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cynatnite

(31,011 posts) Mon Nov 12, 2012, 02:04 PM Nov 2012

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My daughter has been wearing the same clothes for two years... [View all]

Some of them are falling apart. She also has used cookware from Salvation Army. It's the same for her furniture. My grandson is out of his jeans. He needs new ones. My other grandchild is out of his coat and his clothes are getting tight. My son needs new shoes.

Money is tight. We don't have a lot.

Black Friday we will have two paychecks and the sales on that day offer what my family needs.

So, yes...I am shopping on black Friday because we will have the money. This will be their Christmas.

There will be no high ticket items or electronics like iPads, computers or TV's. This will be a shopping day to fill my family's needs.

Look down on me still? Fine. I don't care, but keep in mind who you are condeming when you look down on the morons who venture out on black Friday to shop.

Oh, my grandchildren might get 1 toy a piece under the tree...just more crap they don't need...right?

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My daughter has been wearing the same clothes for two years... [View all] cynatnite Nov 2012 OP

Honestly I needed to read this... BelleCarolinaPeridot Nov 2012 #1

Ditto. -nt CrispyQ Nov 2012 #55

But really, Black Friday to me is hocus-pocus, bait-and-switch..... marmar Nov 2012 #97

you may have that option dlwickham Nov 2012 #138

The option to pay less money? marmar Nov 2012 #145

Um... she needs the HappyMe Nov 2012 #152

What's the logic going shopping on the busiest day of the year? MynameisBlarney Nov 2012 #2

I shop thrift stores all year long. Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #14

Ah gotcha. MynameisBlarney Nov 2012 #18

The thing about going to stores Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #25

I hear ya. MynameisBlarney Nov 2012 #29

Once a year, HappyMe Nov 2012 #21

I grew up wearing hand-me-downs and thrift shop clothes. For Christmas, we got a whole Arkansas Granny Nov 2012 #59

Oh, not me! savebigbird Nov 2012 #103

Me too Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #38

I shop thrift stores all year long. AlbertCat Nov 2012 #62

Really makes those bargains a real steal. Ikonoklast Nov 2012 #87

Maybe because of both the bargains AND the excitement. People know their own stress levels. WinkyDink Nov 2012 #30

Wouldn't the logic be the biggest discounts of the year? ileus Nov 2012 #35

Good point. MynameisBlarney Nov 2012 #128

I haven't bought new clothes in more than a decade. Only thrift stores for me and my husband riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #45

Some stuff you just can't get at thrift stores nadine_mn Nov 2012 #65

Consignment shopping in Twin Cities mkultra321 Nov 2012 #118

I've gotten great deals on plus size clothes csziggy Nov 2012 #140

I concur about the thrift shops. I get most of my stuff at Goodwill anymore. maddiemom Nov 2012 #69

A local upscale department store here gives out $10 off any $10 purchase coupons... CoffeeCat Nov 2012 #79

Some might say ... GeorgeGist Nov 2012 #86

Thank you for sharing your negativity... CoffeeCat Nov 2012 #90

let us not be a douche to that poster... mmmkay? dionysus Nov 2012 #102

Some might say... Cal Carpenter Nov 2012 #123

And in saying so, advertise their fundamental lack of character. LanternWaste Nov 2012 #147

wow! color me impressed! renate Nov 2012 #101

Now that is squeezing a nickel until the buffalo poops dsc Nov 2012 #109

Maybe they would like to wear *Brand New* clothes for a change. barbiegeek Nov 2012 #94

I dont have a problem with Friday. I have, however, a problem with those stores who will open on Mass Nov 2012 #3

They won't have to "force" their employees to work. BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #13

Being so poorly paid that you can't afford to take a holiday off is pretty sad. kestrel91316 Nov 2012 #28

Back in the days of strong unions, CrispyQ Nov 2012 #53

I've known people with high hourly wages that LOVE to work Holidays... BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #81

