to me Jilly_in_VA Dec 2022 #16
You know what? Effete Snob Dec 2022 #17
Yep. Citing #MeToo is a warning sign IMO. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #20
Yep Effete Snob Dec 2022 #24
I'm curious why people are reccing this thread. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #27
I get your point, but this term is still used spooky3 Dec 2022 #36
How big a deal is that to a college sophomore? Effete Snob Dec 2022 #38
I recently retired from a top university and spooky3 Dec 2022 #40
Yes Effete Snob Dec 2022 #41
100% agree with both of you obamanut2012 Dec 2022 #31
This, I think, is the most important reply in the thread. I beg the OP to pay heed to it. n/t Mister Ed Dec 2022 #25
If the OP wasn't tavernier... Effete Snob Dec 2022 #28
Seconded mahina Dec 2022 #32
Well said. chia Dec 2022 #33
Strikes me that way too. hunter Dec 2022 #48
Yes. And he could be introverted treestar Dec 2022 #69
Does he attend a Christian college? Bobstandard Dec 2022 #18
Perhaps he's smart enough to know when to keep his social life private? Freethinker65 Dec 2022 #19
I worked with college kids for 25 years. LakeArenal Dec 2022 #21
Is he a Trumper? Besides grievance incels, they're the only ones that seem to be struggling Arazi Dec 2022 #23
I could buy this if he lives off campus TheFarseer Dec 2022 #26
I commuted and lived on campus Effete Snob Dec 2022 #29
No, this isn't true at all obamanut2012 Dec 2022 #30
Not true at all. Go to any college town and you can easily JI7 Dec 2022 #34
The "blame feminists" (MeToo) for the "lack of hooking-up" framing just signals something for me JHB Dec 2022 #37
Nope, I have a kid in college and she's met Luciferous Dec 2022 #39
A few random thoughts Lithos Dec 2022 #44
Men with his attitude toward the Me, too movement may turn off pnwmom Dec 2022 #47
As a college professor, I can say that I see no lessening of social interactions. Coventina Dec 2022 #51
Same, at both a university here in the US and one in England. róisín_dubh Dec 2022 #115
Sounds like he's in the wrong place. GoodRaisin Dec 2022 #53
What is his living situation? If he's living in a fraternity pnwmom Dec 2022 #55
I wish I could help, but I'm just too far removed by now DFW Dec 2022 #56
If he blames MeToo as the reason for not meeting girls, bdjhawk Dec 2022 #57
Too harsh and not nearly enough info to ascribe such a nasty pejorative? Hortensis Dec 2022 #75
The movement against rape culture/sexual abuse/harassment is preventing your grandson from meeting Solly Mack Dec 2022 #58
I think Dorian Gray Dec 2022 #59
Thank you for all the responses. Very Helpful. tavernier Dec 2022 #60
A person doesn't have to be "a Trumper" or "an incel" to adopt cultural cues that are rooted in WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #66
Your grandson's a late bloomer? shrike3 Dec 2022 #76
I was an engineering major my first two years in college. hunter Dec 2022 #93
It's not Me Too Mr. Ected Dec 2022 #63
Thanks. tavernier Dec 2022 #68
My step-nephew said something similar about his son and his son's friends. shrike3 Dec 2022 #77
Egads! If you ever encounter some stranger who is "looking for a soulmate," RUN AWAY!!! hunter Dec 2022 #92
Is it possible that maybe your grandson isn't interested in meeting girls FakeNoose Dec 2022 #65
No, he's not gay. Wouldn't matter to entire family tavernier Dec 2022 #67
The incel movement is a symptom of something wrong in our society Calculating Dec 2022 #70
"Not saying it's women's fault, but.." LOL n/t leftstreet Dec 2022 #71
Did you even read the message Calculating Dec 2022 #73
Amen to that last. It's real, it's tragic, and it's destabilizing society. Hortensis Dec 2022 #85
So before MeToo, men had no problems getting dates? leftstreet Dec 2022 #94
Possible it could be because they suck. And the me to thing is a re d flag. Demsrule86 Dec 2022 #116
There's not something wrong. Women's rights have evolved such that they don't need to rely on men WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #78
You must realize the implications of that though Calculating Dec 2022 #86
It's definitely an issue, and our culture reinforces the idea that there's someone for everyone, WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #91
Some freshmen have a rough adjustment period. Mine did. And now she's making friends everywhere she lindysalsagal Dec 2022 #72
His best bet is probably to make friends w/ some of the local male students MissMillie Dec 2022 #74
As a culture, we're losing our ability to socialize Yavin4 Dec 2022 #79
"MOST daters say their dating lives aren't going well and it's difficult to find Hortensis Dec 2022 #80
Yes, and I think I'm also viewing it from the lens of tavernier Dec 2022 #83
Lol, QUITE varied. Including the impressions given Hortensis Dec 2022 #87
This message was self-deleted by its author Mosby Dec 2022 #88
It's a (not so "Brave) new World" nt Prairie_Seagull Dec 2022 #81
It's all dating apps now. Nobody under 30 seems to just meet each other and ask Wingus Dingus Dec 2022 #82
What I've heard from younger people as well. shrike3 Dec 2022 #120
My son attended community college first. When he transferred to a large university helpisontheway Dec 2022 #84
My oldest started college before the pandemic Bettie Dec 2022 #89
I would HATE to go to college in the current times. Sounds like a truly aweful place to be. beaglelover Dec 2022 #90
Does Anyone Read This RobinA Dec 2022 #95
lol what WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #98
I frequently bash white males and I am one. hunter Dec 2022 #100
Not an uncommon way to feel for many young guys. MineralMan Dec 2022 #97
Diabolical, dear MM. tavernier Dec 2022 #104
I suppose so, but the principle is still the same. MineralMan Dec 2022 #113
My second serious girlfriend was my study partner. hunter Dec 2022 #108
Yup. Opportunities come to those who are patient. MineralMan Dec 2022 #114
My husband said reading a book was the best way to meet women ever. shrike3 Dec 2022 #118
He was right, I think. MineralMan Dec 2022 #119
As a female, I've had the same experience. shrike3 Dec 2022 #121
LOL! There's that, too, I suppose. MineralMan Dec 2022 #122
Delightful. My husband needed similar encouragement. shrike3 Dec 2022 #123
When shy people meet... MineralMan Dec 2022 #124
If he is athletic, suggest joining the cheer squad. SYFROYH Dec 2022 #99
Recreational Coed Softball. hunter Dec 2022 #102
That's a good choice, too! SYFROYH Dec 2022 #103
Your grandson is buying into a lie pfitz59 Dec 2022 #101
Well, now you've done it. BradAllison Dec 2022 #105
Impossible. tavernier Dec 2022 #106
I think most of us were nice enough saying it's NOT "Me too" or "Social Media." hunter Dec 2022 #109
Poor kid GusBob Dec 2022 #107
You've obviously never seen me first thing in the morning tavernier Dec 2022 #110
It's not. It's really not. W_HAMILTON Dec 2022 #117
Sounds like he has been watching too much Fox News Buckeyeblue Dec 2022 #125
He would rather have a root canal. tavernier Dec 2022 #128
Huh... My daughter hasn't had trouble meeting guys... Happy Hoosier Dec 2022 #126
My granddaughter went to Uni in Cinci tavernier Dec 2022 #127
My son started graduate school at a new university. NNadir Dec 2022 #130
I've found it's very hard to meet women outside of dating sites. Rizen Dec 2022 #131
That's basically what my gs says. tavernier Dec 2022 #132
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