You will not believe what my in laws did before dinner.

[wnylib]

43. I can understand that.

My first husband's father was an obnoxious misogynist. One day during dinner at their house which included my husband's brothers and their wives, my former FIL made such a disgusting misogynistic comment that could have been meant for me that I got up without a word and walked out the door.

The rest of his family always got silent for a few minutes after such comments and then changed the subject. I had had it and could not just sit there.

They thought that I would cool off and come back later with apologies for disrupting the meaI, but I did not. I was walking home, which was on the other side of the city. My husband came after me with the car and wanted me to go back with him. I refused. He followed me with the car for a while and then promised to drive me home, which he did. (I threatened to jump out of the moving car if he started back to his parents' house.)

I never ate there again. My in-laws called to ask when I would apologize and attend the next family dinner. I said, "Never. HE owes ME an apology, but I still will never eat there again." I never did.