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Aristus

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20. What a monster. "IF I offended you..."

Reply to Maraya1969 (Reply #14)

Thu May 4, 2023, 09:38 PM

May 2023

Guy couldn’t even apologize like a man.

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TW (Rape). Explanation of No Screaming Or Yelling For Help [View all] usedtobedemgurl May 2023 OP

Good info! Karadeniz May 2023 #1

I confess, tazkcmo May 2023 #2

I am an advocate for survivors. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #3

Thank you for explaining this. I had the same response when I was molested by that minister Maraya1969 May 2023 #4

Words Fail Me.. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #12

Thank you so much. It was a long time ago and I have healed a lot. I even confronted the Maraya1969 May 2023 #14

What a monster. "IF I offended you..." Aristus May 2023 #20

Thanks for this! I got hit over the head (figuratively) for asking... LAS14 May 2023 #5

When you are not sure of an answer.... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #8

People respond to trauma in different ways. yardwork May 2023 #16

I 100% understand and sympathize. But the thing is, when you go to court ... Hugh_Lebowski May 2023 #6

You may be the messenger but you were the one who said it. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #9

Yeah, once again I agree ... But what I said about how it works in court is also true Hugh_Lebowski May 2023 #27

Each of the responses you mention get some rape victims killed. yardwork May 2023 #33

Look, I totally get why someone might not fight back or even say 'no, don't' Hugh_Lebowski May 2023 #35

The old legal standard of, "The only good rape victim is a dead one."?? niyad May 2023 #36

Man, an awful lot of words being put into my mouth on this thread I gotta say Hugh_Lebowski May 2023 #37

The reality is, that is still the mentality, and your whole point IS that that is niyad May 2023 #38

Carroll testified that she fought. She hit Trump. She kneed him. yardwork May 2023 #17

I never said she didn't ... the post was pretty generic so I replied in a generic fashion (nt) Hugh_Lebowski May 2023 #25

Like when animals and even people FREEZE when faced with sudden danger. Wednesdays May 2023 #7

Exactly! You get it!! Nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #10

Yep, we now understand it as "fight, flight, freeze or fawn" instead of just "fight or flight." WhiskeyGrinder May 2023 #11

I am truly glad a lot of people already know about the silence... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #13

We don't ask the victim of robbery if they fought the assailant to determine if they were robbed... Earthrise May 2023 #15

Many rapists do beat or kill their victims if they fight back. yardwork May 2023 #18

"Scream, and I'll kill you." Aristus May 2023 #19

If You Watch A Lot Of Rape Trials, You'll See...... ChoppinBroccoli May 2023 #21

K&R for the post and the discussion. crickets May 2023 #22

thank you. Behind the Aegis May 2023 #23

Selective mutism can also be a stress response. meadowlander May 2023 #24

It's my body's reaction when things happen Tree Lady May 2023 #26

My reaction JanLip May 2023 #39

Good for you! Tree Lady May 2023 #40

Important information, thanks so much for posting! Rhiannon12866 May 2023 #28

Thank you for this Withywindle May 2023 #29

Excellent post, thank you for putting words to my thoughts. chia May 2023 #30

K&R Solly Mack May 2023 #31

Response to trauma is different for everyone--physically and emotionally MissMillie May 2023 #32

Even absent this response, fear and shame can keep someone from yelling for help Johnny2X2X May 2023 #34