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58Sunliner

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164. Well said. This rape survivor did go to the police and they blamed me.

Reply to usedtobedemgurl (Original post)

Thu May 11, 2023, 09:39 PM

May 2023

I hope it's different now, but probably not. The socializing that we get, the hand-me-down messaging about rape and assault are a form of pre-conditioning that scars and traumatizes us. We doubt our own reality, the truth of the situation and it's intentional. It is violent, ugly and misogynistic. It's no accident. We survivors need to know that the internalized messaging will need to be overcome. The lie that we are somehow responsible for an act against us by a predator. We don't blame victims of other crimes do we?

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For Those Who Said To Wait To Condemn CNN Until After The Town Hall.... [View all] usedtobedemgurl May 2023 OP

I sent a scathing message to CNN. You should send one about this as well. hlthe2b May 2023 #1

I let them know what I think FoxNewsSucks May 2023 #4

that would be hard for me. AllaN01Bear May 2023 #43

It may be active but my ex husband would not help me usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #7

or just make another email and account? edisdead May 2023 #100

Well that is what I did. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #102

there ya go! edisdead May 2023 #103

I tried but Disaffected May 2023 #18

Give it another try. It just worked for me. catbyte May 2023 #53

OK, thanks, But now it goes to Disaffected May 2023 #57

We are very near the point The Grand Illuminist May 2023 #29

Thanks for the link to CNN! I was looking for it! lastlib May 2023 #31

I sent them a message last week, prior to the "town hall" event. Bluepinky May 2023 #41

The media not only prioritize making money above wnylib May 2023 #129

Thank you for the link. StarryNite May 2023 #51

Thank you for the link stage left May 2023 #72

I just sent my message. SunnyATT May 2023 #106

Thanks, done!! Pacifist Patriot May 2023 #134

Thanks for this link. PatrickforB May 2023 #152

Thank you for the link. llmart May 2023 #162

Well said. FoxNewsSucks May 2023 #2

Your OP is the most important read of today. Your straight forward no bullshit accounting and Ninga May 2023 #3

...K&R... spanone May 2023 #5

I'm with you all the way. God bless Joinfortmill May 2023 #6

Thank you! NT usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #111

Sounds like CNN gave trump everything except on-stage blowjobs. Paladin May 2023 #8

The very fact that they stacked the entire audience with fawning, cheering MAGAt scum put paid Celerity May 2023 #68

Safe to say that CNN should no longer be cited as a credible source here on DU? SledDriver May 2023 #9

Screw CNN, maybe they can hire all the cast offs of Fox DENVERPOPS May 2023 #87

K&R Blue Owl May 2023 #10

The damage is all to Trump. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #11

CNN should next televise a Russian Town Hall..... TheRealNorth May 2023 #12

I disagree... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #14

I'm sorry for your pain. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #15

Can you show me where it did damage to Trump? usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #22

"That's important". blue neen May 2023 #23

+1000 MrsCoffee May 2023 #28

+1000 BadgerMom May 2023 #35

+1000 Spazito May 2023 #34

+1 gazillion. progressoid May 2023 #44

Thank you. This is why rape survivors do not come forward. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #45

I'm sorry for what you have been through. blue neen May 2023 #64

And know them well! usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #66

There is a lot of those types of people here unfortunately. SunImp May 2023 #104

More and more as time goes on. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #105

+1000000000 FoxNewsSucks May 2023 #69

It is neither "tone-deaf" nor "cruel" to say that it is important that a sexual predator Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #85

Everyone, remember this user name. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #89

What you are saying simply isn't true. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #91

+1000 llmart May 2023 #160

Shameful. FoxNewsSucks May 2023 #76

CNN isn't right-wing media. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #81

What you have done is disrespectful. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #90

I've said nothing that is remotely disrespectful to you. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #92

THIS IS HOW RAIN DEFINES RESPECTFUL. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #94

I've said nothing that's remotely disrespectful to you. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #96

DU has an ignore feature. TwilightZone May 2023 #172

It was not suggested. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #182

That particular poster also thinks that CNN's Trump town hall was the best idea ever. TwilightZone May 2023 #185

