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77. When our kids were young, a friend of ours, whose...

Reply to Algernon Moncrieff (Original post)

Fri Feb 10, 2023, 09:03 PM

Feb 2023

…kids were the same age, once said, “It’s your job as a parent to civilize your children so other people can stand to be around them.” I agree with her. She is one of 11 children. I suspect her mom didn’t take any crap.

Parents have many jobs. This is one of them.

(I’m happy to say that she was not directing her remarks specially to me.)

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A New Jersey restaurant is refusing service to children 10 and under [View all] Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 OP

What about RWNJs in NJ who think like little children? GreenWave Feb 2023 #1

They dine in Bedminster, no? Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #29

Children under 10 are not a protected class. tritsofme Feb 2023 #2

So, in theory, I could say no one 55 or older can come into my restaurant Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #6

Actually senior citizens are a protected class ripcord Feb 2023 #10

For employment purposes, I'd agree. In terms of public accommodation, that is less clear. Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #19

There are plenty of places that cater to families and children ripcord Feb 2023 #28

If the operation is principally a bar, most would certainly allow a restriction Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #36

Public accommodation doesn't mean they gave to include everyone ripcord Feb 2023 #41

Hey, you got something there Effete Snob Feb 2023 #62

Business opportunity???? yagotme Feb 2023 #97

True treestar Feb 2023 #112

I suggest that a venue is free, other than restrictions to a protected class... discntnt_irny_srcsm Feb 2023 #75

No, they can vote Effete Snob Feb 2023 #55

only if children under 10 are a protected class DBoon Feb 2023 #3

In NJ, this will be allowed. I took my kids to several restaurants that catered to adults and teens. TheBlackAdder Feb 2023 #58

. Effete Snob Feb 2023 #4

My small ladies are grown now Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #11

I would do the same as the wife/mother in my family Bettie Feb 2023 #64

Surely they consulted counsel bucolic_frolic Feb 2023 #5

You'd think Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #8

You assume that not allowing children under 10 wnylib Feb 2023 #46

If the couple has money and can find a sitter - sure Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #115

If parents can afford to buy dinners for themselves and wnylib Feb 2023 #117

I for one would enjoy child free dining options ripcord Feb 2023 #7

Agreed. I hope that this is a trend Xavier Breath Feb 2023 #15

You could always eat at home edisdead Feb 2023 #43

? 2naSalit Feb 2023 #57

I'm hearing it in Frau Blucher's voice. Xavier Breath Feb 2023 #81

... 2naSalit Feb 2023 #86

And so can people with under-10 children jmowreader Feb 2023 #60

So could people with kids. BannonsLiver Feb 2023 #107

I am not flexing anything but cool buzzword edisdead Feb 2023 #111

Way to miss the point. BannonsLiver Feb 2023 #118

What point was missed? edisdead Feb 2023 #119

Agreed Amishman Feb 2023 #70

YES! I would definitely patronize child-free restaurants. Coventina Feb 2023 #18

I left a restaurant once because of a screaming infant lindysalsagal Feb 2023 #104

Same. Take the kiddos to chukkie cheese. we can do it Feb 2023 #26

Same here. 2naSalit Feb 2023 #47

I used to live in Del Ray -- a neighborhood in Alexandria, VA. 10 years ago Raine1967 Feb 2023 #9

My favorite Japanese place has been RUINED by little kids. Coventina Feb 2023 #20

I'm sorry your favorite place was ruined for you. Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #38

+1 betsuni Feb 2023 #49

Good. NJ parents should tell their kids to sit down, eat, and STFU in restaurants AllTooEasy Feb 2023 #12

I hear you. Here is the solution. Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #13

The problem with kicking them out, those would be the very parents to make a big stink and Bev54 Feb 2023 #16

Agreed. blue neen Feb 2023 #17

You tell your kids to STFU? edisdead Feb 2023 #45

some need to be told that. FoxNewsSucks Feb 2023 #56

Actually, no they do not edisdead Feb 2023 #89

Message auto-removed Name removed Feb 2023 #120

NJ parents GusBob Feb 2023 #101

I have two minds on this, I have grandchildren and like to dine out with them, Bev54 Feb 2023 #14

Same here........ and besides, we need to teach the children how to behave in public. secondwind Feb 2023 #23

Unfortunately it seems it is the parents that need to be taught. Bev54 Feb 2023 #27

I would also like to point out that parents sometimes get babysitters to go out alone. Raine1967 Feb 2023 #21

FOR THOSE OF YOU ANGERED BY THIS: Consider this - what is the restaurant's Coventina Feb 2023 #22

It would be an insurance matter. Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #24

I don't see anyone in the thread who is at all angered by this Effete Snob Feb 2023 #25

I believe liability insurance is required. But why should a restaurant have to be liable Coventina Feb 2023 #30