Whilst still others love their families more than working, LanternWaste Nov 2012 #148

that's life. BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #150

Yep Hermit Extrovert Nov 2012 #64

that's what I thought too mrs_p Nov 2012 #107

if he starts at 11pm- at least he won't miss dinner with the family... BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #110

true mrs_p Nov 2012 #124

Yet people go to restaurants, emergency wards, churches, Do they think there are no employees there? WinkyDink Nov 2012 #33

Well, I worked on an account supporting a retailer. moriah Nov 2012 #39

That I agree with. democrattotheend Nov 2012 #92

I never go shopping on black Friday. RebelOne Nov 2012 #4

Just a thought. Chunk Nov 2012 #5

or even better... jollyreaper2112 Nov 2012 #6

or even better... SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2012 #10

Amen! OkieGranny Nov 2012 #16

It would be good to practice supporting others' choices, while also being able to enjoy our own BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2012 #42

on a public message board SemperEadem Nov 2012 #49

Understood SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2012 #52

Which seems to be a very attractively packaged way of rationalizing LanternWaste Nov 2012 #149

It's true that after Christmas is even cheaper, but when you have kids-- eridani Nov 2012 #108

I've definitely had better luck that way, and there aren't the crowds renate Nov 2012 #74

Depending on what Size her kids and grandkids need, you can't always find all available JI7 Nov 2012 #93

I have found many better deals after black Friday Angry Dragon Nov 2012 #7

May you find plenty and have plenty left! BlueToTheBone Nov 2012 #8

That was nicely said flygal Nov 2012 #68

You have NOTHING to apology for. Nothing. Here's to you and your family the best. Raster Nov 2012 #9

Thank you. HappyMe Nov 2012 #11

My family is exactly the same way. Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #12

You go ahead and do whatever you need to do. murielm99 Nov 2012 #15

"nobody else's business" = Pretty much my life's mantra. :-) WinkyDink Nov 2012 #34

I wore my 20 year old boots yesterday. Most of my clothes are 9 years old.. progressivebydesign Nov 2012 #17

my fairly well off step mother wanted a 'wish list' from me for Xmas NMDemDist2 Nov 2012 #24

Who has a right to criticize how others live their lives if they don't hurt anyone. hollysmom Nov 2012 #19

I'm still trying to get that train set put together. HopeHoops Nov 2012 #20

There is no need to apologize Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #22

When I was in HS my mom and I went shopping on T-giving. badhair77 Nov 2012 #23

When I as young, my mom shopped for years at the Salvation Army aint_no_life_nowhere Nov 2012 #26

I'm sure that this post is in response to mine in another thread... blueamy66 Nov 2012 #27

I shop every black Friday when I'm i the US malaise Nov 2012 #31

Try some second hand stores...they can have some really nice inexpensive things. Auntie Bush Nov 2012 #32

You do what you need to do. ceile Nov 2012 #36

Black Friday is traditional for us. Baitball Blogger Nov 2012 #37

Wow.... femrap Nov 2012 #40

Wow... HappyMe Nov 2012 #43

Nope... femrap Nov 2012 #51

eh, deleting Skittles Nov 2012 #104

No femrap Nov 2012 #111

see your DU mail Skittles Nov 2012 #112

You didn't read the OP carefully. ceile Nov 2012 #58

Go ahead femrap Nov 2012 #73

Again you didn't read what was written. ceile Nov 2012 #95

I thought the OP was a bit over the top.. nini Nov 2012 #88

I know... femrap Nov 2012 #100

Yikes. What the F is wrong with you? Ineeda Nov 2012 #139

Do I really need the femrap Nov 2012 #141

Yeah, you do need the sarcasm smilie. Ineeda Nov 2012 #142

Are you sitting at the Heritage femrap Nov 2012 #143

That's some pretty nasty condescending Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #126

+1000 1gobluedem Nov 2012 #131

No, I'm femrap Nov 2012 #133

I grew femrap Nov 2012 #132

You know what? Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #134

And I can understand femrap Nov 2012 #136

Why would anyone look down on you? Live and Learn Nov 2012 #41

I'm spending my money on small business Saturday SemperEadem Nov 2012 #44

Personally, my choice to avoid Black Friday madamesilverspurs Nov 2012 #46

The Legacy of Reaganomics and the George W. Bush Tax Cuts BanTheGOP Nov 2012 #47

Good luck! May the shopping gods smile on you nt riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #48