Perhaps, but after calling him out, I hit ignore. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #186

If anyone gets on a jury for me reporting this person... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #95

If I may, I'd like to share the lyrics to a song I wrote that I think apply to this situation: Higherarky May 2023 #170

I love this. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #171

You're welcome Gurl. Higherarky May 2023 #173

Thank you. It is late at night and my usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #174

Hey Sis Higherarky May 2023 #177

Hi sis! usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #181

Here's a few more tries ... Higherarky May 2023 #184

No worries, I thought maybe with my brain injury I was not doing something right. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #187

So happy this troll was banned! budkin May 2023 #179

I totally agree with that. Good riddance! Nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #180

There appears to be a misunderstanding. crim son May 2023 #169

Your first phrase is the only thing that makes sense: it is vital that Trump never gains power again Ms. Toad May 2023 #117

We disagree. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #124

Just like Clinton's team was positively giddy over the Ms. Toad May 2023 #127

People crossed party lines Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #128

I know a number of people who crossed party lines in the primary Ms. Toad May 2023 #130

And I know many who sat out the General or voted Green and that did us in. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #133

Completely unrelated to the point. Ms. Toad May 2023 #136

Not a bit "unrelated." Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #137

The press is not doing their job by giving a dangerous right wing jerk Ms. Toad May 2023 #141

We have different opinions on the matter. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #142

I believe tfg was damaged. CNN let him show viewers who he is. Not their goal but housecat May 2023 #138

I think it was CNN's goal. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #139

That's what I thought. But they took a chance, and got backlash because it surprised people. housecat May 2023 #165

Yes, indeed MrsCheaplaugh May 2023 #168

... progressoid May 2023 #48

The damage was NOT all to Trump. blue neen May 2023 #30

Agreed. BadgerMom May 2023 #36

Not true in any fashion. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #37

Just stop. blue neen May 2023 #39

I back every reply to you... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #46

I'm sorry, but I don't think the metric by which Trump's on-air disaster should be measured Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #49

Ok, show me the data where it says, officially, usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #61

If he was spouting overt racism, would that have been good for democracy as well? JudyM May 2023 #148

Agree 100% PA Democrat May 2023 #50

I agree that Trump gained no supporters last night. Cuthbert Allgood May 2023 #70

Yep. Just A Box Of Rain May 2023 #73

Yes, that MAGA-stacked cheering audience really helped the objectivity... Silent3 May 2023 #101

Shown to who? people who lived on a desert island during his reign of terror in office? msfiddlestix May 2023 #161

Sadly there was collateral damage. A brave woman beat him in the court of public opinion and the housecat May 2023 #167

This guy is a troll that only responds to CNN threads budkin May 2023 #178

my letter (just emailed) to CNN UpInArms May 2023 #13

Thank you for writing to them. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #47

Catastrophic climate change will soon make this seem rinky dink Kaleva May 2023 #16

All life will struggle to adapt, and more species will become extinct. housecat May 2023 #20

Not sure how climate change makes my point irrelevant. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #24

+1 Hekate May 2023 #32

I've been preaching for years now here that we need to prepare Kaleva May 2023 #59

I apologize as coming across as callous Kaleva May 2023 #60

Wow! Spazito May 2023 #38

The point is that everything will get much worse no matter.... Kaleva May 2023 #55

The OP is about survivors of rape/sexual assault being... Spazito May 2023 #58

Please start your own thread about that. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #62

Thanks for the feedback link to CNN. I just used it SouthernDem4ever May 2023 #17

Excellent. You also summed up one of our biggest mistakes--"let's wait and see" housecat May 2023 #19

We are playing by one set of rules usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #26

Ear rules work housecat May 2023 #107

Maybe I knew this at one point... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #109

Well if you mean "playing it by ear" it's from music. A musician who doesn't rely on printed music housecat May 2023 #140

Ok, thank you. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #143

I too was sexually assaulted. I was knocked unconscious and ended up in the hospital Demsrule86 May 2023 #21

Therapy can be very important. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #25

