I don't want to be identified by what body parts I have or don't have.

[meadowlander]

54. Expecting basic respect is a bridge too far?

If I know a Matthew who wants to be called Matt, I would never say "don't expect me to do the same! having to remember that one additional detail about you is just too much to expect! īf I do that, you'll never be satisfied and keep forcing me to learn and remember more things!"

If an individual person tells you their pronouns are "they" or different to the sex they were assigned at birth, how is that any different in terms of what they are asking you than someone who uses a nickname or who changed their surname when they got married?

What the trans-community in general has agreed is that people whose gender identity doesn't match the sex they were assigned at birth are trans. People who do are cis. If you want to clarify what kind of trans person they are, they can be a trans woman (assigned male at birth AMAB) or a trans man (assigned female at birth AFAB) or non-binary (AMAB or AFAB but not identifying strongly with either binary gender).

Cis men and trans men are both men. Cis women and trans women are both women. Nobody is saying if you are cis that you are not also a man or a woman. It's just a term to help clarify the different groups that sits under that larger term.