David Gergen-- "great men have affairs" ---Fuck you David!

[seabeyond]

114. a person is making the choice to hurt another person.

we do, or we dont.

it is a process. once you step over the line of can i.... it is a matter of convincing yourself you can. then comes excuses and validations in committing the behavior that will hurt another. it is a process. but, process it is.

it really bother me when people say, we are all capable. ya, we can all do it. doesn't mean we all would ever do it for any reason.

no different from when someone hits another. and they say, he/she lost it. not really. ever. their is a point when one decides.

i think it is about character.

i looked for a study that i had read recently where they exactly said, not about gender, about character. they had other indicators for strong character and lack of character. i couldnt find it.

but, just recently there was a study saying the majority of people that cheat, also had a parent that cheated. that is validation for behavior thru example.

it is like saying that 75-92% (depending on study) of women that get into prostitution were sexually abused as children.

not all that are sexually abused get into prostitution. but the vast majority in prostitution were abused.

the same with this. not all who had parents cheat. but, the majority that cheat had at least one parent that did.

i do not look at it as a moral issue. or religious right or wrong.

pragmatically.