You too. And thanks for this post. Demsrule86 May 2023 #71

Really glad you got help, Demsrule86. calimary May 2023 #147

This hurts my heart. The inhumanity, the depraved indifference. JudyM May 2023 #149

Trump Further Incriminated Himself Civilly And In All Three Ongoing Criminal Cases Against Him MayReasonRule May 2023 #27

I would like to say then it was worth it usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #33

CNN Is Owned By A Nazi Republican - Until We Outlaw The USA's Fascist Party They'll Spout Their Lies MayReasonRule May 2023 #40

While I Share Your Concerns Over... ProfessorGAC May 2023 #82

Ah, Thank You For That Insight, It Provides Perspective MayReasonRule May 2023 #122

This raises the potential benefit of expressing outrage to Vanguard as a large institutional owner. JudyM May 2023 #151

Could Be ProfessorGAC May 2023 #154

The article you posted lists them as the top institutional investor, over 200,000,000 shares. JudyM May 2023 #155

Yeah, I Saw That ProfessorGAC May 2023 #156

It's hard to bring pressure to bear on them, no doubt... JudyM May 2023 #157

Unfortunately ProfessorGAC May 2023 #158

always everything about himself the so and so. glad i didn't watch it. AllaN01Bear May 2023 #42

Many are missing the point LeeG65 May 2023 #52

That was not the point of my OP... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #54

Please go down to your local police station usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #77

I apologize LeeG65 May 2023 #163

First: hugs & solidarity. Second: before the night was thru, Biden's folks used a clip for an ad... Hekate May 2023 #56

No matter what we do on our side... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #63

Ooops, my brain injury strikes again... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #65

I believe you. Orrex May 2023 #67

Thank you! nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #145

What Trump did was so horrible. Farmer-Rick May 2023 #74

Thank you for this. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #79

K & R SunSeeker May 2023 #75

CNN Screwed Up NowISeetheLight May 2023 #78

They screwed up badly. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #80

Mailing Address NowISeetheLight May 2023 #84

The link is further up the replies. nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #97

One Thing That the E. Jean Carroll Verdict Really Made Crystal Clear to Me panfluteman May 2023 #83

Indeed. Women, generally, are not usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #88

K & R BadgerMom May 2023 #86

I surely hope you didn't see some of the posts yesterday. BlackSkimmer May 2023 #93

I missed that one. I am glad I did. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #98

I'm glad you did too, and I can assure you that most posters objected to that strenuously. BlackSkimmer May 2023 #108

Well, some women vote Republican. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #120

They sure do. BlackSkimmer May 2023 #123

I didn't think CNN H2O Man May 2023 #99

They heard he grabbed pussies... usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #113

Yes. H2O Man May 2023 #115

I am sorry I am so bitter about the normalization of rape. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #118

No. H2O Man May 2023 #131

Thank you for posting this.. Permanut May 2023 #110

Thank you, permanut. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #114

Trump does his defense attorneys no favors with town hall event LetMyPeopleVote May 2023 #112

It was done at the expense of women who have been usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #116

Thank you for doing this GeoWilliam750 May 2023 #150

Thank you! Nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #175

Who were the sponsers? 3825-87867 May 2023 #119

I wish I knew. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #121

Shame on CNN MustLoveBeagles May 2023 #125

Thank you! nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #126

I feel like we're reliving 2016 all over again. Initech May 2023 #132

in 2016 Putin put him in, and the media became his campaign ads. This time around I doubt housecat May 2023 #166

This message was self-deleted by its author Sogo May 2023 #135

In my mind, if someone makes jokes or off color comments about rape, it implies they think Ziggysmom May 2023 #144

Yes, I totally agree. I cannot imagine usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #176

My heart is breaking for you, and all survivors after that horror show. Standing niyad May 2023 #146

Thank you so much for continuing to talk GeoWilliam750 May 2023 #153

Thank you for your support. nt usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #159

Well said. This rape survivor did go to the police and they blamed me. 58Sunliner May 2023 #164

Such truth in your words. usedtobedemgurl May 2023 #183

Ahh, the old "just be patient, wait and see..." calimary May 2023 #188