Lol - Good thing no adult ever got drunk and crashed their car Effete Snob Feb 2023 #50

No, my point is that I've seen children create safety hazards in restaurants. Coventina Feb 2023 #84

And, yet, drunk patrons generate more claims Effete Snob Feb 2023 #87

The more claims the higher the rates. nt Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #31

Yes, and? Effete Snob Feb 2023 #51

And what? nt Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #67

These are the top five reasons restaurants get sued Effete Snob Feb 2023 #69

How many of those slip and falls were due to a child Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #71

Near the fryer? Effete Snob Feb 2023 #76

I noticed it said workers comp claims which wouldn't include Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #85

This is true of airlines, as well. old as dirt Feb 2023 #79

There's no such thing as a child's seat on a domestic flight.nt Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #83

I rarely fly domestically, except to connect with international flights. (nt) old as dirt Feb 2023 #88

A hair salon and day spa in my area was sued by a parent. A young child was running around shrike3 Feb 2023 #99

Seems reasonable. I remember places in NYC didn't serve kids. SYFROYH Feb 2023 #32

Legal, at least federally. State or local laws could vary DetroitLegalBeagle Feb 2023 #33

As an ex-waitress I would have loved to work someplace Phoenix61 Feb 2023 #34

+1 2naSalit Feb 2023 #54

I suddenly remembered a story my sister told me when she was a waitress. betsuni Feb 2023 #61

OMG. I waitressed through high school and college. I have a thousand Scrivener7 Feb 2023 #95

Why do people bring children to weddings? Effete Snob Feb 2023 #96

I loved my child and nieces and nephews when they were little.. Peacetrain Feb 2023 #35

Is this a frequent problem? Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #37

Rarely do I eat a meal without at least one child screaming. Coventina Feb 2023 #39

Try a whole table full of screaming children right next to ours. shrike3 Feb 2023 #100

I don't eat out frequently, but I can't remember the last time I experienced this issue. demmiblue Feb 2023 #44

Depends on the restaurant. I eat out a few times a week. Some restaurants Scrivener7 Feb 2023 #94

Same edisdead Feb 2023 #48

I know right? Effete Snob Feb 2023 #52

It's not about a problem, it is about choice. Raine1967 Feb 2023 #53

Yup Effete Snob Feb 2023 #78

This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver Feb 2023 #110

I suspect that this is a last ditch effort GenThePerservering Feb 2023 #40

No: not arbitrary. brooklynite Feb 2023 #42

I wish more places would do that FoxNewsSucks Feb 2023 #59

I would think no more discriminatory than age/height requirements at amusement parks Torchlight Feb 2023 #63

We have one of these in a Charlotte suburb and it is popular. People love them. JoanofArgh Feb 2023 #65

Liability issues. A local restaurant was sued because someone's "little angel" tripped a server haele Feb 2023 #66

Same thing in our area, except at a hair salon. shrike3 Feb 2023 #102

I dunno. Spaghetti is pretty messy but isn't it like ecstatic Feb 2023 #68

Every kind of discrimination is on the legal table with this SCOTUS! nt Samrob Feb 2023 #72

Cheapest spaghetti is twenty dollars a plate. Unless child appreciates $18 parmigiana reggiano betsuni Feb 2023 #73

It's because parents let their crotch goblins DenaliDemocrat Feb 2023 #74

If the kids are still breastfeeding it's okay Effete Snob Feb 2023 #80

Crotch goblins!!!! I am so stealing that!!! Coventina Feb 2023 #82

When our kids were young, a friend of ours, whose... 3catwoman3 Feb 2023 #77

I'm not sure why anyone would be bothered by child free restuarants ripcord Feb 2023 #90

I would have been much more explicit about how shitty other parents were ruining things for RockRaven Feb 2023 #91

I live on a lake in a resort town, so we get plenty of families with young phylny Feb 2023 #92

You've just gotten lucky. BannonsLiver Feb 2023 #108

The worst behaved people I ever saw in restaurants were all adults JCMach1 Feb 2023 #93

+1 demmiblue Feb 2023 #98

Actually, when we were in Guadalajara, we were impressed at how well behaved shrike3 Feb 2023 #103

Most don't like out of control children nini Feb 2023 #114

If children are not a protected class without rights GusBob Feb 2023 #105

A couple of days ago during the Hunter laptop hearings Joey the scar said that twitter was a Hotler Feb 2023 #106

My goodness, an Olive Garden thread Hekate Feb 2023 #109

When you are at DU, you're family Algernon Moncrieff Feb 2023 #116

I looked this place up..I don't blame them nini Feb 2023 #113

Message auto-removed Name removed Feb 2023 #121

I don't remember Meowmee Feb 2023 #122

Would it turn people off if the sign read, "The only children allowed in are those on the menu." friend of a friend Feb 2023 #123