I am middle class, and get most of my clothes from local thrift shops adigal Nov 2012 #50

I'd never look down on you. I only hope you find the bargains that you seek (and deserve)... hlthe2b Nov 2012 #54

Personally, I prefer to stay home that day, but that's just me. SheilaT Nov 2012 #56

The problem I have with Black Friday is not people like you. Initech Nov 2012 #57

I have shopped at thrift stores for years. My favorite one has clothes for a buck on Sundays. Harriety Nov 2012 #60

DU rec... SidDithers Nov 2012 #61

My Christmas wish: protect our future Nov 2012 #63

+++ YES. Just had this thought too. An Exchange Forum? DirkGently Nov 2012 #80

There would probably need to be protect our future Nov 2012 #83

Or DU could just be the information clearinghouse. DirkGently Nov 2012 #98

Go to Wishadoo!! Manifestor_of_Light Nov 2012 #117

Dirk and Manifestor, good ideas. protect our future Nov 2012 #121

K&R. I'm very guilty of the rush to judgment about Black Friday Chorophyll Nov 2012 #66

How DARE you beam me up scottie Nov 2012 #67

+100 Liberal_in_LA Nov 2012 #144

! beam me up scottie Nov 2012 #146

Black Friday bargains Debau2005 Nov 2012 #70

I agree. I think Black Friday is hype to get people to spend the maximum KurtNYC Nov 2012 #120

Somebody givin' you shit? Iggo Nov 2012 #71

You have nothing to be ashamed of liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #72

Good for you guys. Most of that stuff is just hype. MissMarple Nov 2012 #75

yes my daughter has ordered her year book liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #77

Goodwill snort Nov 2012 #76

No one should look down on a shopper in need. The sales, though ... DirkGently Nov 2012 #78

How old are your grandkids cynatnite? Inexpensive toys can be the most fun. A deck of cards riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #82

I'm sorry people are thoughtless idiots, cynatnite. Whisp Nov 2012 #84

I have never looked down on anyone shopping the day after Thanksgiving SleeplessinSoCal Nov 2012 #85

Has Finger Wagging Season started ALREADY? Warren DeMontague Nov 2012 #89

I think we should all shop to the extent we can democrattotheend Nov 2012 #91

i think boycotts can be stupid as are the idiots lining up for the latest Iphone and other JI7 Nov 2012 #96

Most of the clothes I'm wearing right now are 5+ years old ... REP Nov 2012 #99

You know, REP... femrap Nov 2012 #113

I am sorry you are having a hard time. MadrasT Nov 2012 #105

Just looking at the ads it seems like basic stuff like clothing likesmountains 52 Nov 2012 #106

the ads mostly show the big ticket items, but things like clothing and non electronic toys go JI7 Nov 2012 #114

Also what happens is that these stores will have other stock that they have marked down... cynatnite Nov 2012 #115

YOU need to be one of the voices providing budgeting advice to the WH. DCKit Nov 2012 #116

If I knew how to reach you I'd give you a gift card to buy some things for your family LynneSin Nov 2012 #119

Ohhh cynatnite Helen Reddy Nov 2012 #122

I don't shop then because I hate the crowds, but I wish you much luck & may your $ go far! peacebird Nov 2012 #125

Black Friday is fine. Black Thanksgiving is not. budkin Nov 2012 #127

Socks & underwear new, JEB Nov 2012 #129

I have no problem with people shopping Black Friday. Chan790 Nov 2012 #130

May you find a parking spot close to where you'll be shopping, LibertyLover Nov 2012 #135

consumerism is a sick game. new is overrated. tho i need new long underwear. pansypoo53219 Nov 2012 #137

You can try for bargains on Black Friday Warpy Nov 2012 #151

Black Friday aside, can we help out some way? lonestarnot Nov 2012 #153